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see such a small story, which means that a customer often goes to a vegetable stall to buy vegetables, and the owner of the vegetable will add more vegetables or add some green onions every time the customer finishes buying vegetables. Then the customer thinks that the family is very good at doing business. Because everyone feels that they have taken advantage of others here, and the owners are hospitable and generous. So the business is getting better and better.
Then once, the customer bought vegetables at this store and paid a few cents more after paying the bill. So he told the owner, don’t look for money, give me a green onion. According to previous thinking, the owner should agree quickly, after all, he can still sell more orders, and there is no need to make change. But the owner said, "Do you know what the price of this onion is now? How can you add it casually?!" At this time, the customer
felt that he couldn't get down to the table.
may be common sense to buy vegetables and add onions in the customer's consciousness, and he is also used to adding more things to the shop owner, but he does not understand that the basis for the shop owner to add things is because other dishes make profits, and these profits are enough to resist the cost of the added onions. That's why the shop owner looks generous and gives some things. But when the price of onions is too high, other dishes can’t make much money, who is willing to give it? !
So many times we can give others something willingly, but if others take it for granted, it is another matter.
If we can chat, the relationship is also very good. Even if we lose money, I am willing to give it to you. It is my own wish. I don’t feel that there is any loss. On the contrary, if you feel that others are used to giving it to you, you start asking for something. If others don’t give it to you, you still feel that the other party is stingy, which seems to be a bit moral kidnapping again.
I remember that before, the children played together in the city’s community, and then each parent would bring some fruits and snacks for the children to share with them. However, only one child was older than the children around him, and parents didn’t like to bring things when they came out.
At the beginning, everyone would give it some, and no one would care about this. So this older child can eat snacks brought by other children every time. Although some children sometimes don’t want to give it to them, parents will say that they are all good friends and they should learn to share and wait for some words to educate their children.
Then, one day, this older child came out late and didn't catch up with everyone's snacks, so he started asking what snacks each parent brought. Some parents said they had finished the distribution, and some said no. Then the child asked the parents to open their bags and let him take a look. While asking the other parent to open the snack bag they were carrying, they said that the good things were to be shared together, right?
You see, I don’t know when what you teach your children will become an excuse for others to ask for things for granted, and it seems that it is quite impossible to refute. If you refute, aren’t you slapping yourself in the mouth? Don’t let others eat what you say? But if you don’t refute, you have to take out snacks for others to eat unwillingly. It seems like I have dug a hole for myself.
was originally a kind of thing that you love and I want, but when this kind of love and I want to attach certain conditions and requirements, it will become a shackle.
so, do people need to share? It does need to be shared, but sharing needs to be voluntary rather than forced. Everyone has the right to share and refuse. Therefore, when educating children, we should not only talk about the importance of sharing, but also have the courage to refuse!
I can make excuses for my behavior, but you cannot use the other party’s excuse to restrain the other party from doing this.
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