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Marriage is a combination of two families, but some people have always misunderstood the "combination" of . feels that after getting married, you can control your spouse's money and house at will.
, especially those who only have one son in the family, the wife she married is always inexplicably confident.
This is probably the negative impact of the idea of favoring boys over girls, allowing ignorant women to oppress other women's living space.
Li Liang (pseudonym) has been married to his wife for just two years, and his wife wants to compete for a house with her family because she is "a mother is expensive by her son".
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Li Liang lived a hard life at home when he was young. He had a sister, and a family of four made a living by farming.
The village is not rich. After the couple got married, they don’t have much land to them. After working hard for a year, they can’t make much money. In addition to eating, dressing and raising children, they also have to tighten their belts and save money to send their children to school in the future.
But fortunately, when Li Liang was 4 years old, the village was relieved of poverty. Not only did every household have money and animals, but there were also forests where fruit trees could be planted. Li Liang's parents were divided into a piece of land, got a lot of materials, and planted an orchard.
road is very spacious. Whenever the fruits are ripe, many tourists pass by here and go to the mountains to play and buy fruits on the side of the road.
But the good days did not last long. When Li Liang went to junior high school, his father died of a heart attack.
My sister was in high school and had very good grades. Her mother was reluctant to let her two children give up her studies, so she took on the burden of life alone to support her two children to study.
After graduating from college, my sister stayed in the city, responsible for making money to support her family, providing Li Liang with school, and allowing her mother to do less farm work.
When Li Liang graduated from university and entered society, his sister had saved 200,000 yuan. She took her mother and younger brother to live in the city, rented a house, and the family reunited.
Mother finally got a rest and did housework and cooking for the children every day.
Li Liang and his sister devoted themselves to their work. They were desperate to make more money. They also rushed to work overtime tasks, just to save enough money to buy a house early and truly settle down in the city.
Sister was promoted to supervisor because of her outstanding ability, and her salary doubled.
is ready now. sister saved enough money first, took her brother and mother to see the house, and bought a three-bedroom and two-living room house.
After buying this house, my sister also "broken everything". Li Liang refused to add his name to the house book, He hoped that his sister would use this house as a wedding house when she got married in the future, and then she would make money to buy a house to serve her mother.
sister was very moved, and in the end she was the only one in the room book.
It is because the family has this kind of love and care for each other that they can get a good life now. Li Liang's family is very kind.
But this kindness is equal to "stupid" in the eyes of people with ulterior motives. The person who looks down on them is Li Liang's wife. When Li Liang got married to her, his sister had been married for 6 years and had children.
Li Liang saved enough money to buy a house and lived with his mother.
, but his work ability is not as good as his sister, so he can't afford such a big house. His house has two bedrooms and one living room.
Li Liang is an honest person and feels that his ability is limited, so he chooses to date and get married. He does not dare to expect the woman's family to be very good. As long as the other person's facial features are upright and his financial conditions are not too bad.
The year Li Liang and his girlfriend got married on a blind date, he was already 30 years old, so he was very grateful to the woman for being willing to marry him.
However, the woman was willing to marry him because she was actually targeting his family’s honest and honest family and two full houses. Li Liang and the others dare not take out loans because they are too honest.
So both of his houses are on the Third Ring Road, and the territory is average, but they are full-payment rooms.
Li Liang's wife's family is also in average financial conditions. Her parents are workers and have retired. She can get a pension of less than 3,000 yuan a month. The two of them combined will only cost 6,000 yuan.
My wife’s job is not as good as Li Liang and his sister. She earns about 4,000 yuan a month, and she also has a younger brother in , and she has never talked about a partner.
Li Liang and his wife have been married for many years and have been in peace. They have also given birth to a son, and the family is quite happy.
It was not until Li Liang was 40 that his wife could not hold it in. protested, saying that she would let her mother-in-law live at her elder sister-in-law's house. , four people lived in these two bedrooms and one living room in her home, which was too crowded.
Li Liang has been saving money to use for his son’s future marriage, so he dared not spend money to buy a new house. He felt very guilty when his wife said this.
He felt that he was incompetent to let his family live a good life.
After hearing this, Li Liang's sister took her mother over without saying a word. She also wanted to be filial, but rural people generally believe that her son should support her parents' retirement, so she has no chance.
It’s a pity that my sister and her mother lived with her for less than 3 years, and her mother got old and passed away.
When Li Liang's wife saw her mother-in-law die, she immediately started to "make trouble". She wanted to steal Li Liang's property and directly targeted her aunt's house. She used the excuse of her younger brother who didn't talk to her, and forced her elder sister-in-law to move away.
The wife said: "Honey, my brother is going to get married soon. Let your sister move out tomorrow and give her room to my brother!"
Li Liang found it incredible: "What are you kidding? When we got married, you knew it was my sister's room. How could I have the ability to let her move out?"
But the wife was not afraid and continued to make trouble with her in-laws' family. The eldest sister-in-law was very angry and repeatedly emphasized: "This is my room, it is me myself." I bought it with money! "
Li Liang's wife said, "Mother-in-law has the right to inherit. She is dead. Your house has her property. Her son inherits her property. So your house has one for my husband. Pay the money quickly and don't worry! According to the market price, you have to give me 80,000, or you move out and don't live!"
Only then did Li Liang and her sister understand the character of this woman. was helpless. Li Liang and her have been married for many years and have a son. could only advise her not to make trouble. The woman cried and made a fuss, and finally went to the police station, and the problem was solved after mediation.
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There is a saying that is meaningful: The poor can't endure the suffering, and the suffering will continue to come to the poor.
Just like Li Liang's family in the above article, after finally making some money, his father passed away in middle age; after finally buying a house and having a baby, the mother had only enjoyed the blessing of 10 years and left the children.
, Li Liang treats others sincerely all his life, but his wife has been married to him for so many years but has been restless and worried about his sister's money.
1: Make clear accounts between relatives and prevent accidents in the future
Sometimes, the most trusted relatives cannot protect their lives, because sooner or later they must have their own family and become family with others.
is difficult to ensure that , the "family" , has no bad intentions, and will not brainwash him in turn and focus on his own money.
What's more, people's hearts will change. It is not uncommon for brothers to turn against each other in order to compete for their family property. They are so anxious that they even want to let the other party die on the spot. It is not surprising that there is a bloody conflict.
Environment and life pressures can change a person's mind.
The huge pressure on money may also change an adult's views.
The intention to be on guard against others is necessary, even if this person is his own brothers and sisters, even his biological parents and their own children. When they stay away from you and get along with others day and night, whether they change their minds depends entirely on their personal qualities.
2: We are all people at the bottom, so don’t plot against each other.
People always fight for profit.
people are all group, passionate and impulsive creatures. Sometimes things develop to the critical moment. Whether it is face or pressure, some things become the fuse. When the atmosphere is ignited, people will make irrational actions.
is even an extreme behavior that makes people regret it for life.
In fact, in the end, I think about it, there may not be much profit to compete for, and it is not worth losing out on interpersonal relationships or reputation.
The more impulsive and desperate, the more people at the bottom are. Because is poor, it is more willing to sacrifice.
But from another perspective, everyone is already at the bottom of the class, and everyone is holding a few thousand yuan of working money to tighten their belts. They are all so hard but they still have to calculate each other. What can they calculate? can't get rich overnight, why bother?
As a low-level worker, you live your life down-to-earth and discuss with relatives and friends if you have any problems. If you really can’t make up your mind, you can ask the lawyer or the police. This is also a very good solution.
text/Wiwen
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