text丨Tao Xiaojing
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Everyone says that people are fair, but there is no real fairness in this world.
Due to differences in background, status, etc., people are divided into levels. People of different levels cannot integrate together, and people of different levels look down on each other.
This is a very realistic problem, no one can change it, so they can only adapt as soon as possible.
There may be many people who cannot accept the status quo of being looked down upon, but this is not a big deal at all. Just like you cannot force everyone to like you, you cannot ask others to look down on you.
It’s no big deal to be looked down upon by others, but if you know that others look down on you, but still use your hot face to stick someone else’s cold ass, then you are trying to exert yourself.
Although others have not clearly stated that he looks down on you, some of his behaviors show his contempt for you everywhere.
If you don’t want to continue to practice yourself, then I hope you can understand that people who look down on you from the bottom of your heart will not say it explicitly, but will do so.
1. Refusal to communicate with you
Communication is a necessary part of interpersonal communication, and any problem can be solved in communication.
Communication can not only enhance understanding, but also demonstrate the respect and understanding between two people. As long as the two people maintain communication, the relationship will not be too distant.
Those who look down on you and respect you will naturally keep in touch with you, while those who look down on you from the bottom of their hearts will be the opposite.
For people who look down on you, communicating with you is a waste of time. Even if you are humbly asking him some questions, he will refuse to communicate with you.
Although he never said that he looked down on you, it can be seen from his refusal to communicate that he did not take you seriously at all.
When you encounter such a situation, you'd better be more sensible and don't rush up and find it hard.
Since he doesn't want to pay attention to you, stay away from him. You have to believe that even if you don't have him in your life, you can still live a good life.
2. Attack you with words
Whether in the workplace or in social communication, you will meet some people who look down on you.
Although they did not completely turn you out, they often attack you with words, defaming you to nothing.
No matter how good you behave, they can always pick out the faults and then mock you.
Once you make a mistake, even if it is just a small mistake, they will seize this opportunity and criticize you without any hesitation.
Those who look down on you have never cared about your feelings. They will only put themselves at a high position and point fingers at you.
Faced with this situation, you may feel like you have chosen to swallow your anger, or you may retort on the spot. But no matter what method you choose to fight back in the end, you can no longer interact with it.
You should know that only by keeping a distance from those who look down on you can you not suffer any more harm.
3. Always let you do the most basic work
This situation is most common in the workplace. Some seniors or people with a little ability always look down on newcomers.
On the surface, they always pass on their work experience with a smile and occasionally make some jokes with you, but in fact, the work they handed over to you is always the most basic.
What they ask you to do is either serve tea and water to order takeout, or copy files, which will not allow you to get in touch with core projects, nor will you give you any chance to show yourself.
The reason why they do this is because they look down on you, and on the other hand, they are afraid that you will be the one who comes from behind.
In this case, what you have to do is not to avoid it anymore, but to stand up directly to protect your rights.
If you keep your anger in your mouth, your value will never be reflected. You must prove your abilities to them as soon as possible and gain a foothold in the workplace.
4. Always say bad things about you behind your back
People who look down on you will not tell you directly what he thinks of you, but will say bad things about you behind your back.
When he was in front of you, he did not show any displeasure, but instead catered to you everywhere. Once you are in your back, he will start to say bad things about you everywhere.
Some of what he said may be true, but most of them are fabricated.
The only purpose of his doing this is to drive the people around him to stay away from you and make you isolated and helpless. People like
not only look down on you, but also regard you as an enemy. It is difficult for you to not suffer any losses when you interact with such people.
Once you find someone around you treating you like this, then keep a distance from him and don’t be foolish about yourself.
Xiaojing's emotional summary:
Interpersonal communication is a very complicated thing. It is not that if you treat others with sincerity, others will look down on you.
Some people, perhaps because of their personality or because of their three views, no matter how good you perform, they look down on you.
Although he didn't tell you directly, his actions when getting along all prove that he looked down on you.
When you meet such a person, you'd better stay away from him, don't be humble and cater to others.
You must remember that the prerequisite for dating people is to know how to be kind to yourself. The best way to treat yourself well is to try to make yourself better and make people who look down on you look at you with admiration.
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