Recently I heard about the incident of an owner in the community and I am very moved. Today I will share it with you.
There is a family in the community, whose parents are in their sixties, and they have an only daughter, 33 years old this year.
This only child is pretty, and her current job is also good. She works as a finance department in a state-owned enterprise.
monthly salary is more than 7,000, and it is more than enough to support yourself anyway.
Her parents went out to do business by themselves in their early years, and they did a lot of work, and the family was in good condition.
There are two houses in our community, one is the townhouse villa they live in now, and the other is a small high-rise building.
was bought by parents for their daughter.
So this woman is very good just by looking at the material conditions, and she also has a house for her work.
, but the object is not found.
Hearing other neighbors say that the couple is very anxious about their daughter's marriage.
Although their family has very good material conditions, their daughter’s heart is not very good, and it is congenital.
put two brackets last month, and the work side was also suspended.
said he had taken a long-term leave and he would go back to work after his health recovered for a while.
was at home for a while and had been on a blind date.
Parents gave a particularly good dowry:
First of all, I accompanied a small high-level company, more than 100 square meters, fine decoration, and no style.
Then there are two cars, the daughter and future son-in-law can each be one car.
And the old couple themselves have bought all kinds of guarantees. In the future, whether it is for retirement or medical treatment, they will never ask their children for money.
The woman's parents have even prepared the cost of having children in the future, and the child who is responsible is 18 years old.
If the child wants to study abroad in the future, they will also provide tuition fees.
In short, the conditions given by the woman’s parents are particularly generous.
However, it may be because the woman is not in good health, and her age may also be a problem. The blind dates have been unsuccessful since
. They probably started looking for a partner from blind dates at the age of 30, and until they are 33 years old this year, they still have no idea.
The woman's parents sighed all day long, worried that their daughter would not be able to find a good family for her.
Many neighbors in the community are talking behind their backs. This older daughter is considered to be a "smash".
——Separation line——
I was also very moved after listening to this case.
Most girls have dreams about love and marriage when they were young and ignorant.
For example, the person you have a crush on like you also happens to like you.
For example, although you are ordinary and have no highlights, there is a person who will truly love himself and protect himself for a comprehensive life.
But when I grew up, I discovered two facts about marriage:
first, there is love between two people, but they may not necessarily enter into marriage in the end;
second, even if two people get married, they may not necessarily have love between them.
Love may be a sufficient condition for marriage , but it is not a necessary condition.
Some marriages do not even have the most basic emotional foundation. For various reasons, the two of them may be annoyed by their family members, or they may be afraid of the worldly eyes, and they don’t know each other, so they hurriedly get married.
However, if both of them have a peaceful and unprovoked personality, the marriage may continue calmly.
But if there is a problem and both parties are unwilling tolerate it, then the marriage may be in jeopardy.
For example, this example at the beginning of this article, why is this 33-year-old woman so good at material conditions?
, but still cannot find a partner, and marriage is even more distant.
First of all, she must be more picky.
It’s no wonder that girls have good material conditions and don’t want to find someone worse than themselves. This is human nature.
Secondly, when she went to a blind date, she was actually being selected by the man.
From a secular perspective, what do men look at about women in blind dates?
Material appearance, academic qualifications and work income will of course be considered. As a man, there is actually another important consideration when it comes to marriage.
That is: childbirth.
Why is "young and ordinary" girls more popular in the blind date market?
This may also imply the true mentality of some men who come to date blindly:
young, representing strong fertility, which meets the basic demands of most male families, which is to "have children for our old family."
Even if a girl has an average job, an average income or an average education, it doesn’t matter.
Because in our society, in a family, men earn money outside to support their families, marriage in our society is a "moving marriage" for women.
is worse than saying that if the woman is too good, some men may feel that she is "can't hold on to her" and then give up choosing other goals.
Girls should be young, sensible, obedient, and know how to be filial to their parents-in-law and take care of their families - this may be the greatest recognition of the man's family for the woman.
In the above case, this 33-year-old woman looks perfect on the surface, with a house and a car, and her parents can support her, and she also works well.
However, her age, personality, health status, and the strong position implicitly behind this superior material conditions discourage many men.
discussion
33-year-old girl has a good job and a high income. Her original family is also very rich, but she just can't find a partner. What do you think of the phenomenon of
?
Welcome to share in the comment area.
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