After all, parents are our most important benefactors in this world. They brought us to this world and raised us. It can be said that without parents, we would not be today.

Introduction

We all know that as children, it is natural to provide support to parents. After all, parents are our most important benefactors in this world. They brought us to this world and raised us. It can be said that without parents, we would not be today.

So, when our parents are old, letting their parents enjoy their old age is also what we should do as children. Aunt Qin, 55, is a good-tempered person. She has always been very good at getting along with her relatives and friends around her. But what was surprising was that she was unwilling to support her biological father. Even if the other party promised to give her 8,000 yuan of hard work a month, she still refused. What exactly happened? Why is Aunt Qin unwilling to take on the responsibility of supporting her father? Next, let’s take a look at her story.

Self-reporter: Aunt Qin

My surname is Qin, and I am 55 years old this year. I married my husband when I was 25 years old. We have always had a good relationship with each other for so many years. My parents-in-law are kind people, and I have always treated them as biological parents. Sometimes when we go out together, others think that my in-laws are my biological parents, and my husband is their son-in-law.

I can get along so well with my in-laws, but I can't treat my biological father as my family. A few months ago, my father suddenly came to my house and said that he would be in my house for retirement in the future.

He retired from a public institution and had already reached a relatively high position before retirement, so his pension was naturally very high. He promised me that if I was willing to let him retire at my house, he would give me 8,000 yuan on time every month in the future. 8,000 yuan is a lot, but I was not moved at all, so I refused decisively.

was a hot topic at the time. Some people thought I was stupid. It was not too hard to take care of an elderly person. I could still have so much income. Why not do it? Some people also think that I am too ruthless. Even though I am obviously my biological father, I am unwilling to support him in my old age. I am simply an ungrateful wolf.

I just want to say "Don't persuade others to be kind without the suffering of others." There is a reason why I will do this.

I was born in the countryside. My grandfather is the village party secretary, and the conditions are relatively good in the village. Moreover, my grandparents do not value boys over girls, but instead attach more importance to my mother, the youngest daughter. My mother's own conditions are quite good. She is a famous beauty in all corners of the countryside. She has been studying for a few years and is not the kind of person who can't read a big word.

It is precisely because of this that I am more picky in major events in life. In fact, my grandfather had a favorite son-in-law at the beginning. The other party was the son of his old friend. He worked in the commune and looked pretty handsome, so he was quite compatible with my mother.

But my mother was like a careless person, but she fell in love with my father. My father is an educated youth in the countryside. He has a good face. After graduating from high school, he is always literary and good at speaking sweet words. At that time, many girls of the age of the village liked my father, but because my mother was the best in terms of conditions, my father chose my mother in order to live a better life in the countryside.

My grandparents strongly opposed it because they felt that their father was not a good match, and that mouth would only make women happy, and they were weak. In the village, an adult man earns ten a day, and a woman also has eight html points, but my father, a grown man earns four centimeters a day, and he can't even afford to support himself because he is very good at coaxing people. A few girls in the village secretly use their own rations to subsidize him.

If my mother married such a person, she would have had hard life from now on. One aspect is that they cannot afford to support their family. The most important thing is that they have poor character. They feel that their father is not reliable and cannot bring happiness to their daughters, so of course they do not agree.

has done a lot of things to break up, but my mother still chose her father without hesitation, which in the end affected her reputation, so her grandparents could only marry her mother to her father.

My mother didn't work much when she was a girl, and she was not much better after getting married. My father is a man who can't afford to support his family and always needs subsidies from grandparents.Of course, my grandparents loved her daughter, but my aunts were inevitably dissatisfied.

But at that time, my grandparents were in charge of the family, and my aunts didn't dare to say anything more. Later, my grandfather arranged for my father as a scorer. This job is relatively easy and there are a lot of centimeters, but my family still has a hard time.

My father also has relatives in the city, my grandparents are still alive, and there are two uncles and an aunt. Grandpa and grandma and uncle are both regular workers, and second uncle and aunt are also temporary workers. Their lives are not bad, but my father is the least favored in the family because my grandma was dysfunctional when she gave birth to him and almost lost her life, so naturally she didn't like her father.

After my father went to the countryside, she never sent money or things. Instead, she often wrote letters to make my father cry, saying that he could not buy food in the city, so she asked my father to send them food. My father is a very foolish and filial person. Maybe because he didn't have much care when he was a child, she especially longed for the love of her parents, so she could do whatever her grandparents said.

It is precisely because of this that even with the subsidies from my grandparents, my mother and daughter will still have a hard time. When my father was 30, I was exactly ten years old. That year, something big happened and the college entrance examination resumed. Originally, this matter had nothing to do with our family. Our family never thought that my father would take the college entrance examination. After all, he had been married in the countryside for ten years, and was 30 years old. He had been away from school for more than ten years. How could he still take the college entrance examination?

My grandfather and his family were against it, but my father coaxed his mother and said that he would take his mother to the city to live a good life when he was admitted to college. My mother was blinded by her sweet words and especially supported him to take the college entrance examination. Later, my father got into college as he wished, but after he got into college, he became Chen Shimei and left us mother and daughter in the countryside.

My parents did not get a certificate at that time. At that time, the rural people did not have the awareness of getting a certificate. They believed that as long as both parties held a wedding banquet, it would be a matter of being a staple on the ironclad. Many people did not know that getting a certificate would be considered a real couple. So according to law, my parents are not husband and wife, and it is not difficult to abandon us.

My mother also made trouble, but she still couldn't win back his heart. After my father graduated from college, he entered a good unit and married the leader's daughter. After getting married, he soon gave birth to a son, leaving me behind.

I was already sensible at that time and resented my father very much. I also swear that since he abandoned us, I would not recognize him in the future. But things went against my wishes. When I was 17 years old, my mother got cancer.

At that time, my grandparents had passed away. Although my uncles were good to us, my aunts were in charge of our family. My aunts always felt that my grandparents were too partial to us, so they never liked us, and my uncles dared not subsidize us often. However, when my mother was sick, they still raised several hundred dollars together.

Other relatives and friends also borrowed a little, but it was still far from enough. At this time, I remembered my father in the city. He hasn't raised me for so many years. I think it's worth it for me to take some money from him. After all, he is my father, so it's worth it.

But unexpectedly, he didn't care about me at all, and said that it had nothing to do with my mother anymore, so we didn't ask him if we had something to do. I went there several times and was kicked out of the door. Later, I gave up and my mother died because she had no money to save her.

From the time I was born, my father has never given anything for me. When I was young, my grandparents raised me. After my grandparents were gone, my mother supported this family and he did not assume the obligations that my father should fulfill.

And when he was desperate to save my mother, I had long treated him as a stranger in my heart. It is impossible for me to live in peace with him, and I cannot be willing to support him in my old age.

Later I learned that the son born to his wife was not his at all. Before marrying him, the other party was pregnant, and my father was happy to be a father.It was precisely because he knew the truth that he thought of my daughter, hoping to retire at my family and make up for me with money.

He was not there when I needed it, and now I don’t care about this so-called fatherly love anymore, so even if someone talks to me, I don’t want to compromise. I am a person with a clear relationship. I can't forgive my father for treating us mother and daughter like that.