There is a saying that men before the age of 50 are not very different from men after the age of 50.
Not yet 50 years old, many men maintain the same style and have no changes. They drink when they should drink, and smoke when they should. Anyway, they don’t know how to control themselves.
After 50 years old, men changed. All their past habits disappeared. They no longer drank strong alcohol, smoked smoke, and had no desire to be a human being, just like "enlightenment".
only takes one or two years. Why does men change so much?
There is a saying that goes, fifty years old is a hurdle and a training. People who have experienced the experience not only have their attitudes to be human, but also their mentality has changed.
The passion of the past has become like fire, and it has become as light as ice, and it doesn’t care about anything; the desire of the past has become as pure as the heart and few desires, and anyway, the more you live, the more you feel contented.
If you have experienced it in the valley, you will not have unforgettable enlightenment; if you have not survived the difficult period of life, you will not have heart-wrenching changes. All of this is not so much an active change in one's own way, but rather a gradual compromise under the pressure of life.
Men are fifty years old and stop smoking and drinking, and have no desire. In fact, it is related to these three points.
1. The more you live, the more you feel the preciousness of "life".
I remember when we were young, we didn’t think about the issue of “life and death”, and always thought that this issue was very far away from us.
After we have passed middle age, we gradually come into contact with the issue of "life and death". , especially when night is approaching, we all have an idea, not knowing who will come first, and who will come first, if you are in the accident or tomorrow.
If you don’t have a wife, children, and the old and young, then you will not be able to leave yourself, and there is no big problem. Once we have a wife, children, and young, we are reluctant to leave. It’s not that we are afraid of death, but that we are afraid that our loved ones will not live happily.
In the circle of friends, a middle-aged friend said that men who care about things are completely different from men who don’t care about their attitude towards "fate".
For the sake of family, men who are fifty years old can quit smoking or drinking, and even lose too much desire. They just hope that they can see their children get married and start a career and not leave early.
We can find that there are very few women who are "separated by the middle way", while there are very many men who are "separated by the middle way". Therefore, middle-aged men who have fear naturally quit smoking and drinking.
2. Don’t want to spend "money" on unnecessary things. The reason why life makes people feel difficult is because in this era, it is not easy to make money by , but spending money can be like flowing.
In the past, I didn’t feel much distressed when I bought a pack of cigarettes. Even if I buy a bottle of wine worth thousands of yuan, I think it’s worth it. When people get old, these concepts change.
Seeing parents in need of retirement, looking at the children who are still studying, and thinking about their bodies with some minor problems, then we will choose to abandon tobacco and alcohol, rather drink boiled water than spending these money in vain.
Take "health" as an example. Nowadays, when you go to the hospital for treatment, it can be as little as thousands or as bad as tens of thousands or hundreds of thousands. It can basically make an ordinary family fall back into poverty overnight.
The so-called "the distance between poverty and wealth is only separated by a bed" is this.
In order to save money and for the stability of our family, we had to quit smoking and drinking, and even our desires that should not have been suppressed. That's why we say, "It's time for people to live a life of low desires when they reach fifty."
3. No longer force yourself to "society".
We might as well think about a question: Why do men smoke and drink? Because men have more social interactions.
A workplace novices may not know how to smoke and drink when they first entered the workplace. After a while, for socializing and sociable, he had to learn to smoke and drink.
As we all know, people are in the world and have no choice but to do so. There are some things you can't choose.
After more than ten or twenty years, we will reflect on whether this kind of sociable life is meaningful? We have come up with an answer. Any sociable group in is just to cater to other people's ideas and is worthless.
Slowly, we will gradually move away from the so-called middle-aged social circle and gradually cut off relations with our drinking and meat friends around us. has lived from the past social expert to the appearance of a lonely person.
In fact, being an unsociable person and enjoying a life of pure heart and less desires is not to spend too much money or overdraw your body, and there is no harm.
Written to the end
In the eyes of countless people, the four words "smoking and drinking" are portrayals of ordinary men. This is not absolute, but relative. All behaviors of a person depend on age.
Young people can smoke and drink, which does not mean that older middle-aged and elderly people can smoke and drink. On the other hand, , the latter likes to use "tea" instead of "spike" to express his determination to live a stable life.
people's passionate heart will one day return to a state of "pseudo-smooth". Perhaps, this is not only a human growth, but also a gradual awakening under the tempering of life.
text/Shushan Youlu
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