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Bi Shumin "Hold your right hand tightly": " years have given me suffering, and I will also give me soberness and calmness. "

Those who can feel suffering must be able to learn from suffering. The lessons learned by some people are to not let themselves repeat the same mistakes, while the lessons learned by some people should find ways to relieve the hatred in their hearts.

The former is a type of growing up in escape. For example, after being bullied, some people first escape to a safe place, get rid of their own situation, and then learn from their lessons.

The latter is a type of growing up in the process of facing problems. After being bullied, they will not escape, but face difficulties and choose to fight to the death.

We cannot define which of these two behaviors is right or wrong. We can only say that everyone has aspirations and how to choose to live without a lifetime is life. The only difference is that some people will leave regrets, while others will have no regrets .

I am 40 years old this year, and I am middle-aged and have no recognition. I feel that all the sufferings in life have been spread by me.

The native family has problems and I can do nothing. Although I also received the care of my parents when I grew up, and they seemed to be compensating me, I never felt the real love because the care they gave me was in name but not real.

From childhood to adulthood, I rarely ask my parents for money. Once, when I was in urgent need of money, I spoke for the first time, but was rejected. But what puzzled me was that when I asked for money, they didn't give it to me, and when I didn't want it, they always pretended to care about me and asked me if I was short of money.

I don’t say it’s okay if I don’t say I’m short of money, but if I say I’m short of money, I will be thrown cold water. Their concern for me is only verbally, and it is not true. Maybe they always think that their son is more important than women. Even if giving their daughter a dollar is a waste, it is better to keep it for their son.

I lack the warmth of my family, and there is a place in my heart that is always empty, which is why I was eager to have my own family when I was young. At that time, I just thought that there would be warmth with a family, but I never thought that marriage would be as simple as I thought.

My mother-in-law failed to make up for my lack of maternal love, but instead spread salt on my wounds. She always thought that my daughter-in-law, who was not favored by her mother-in-law, was a problematic person and was not worthy of her family's favored .

I felt like I was hit by some kind of curse. The longer I spent with my mother-in-law, the more I found the problems in her, just like my parents.

Her most common trick is to pretend to be a good person, act in front of others, and create a good mother-in-law's character.

She has two purposes for this: , one is to win the favor of others, , just like those masters of success who cheat, who use cunning tricks to gain a good reputation; , the other is to block my mouth and bind my freedom . When others think that she is a good mother-in-law, I can’t explain it clearly. If anyone knows a problem, those blind believers of mother-in-law will criticize me.

I suffered from this torture during my pregnancy and during my confinement period. I thought I could separate after the confinement period was over, but the tragedy continued to happen. She began to build a good character for her grandmother, becoming an ancestor at home, and complaining outside, as if she was the hardest-working mother-in-law in the world.

The original family poisoned me too deeply, making me a person without confidence. Faced with the torture given by my mother-in-law, I dared not speak out, and could only swallow my anger.

However, people are doing things and God is watching. People are not as good as God is doing things. My mother-in-law herself did not expect that one day she would need my care.

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Although I know that her illness and hospitalization have nothing to do with retribution, I am in a situation where she has been tortured for a long time, and I prefer to think that she was sick and hospitalized because of retribution.

She asked me to take care of her by name. Her motive was obvious. I thought that with the blessing of her group of believers, I dared not refuse to obey.

I took the order happily on the surface, but I was ready to take this opportunity to turn evil and treat the person with the same way .

I will treat her as she usually treats me. Who can't pretend to be good? Who can't act? I'm younger than her and more flexible than her. When acting, it's easier to do it without any flaws.

On the surface, I tried my best to take care of her without leaving any gaps in the population. In fact, I just do superficial work. Unless I really need to deal with something, I will never interfere. I deliberately want her to experience what it feels like to be pretended to be cared for by someone .

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When I needed to be cared the most, she tortured me, and I definitely felt bad. I know this feeling well, so I am sure that she will not feel good when I treat her the same way.

People will suffer only when they are not feeling well, and will reflect on themselves when they are in pain. They will admit their mistakes. They will feel guilty when they are guilty.

I am not a Virgin and I will not erase it just because of her apologies. Every time she apologized, I would treat her better, but every time I would stop. Since I intentionally want to take revenge on her, I should make her feel guilty all the time.

Although she has children and daughters and wants to take care of her, I have done my superficial work without any leakage. No one believes in her difficulties, just as no one believed in my difficulties before. She spent many years keeping me alone, so don’t blame me for using the same method to make her have nowhere to stay.

I can’t help but suffer from the suffering of my original family. I really can’t bear to take revenge on my parents. But if others want to bully me, I can't indulge them. If a person like me cannot get revenge, he will live a very painful life.