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What is PUA?
"PUA, full name "Pick-up Artist, Baidu Encyclopedia original meaning refers to "Catching Artist" , which generally refers to people who are very attractive to the opposite sex and fascinating the opposite sex and their related behaviors.
has been constantly evolving, making this word gradually refer to one party in a gender relationship "strike" and "control" the other through words, behaviors and other means. One side.
, regardless of men and women, will encounter more or less PUA in the family, workplace, and friends. It hides silently and grows secretly.
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How to avoid being PUA?
We explain the definition of PUA, which is to make everyone more sober when they are lost. Here are some tips for you.
1. The first magic weapon for anti-PUA strategy: Confident and sober
If you always feel tired, inferior, and difficult to accept happy things and things, then you may be trapped in self-PUA.
Most of the anxiety and doubts come from wrong perceptions: magnifies the negative side and narrows the positive side.
"It's all my fault, it's all my fault. "-Think that all mistakes are our own responsibility.
"Why can anyone else, I can't do it? I must be too stupid. ”-Nevil your ability.
"I am fat again, I am acne again, I am so ugly. "-Appearance anxiety.
Whenever you fall into such a vicious circle, you must pay attention. You are invisibly reducing your positive energy. The essence of PUA is to belittle yourself, to crack down on your self-confidence, and let everything have a cause, and the cause comes out of the body.
Appropriate self-examination is healthy, but if it becomes the norm, you will fall into the mud of inferiority complex. The internal friction of the pond and cycle.
2. The second trick to prevent PUA victory: reject false favors
"What stopped me was not what I saw, but what I could not see. "
When you are in trouble and a person appears in your life without warning, TA makes you feel hope in life. Getting closer to his life makes you feel that he is dreamy and perfect, and even makes you think he is not worthy of the other person.
At this time, you must be wary of whether this person is in PUA. Because you are following the other person, all you see is the other person who wants it. Let you see.
In addition, after you are familiar with it, TA will build your sense of superiority by hurting your self-esteem, and then use one sentence to make your emotions fall to the bottom. Through various behaviors, your emotions fluctuate. From a psychological perspective, you will become more upset and rely on the other party.
Sometimes PUA invasion will not be noticed, but when When you clearly realize that you are already trapped in TA and cannot extricate yourself, do the following two things:
alienate TA and ask for help from trusted people. If it is beyond the controllable range, call the alarm immediately.
open the social circle and divert attention.
listen together. It is clear, but partial belief is dark. The richer the correct information you receive, the more you can distinguish right from wrong. You should use all things to get out of the vicious circle of PUA.
03.
Written at the end
The world is full of thousands of times, and the years are flying, "No one will love you forever, but someone will love you forever."
Mo Yan In " Late-mature People " wrote:
"Everyone has been looking for the person who is close to his soul all his life. Later, he found that the only one that fits is himself. People with kind nature are relatively late and have been bad people. It was ripened, and although I became enlightened, I was still kind and sincere. I kept looking for the same kind, and finally became a lonely person. "
We were born lonely, and PUA will always stay away from those who are independent of body and mind, because only this kind of person understands: Adults have unexpected encounters and end in failure. Regrets often exist, but beauty is often just a moment.
No feelings are "destined", and there are no regrets or misses. Everyone is running on their own track. You only need to manage yourself and cherish the present to live easily and freely.
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