[01] Opening remark. It is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to deal with. In fact, every family has more or less conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and these conflicts will have a subtle impact on the rel

【01】Opening remarks.

says that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to deal with. In fact, every family has more or less mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts, and these conflicts will have a subtle impact on the relationship between husband and wife.

Some marriages are even broken down due to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a special interpersonal relationship that has been difficult to deal with since ancient times. In traditional society, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are superior and subordinate relationships, which means that the daughter-in-law must obey the mother-in-law.

This also led to the fact that in traditional society, the daughter-in-law suffered all kinds of grievances and could only endure them in every way, and could only obey and please her mother-in-law.

In the new era, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not as cruel as traditional society. However, some deeply rooted concepts still affect the older generation, leading to some conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family, and these contradictions often affect the relationship between husband and wife.

Some couples even parted ways because of the disagreement between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Therefore, it is very important to be a husband how to correctly handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Otherwise, a good family may fall into conflict and breakdown. In that case, it will be very sad.

【02】I am from a poor family and my younger brothers and sisters depend on each other for their own sake. Dear friends, my name is Li Xiuli, a woman from the countryside.

I lost my father when I was a child. When I was twelve, my mother left me and my brother. Because my parents left us some money, I got into college under the care of my relatives. Then I completed my studies through work-study.

My younger brother stopped studying after graduating from junior high school, but went to the factory to work. After graduating from college, I came to the beautiful Jiangcheng to find a job. Later I joined a private company and became a white-collar worker. I cherish this job very much and work hard every day.

Thanks to my efforts, I finally gained a firm foothold in the company and became a senior employee with a monthly salary of more than 8,000 yuan.

With this high-paying job, my life is getting better and better, and my younger brother has a job. So, my brother and sister finally got out of poverty.

30 years old, I got married in the city. Because I spend most of my energy on work, I don’t care about my personal feelings. It was not until I was almost thirty that I suddenly realized that if I didn’t get married, I would be single for the rest of my life.

Later, under the introduction of a colleague, I met Zheng Daming, a quality inspector of Jiangcheng Quality Inspection Administration. After meeting Zheng Daming, I suddenly felt that my life had a clearer direction.

Zheng Daming is very good to me, but as I grow older, I know that it cannot be too high or too low. Zheng Daming has a job and a reputation. In this way, after half a year of knowing Zheng Daming, I decided to marry Zheng Daming.

【04】My parents-in-law look down on me and often show me a look. Zheng Daming is from Jiangcheng. He was born and raised here.

Although he is from Jiangcheng, his family is average and his father is no longer there. He is only his mother, a retired worker, who depends on him for his life.

Because of the average family background, Zheng Daming met me in his thirties, and then we happily got together while appreciating each other.

The three of us live in Zheng Daming’s old house. This house is not big, just 67 square meters. As the saying goes, "People have to bow their heads under the eaves." Although I am Zheng Daming's wife, I live in my mother-in-law's house after all, so I'm a little cautious.

And my mother-in-law seems to be a bit dependent on her seniority. She often yelled at me and didn't give me a good look. For this family, I learned to endure it because I knew that marriage was a matter between me and Zheng Daming after all, and it was normal for my mother-in-law to nag when she was old.

【05】For this family, I learned to endure humiliation. But my mother-in-law seemed to regard my tolerance as weakness, and her attitude towards me was a little bit more and more aggressive.

When Zheng Daming was at home, she was more polite. When Zheng Daming was not at home, he would point fingers at me, which would make me unhappy. I know that a real marriage requires a business and a family atmosphere.

My mother-in-law’s attitude towards me is that I was born in a bad environment and had no backer at home. As for me, I have learned to endure humiliation and treat myself after such hard days.

For this home, I am determined to bow my head and work hard to make money. When I have a child in the future, Zheng Daming and I will buy another house.When we moved out, there were fewer conflicts and nagging between me and my mother-in-law.

【06】My brother built a house in the countryside, and I lent him 100,000 yuan. However, my tolerance did not bring about a better improvement in my mother-in-law's attitude towards me.

After three years of marriage, Zheng Daming and I have my own children, and I have some savings with Zheng Daming. Especially, I had more than 400,000 yuan in savings and discussed with Zheng Daming that I bought a second-hand house outside and moved out with my children.

After all, children need their own space when they grow up. In recent years, my younger brother Li Xiaohui has also made some money in the countryside. He called me and told me that he had found a girlfriend and was preparing to get married now, but the other party asked him to have at least a new house in the countryside, so he wanted to use his savings to build the house. There is a homestead, and the approval for building a house has been approved. It costs about 300,000 yuan to build a two-story house, and you need to borrow 100,000 yuan from me.

Xiaohui is my younger brother and is getting married now. As a sister, how could he not help? So, my younger brother in Mashan transferred 100,000 yuan to him.

07, when my mother-in-law found out, she scolded me at home for three days. In the evening, Zheng Daming returned home and I told Zheng Daming about this. Zheng Daming didn't say anything, just nodded and went to bed.

But when I came back the next night, my mother-in-law started fighting with me. She pointed to my nose and asked loudly, "Li Xiu, did you lend the money to your brother without our consent?" When I heard this, I was stunned: "Mom, Xiaohui is my brother. He needs help building a house and finding a wife. I should lend him 100,000 yuan." My mother-in-law didn't like it.

She scolded: "You woman, if you don't think about your husband and children, you will lend so much money to your brother. What should you do if you can't get it back in the future?" I was also unhappy: "Mom, I said that Xiaohui is my brother, and he has no one to help him. I should give him 100,000 yuan!" My words completely angered my mother-in-law, and she scolded me for three days at home.

【08】I was completely angry: I am the one who decides my salary! On the third night, when I came back from get off work, my mother-in-law started scolding me again. Now, I was completely angry: "Mother-in-law, the money I lent to my brother is my money, the money I saved before marriage!" My salary is up to me. Why do you interfere with me? And I married Zheng Daming, you didn't give us anything. What qualifications do you have to keep scolding me? I will move out to rent a house today. I can't live in this house! "

After saying that, I went back to the house to pack my luggage. The rest of my mother-in-law stared in the hall. When Zheng Daming came back, I didn't say anything. My mother-in-law pulled Zheng Daming outside to speak. Zheng Daming kept sighing when he came back, but my decision had already been made.

I said to Zheng Daming: "Daming, I respect your decision, but you must respect mine too. I plan to take my children out to rent a house, and I will pay it back when we buy the house. If you want to live at home, you can stay at home. "Zheng Daming knew that my mother and I could no longer get along, so it would not be a problem to stay. He just acquiesced.

[09] Conclusion. Friends, my mother-in-law thinks that I was born in the countryside and have no status, so she looks down on me.

Is it reasonable for her to treat her daughter-in-law like this? When she learned that I lent money to my brother, she scolded me at home for three days.

Is such a mother-in-law worthy of respect? I chose to move out. Do you support my decision? Please leave a message in the comment area to give this poor woman a good suggestion. Thank you everyone.

[Emotional Story☆Marriage Navigation Author: Lu Venguang Picture: Photo provided by the author's self-media]