This is the 895th real person we tell
At the end of September 2012, Xiao Pei and I met a cafe in Madrid, Spain. It was an autumn day, and I drove here at the time and place agreed on in advance on the wedding website.
In the parking lot, I just came out of the car and saw a tall Spanish man in a motorcycle suit walking towards me from afar.
"Hey! Are you Anna? My name is Pedro!" After getting closer, I felt that the man was at least 1.9 meters tall. Looking at the man's tall figure and handsome three-dimensional facial features, until he stepped forward to say hello to me, I still didn't believe it. This is the blind date I was about to date.
After all, I'm fifty in two days! No matter how you look at this man, he is only in his early forties, not to mention that he looks so outstanding! When I saw him, I felt that it looked like my favorite big star Tom Cruise !
(2013 Spring Festival, I was at home with Xiao Pei)
Sometimes, one side of the fate between people is enough, because he is the person in your previous life.
I never thought that my other life would start from this day and be divided into two clearly divided parts. If my first half of my life was mainly based on my career line and my emotional line was almost a failure. Then in the second half, it was bright and the flowers were bright, and love became the main theme of life!
My name is Anna
(I performed dramas in college, the second on the left is me)
After graduating from a master's degree, I met my ex-husband who is also a Chinese in Spain, but for various reasons, I experienced a period of emotional injury that I couldn't bear to say, so I chose to let go. This marriage lasted only 5 years.
In 2002, I started working alone in Spain with my 4-year-old daughter.
The failure of marriage made me embarrassed, and the pain in my heart made me no longer want to enter the marriage easily. I just want to make my daughter and I live a good life abroad through my own efforts.
In those years, I have been doing translation, travel, and got involved in foreign trade. While raising my daughter alone, I tried my best in my career. The physical and mental fatigue and vicissitudes of are particularly heart-wrenching on the land far away from their homeland.
No one can tell, and there is no way to talk about it. When you are injured, cry alone in the dark, put on your armor again at dawn, and join a new round of hard fighting.
has no emotional bonds, and my full efforts in my career have quickly paid off, and the world economy has risen after the millennium. The company I run is also on track soon, with foreign trade and tourism industry booming.
(I do Spanish translation in China)
During those years, I would return to China two or three times every year because I was concerned about my parents or business matters. Occasionally, I would take my two elders to live in Spain, but after my parents retired, they got older. Considering that I needed someone to take care of me, I changed to a big house and took my parents over to live with me and my daughter.
In this way, our family is full of nagging the elderly and laughing from their daughters every day, and life is getting more and more lively!
And under the tempering of life, I have also been in my thirty years, step by step through forty and come to the year of destiny. Overseas for twenty years, half of the ups and downs have passed by. Although life is good, it is not surprising.
If nothing unexpected happens, I will probably live alone in this life, and live alone to live alone, and wait until the leaves fall back to the roots of the old age and return to China.
When that important person in life is about to appear, fate may give you some hint in advance. And this hint is, to me, a painting with a white horse!
(Photo with the white horse author Juan Fultuni exhibition)
In May 2012, I went to attend an Madrid art exhibition. As soon as I entered the gate of the exhibition, I saw an oil painting more than one meter high hanging on the corridor.
In the oil painting, a heroic white horse waded from the dark forest and ran towards me! The decorative spotlight hit the horse, and the effect was particularly shocking. At that moment, I was deeply attracted by it! On the last day of the exhibition, I came to pick up another piece of art that I had negotiated and saw that the painting was still there. I couldn't help but find the painter, who was a descendant of the famous painter Fortuni (his personal museum in Venice ), and invited it back.
But after buying this painting, I really didn’t have a suitable place in the living room, so I hung it directly opposite the bedroom. In this way, I can see this horse every day as soon as I open my eyes, and I really like it the more I look at it.
(now it is already in my living room)
is just like that, a few months have passed. Suddenly one day I had a whim and wanted to go to a blind date website in Spain to take a look. But generally speaking, people who go on blind dates on the website have a lot of false information, and some of them just want to find a one-night stand on it. I didn't have any hope in my heart, and I rarely log in, but I just occasionally went up and thought it was just wandering around.
htmlOne day in September, I just logged into the webpage and found a private message calling me. I looked at the person’s resume. Wow! The conditions are pretty good! IT industry executive, 45 years old, 5 years younger than me! He is 1.9 meters tall, but I am only 1.57 meters...I don’t think this is a liar, right? But he made it clear that he wanted a stable life, so it would be okay to meet him!
Saturday morning, September 29, 2012, I remember very clearly that we made an appointment to meet in a cafe. The scene at the beginning of this article appears, and this person is Xiao Pei.
Facing the handsome Spanish guy sitting in front of me, I was a little unconfident. I really didn’t expect that the blind date website could meet the real person so well! I can't believe it.
(the first photo Xiao Pei sent me in 2012)
We ordered a cup of coffee. After a brief introduction to myself, he began to introduce me to his family and personal situation. He divorced 5 years ago. He had a daughter who was 1 year younger than my daughter. The custody belonged to his ex-wife. The child would spend the weekends and holidays with him.
has been engaged in the IT industry and is currently a department head in a software company. He loves basketball, football, etc. He was once the central defender of Real Madrid's junior basketball team and played in the European Championships. No wonder he is so burly.
For nearly an hour, he carefully told me his situation, which looked like the scene of a Chinese blind date. This is rare in Spain. I wonder if he has studied China's blind date model!
While I laughed at him and introduced myself in a stern manner, I asked him tentatively: "What kind of person do you want to find in your ideal?" He looked at me with a sincere look and said slowly: "I just want to find someone who can let me take care of her!"
(the first photo we took together)
After hearing this, my heart seemed to be hit by something, and it thawed in an instant, and tears couldn't help but flow down! Yes, over fifty years old, I was actually broken by a man who had been facing him for the first time!
Although, I am no longer full of fantasy about love like a girl, and I am easily moved and tempted. But at that moment, I admit that I was moved!
chatted for more than 2 hours without realizing it. It was almost noon, and he asked me shyly if I could have lunch together. Because I was going to pick up my daughter from school, I politely declined his invitation and made another appointment next time I had the chance.
can be seen that he is a little disappointed. But when I said goodbye to Xiao Pei and drove to my daughter's school, my daughter said she was going to have dinner with her classmates and then went home by herself.
When my daughter had something to do, I called Xiao Pei immediately and said, "Are you still there? I can go back to have dinner now." He hurriedly replied to me and said, "No problem, no problem, I'll be back soon!"
(our first family photo in 2012)
In fact, he had already returned home at that time and rushed over again.In this way, we made a lunch together and went to the city center together, where we walked aimlessly and chatted, just like an old friend I haven't seen for many years, and we couldn't finish talking about topics. We stayed until seven or eight o'clock in the afternoon and were reluctant to leave, and just passed by a cinema. So, we made an appointment to watch another movie.
The movie that night was the worst movie of Brad Pitt . I don’t know what I watched. The two of them sat side by side, absent-minded, and they all thought about each other. The movie ends, continue to visit the park and ride the road.
That's it. Our first date lasted from 11 am to 1 pm. I felt like there was always endless things to say. Only men and women in love can empathize with this feeling.
(We were in Shenzhen in 2014)
Two days later, October 1st is my 50th birthday. On this day, I accepted Xiao Pei's confession and made my romantic relationship clear. Later, I learned that Xiao Pei was born in January 1967. According to the Chinese zodiac, she is born in the year of the Horse.
Fairy skin, upright figure, handsome appearance, sincere and gentle personality. If you describe him as an animal, then a horse is the most suitable!
This made me think of the artistic painting of the big white horse that I invited back a few months ago! If you never forget it, there will be a resounding sound! The sign of fate and the call of the heart finally, in the year of knowing destiny, brought me such a Western "big white horse"!
made me have to believe that fate is really a wonderful thing. Love is no matter how early or late, the right time, the right place, and meet the right person.
(Now, the "big white horse" is hanging in my living room)
When we were just in love, we would date and chat after work, and we would go home very late every night. When my parents saw me going out early and coming home late, they had a smile on their faces and seemed to have changed, so they asked me if I was in love.
So, I called Xiao Pei and told him that my parents wanted to see him, and neither party had to prepare, right away! I remember that as soon as he entered the door, his father gave him a big hug.
(Saturday with relatives and friends in Spain in 2013)
Later he said that it was this hug that suddenly relieved his tension. He was a little worried about whether he would be accepted, but in fact, he is loved by everyone and everyone will like it. All my Chinese friends like him and envy us.
My mother in her seventies is not used to the usual veneer gifts in Spain, but Xiao Pei will perform regular formal etiquettes every time she comes to her home and says goodbye. After a long time, her mother will get used to it.
Every time I see him coming, I will stick my face happily, and say hello to relatives in Beijing. I will smile in advance and say, "You are ready, I will kiss you, don't hide!"
It can be said that Xiao Pei's joining brings passion and joy to this family! It also brought a full sense of security, and he did not feel incongruity and quickly integrated into our Chinese family!
He comes from a middle-class Spanish family. His parents are very open-minded and will not interfere with the private lives of their children. He also respects Chinese culture and customs very much.
(In 2013, we were with our parents-in-law and two daughters)
After 5 months of dating, we decided to buy our own single-family house, live in alone, and formally form a new family with our two daughters.
After being with Xiao Pei, we would go back to China four or five times a year, walking around and walking around. He likes Chinese culture and scenery very much. Sometimes business relationships will come alone, mixing English with Chinese to deal with them. Sometimes I want to order something unfamiliar, and I even go to cross-border consultations with me. The kind smile of Chinese people makes him feel like he is in water.
And he enjoys this identity as a Chinese son-in-law. Whether he meets Chinese people or Spanish , he likes to say to people: "My wife is Chinese. We have two daughters, one like me has yellow hair and the other like my wife has black hair!" Haha, many people really believe him.
(In 2018, we took our two daughters to Shanghai)
My mother and sister have a very harmonious relationship. Every time I go back to China, I will prepare carefully selected gifts for them, and I will bring souvenirs when I go out for a trip.
Only at my house during holidays, or to their house, gather, hold parties, and watch events! A big family gathers together, transcending cultural and racial boundaries, is very comfortable and relaxing, without any sense of incongruity!
(Christmas dinner for Chinese and Western families)
Although Xiao Pei is a science and engineering man, he is very considerate and gentle. He will take the initiative to lift heavy objects when shopping, and when going out shopping, he will protect me on the inside and walk close to the road by himself. He said he was tall and would be seen. I laughed at him as if he could block a car, but his heart was warm.
I like to make simple Western food, and he likes to eat delicious Chinese food. We usually eat together and will be the chef whoever has time.
In our spare time, we have common hobbies, watching various sports events, art performances, going out for travel, etc. I have been to Spain for nearly 30 years and used to study Spanish language and literature, so I have a certain understanding of the culture here and there is no obstacle to communication.
(celebrating the birthday of my sister with my sister in my own yard)
However, even the most harmonious marriage will have conflicts, after all, the two are independent individuals. I am a more impulsive person with a very popular personality, but Xiao Pei is a typical Spanish. He is slow and never has to worry. He would give in to me and comfort me when I was impulsively anxious, and I would mostly stop when I saw it, and would not irreconcilable the contradictions.
But in terms of time concept, the Spanish are really innately slow-study. For example, if you want to go somewhere, he will feel that it is normal to be late for ten or twenty minutes. It is no big deal and there is no need to get stuck.
And I am still a Chinese punctual habit and have a strong sense of control over time. I will say what time it is and I will never be late.
After many reminders, I changed my method. Now every time I go, I will take the activity time for half an hour. In this way, even if he slowly arrives, he will not be late. This habit of being unpunctual cannot be changed, so he can only use strategy to remedy it.
(We attended the graduation ceremony of my daughter’s British university together)
In addition to this shortcoming, in my eyes, this man is almost my ideal perfect companion! He can do housework, including water and electricity repairs, garden maintenance, security facilities, swimming pool maintenance and cleaning, etc., as long as he takes a look, or downloads some videos from the Internet to see, they can all be done.
My daughter's computer is broken, and he can easily solve it. After my mother was paralyzed, it was inconvenient to enter and exit the wheelchair, and he built the slopes entering and leaving the house by himself. As a single woman for many years, I have experienced too many moments when I am alone and have no way to ask for help.
In life, any water pipe breaks down, and water and power outages are all difficult. Spain has very low efficiency and water heaters can be repaired for three or four days. Since Xiao Pei, it seems that it can do everything.
I often compare it to "73 lines"! He can do everything except not having children, and he smiled and said that it would be okay to put a child on his stomach. I have a treasure at home and support everything, so I have never had the peace of mind and peace of mind to be protected.
(our home)
Why would such a perfect man choose me? I asked him this question once. He said that when he met for the first time that day, he saw me coming over and felt that this woman belongs to me for the first time. It's the legendary love at first sight.
Later I found out that he yearned for China since he was a child and always wanted to find a Chinese girl. When he was young, he once liked a Chinese girl, the daughter of a Chinese restaurant. However, in that era, the Chinese were relatively reserved, and the boss did not want his daughter to interact with foreigners, so he broke off contact.
After the first marriage, he still did not change his original intention and wanted to find a Chinese woman to accompany him for the rest of his life. And at this time, I happened to appear in front of him.
I just joked, "What do you think of oriental women? I am a career-oriented, not a kind of little woman who depends on others. I cook and make bed sheets for you every day! Don't think it's wrong!"
(We returned to China in the winter of 20 years, climbing the Great Wall at minus 20 degrees)
He answered me humorously: "I don't want someone who puts sheets for me every day. What I need is someone who messes up the sheets!" You said that it's such a person, how could you resist his tenderness?
Temporary gentleness is easy, lifelong sweetness and joy are hard! Time flies so fast, and we have been together for 10 years in the blink of an eye, but I think it seems that only two or three years have passed. Good love can make people forget time and age. Meeting the right person will make people regret meeting too late!
Now our daughters are almost college graduates, and their parents are old and become disabled elderly people. I am still fulfilling my last social responsibility. In addition to taking care of our parents, we will drive RV to walk in Spanish towns, mountains and castles.
Occasionally count the past, talk about each other's past when they were young, and ask each other: "Where were you that year? Why didn't you come to me earlier?" If we had known each other for ten years, perhaps, we would have had a few beautiful children...
(our RV trip)
On October 1 this year, we have known each other for ten years! I also celebrated my 60th birthday, or the 10th anniversary of our stay together. We will go to the world's largest cruise vacation and go on a journey to the mountains and seas together!
I just regret meeting too late and staying together too short. I want to make up for all those missed youth and past times with him, and work together to step on the waves by the sea, watch the fallen clouds on the top of the mountain...
I wish there are years to look back and share the old days with deep affection!
[Oral: Anna]
[Editor: Su Yu]
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