Sometimes I always feel that for the elderly, life in their later years is actually very simple. They have a healthy body, a place to live, three meals a day, and filial children. Then such a life is already very stable and down-to-earth. If you can have a good pension and a sufficient deposit at this time, it will add icing on the cake to your later years. After all, as you age, people's demand for external factors will gradually decrease, and life will become dull.
But not every elderly person knows how to arrange their own retirement. On the contrary, there are always some elderly people who become more and more confused as they are in their later years. If they do not choose the right thing in some things, they will eventually lead to their worse and worse life in their later years, and also make their retirement more and more difficult.
60-year-old aunt's regret: Three wrong decisions after retirement, spent all their savings, but no one gave me retirement
Narrator, 60-year-old aunt Zhou:
I am sixty years old this year and I am very disappointed or helpless about my old age. Looking back on the stupid decisions I made after retirement, I regret it very much.
I have a wife who has been with her for decades. We don’t like each other so much, nor are we so close. On the contrary, as we spend more and more time together, the various contradictions and problems that arise between us have become important factors that affect my life. It is said that a couple will have the urge to divorce ten thousand times in the process of their lives. This seems to be my life state. Since our lives became dull after we got married, the idea of divorce has appeared more than once, but I have to endure every time, and I always want to endure it as much as possible. If I insist on persisting, I will live. But until the year after I retired, my idea of divorce became stronger and stronger, and the idea of "living for myself for the rest of my life" became stronger and stronger.
At this moment, I made the first wrong decision, divorce!
Maybe it was just an irrelevant quarrel, maybe it was just a trivial matter, just because he came back from work and thought the food I cooked was not delicious. After complaining for a few words, we started to quarrel. In the end, I filed for divorce, very calm and cautiously told him. After he was silent for a few days, he chose to agree. This time, neither of us continued to try to keep us. The son and daughter came to help keep our marriage. They didn't want to see our state and tried their best to persuade us to calm down. But we didn't regret it at the beginning. After suffering for so many years, it seemed that divorce was a good thing for us.
After the divorce, this house was left to me, and he moved to his son's house to live. The family's savings were more than 200,000 yuan, and we were half of them. When he moved out, he felt sad. After all, he had lived together for decades, and he still would be reluctant to leave. But I thought that I would no longer have to argue with him in the future and no longer have to serve people in life, so I was very determined.
After the divorce, I don’t have to worry about my financial situation at all. Every month I have my own pension of 2,000 yuan, plus the property we shared equally during the divorce, and there are still more than 100,000 yuan, not to mention the help from my children. Life is completely guaranteed, and I also started my free and comfortable life in my later years. At that time, I was only in my fifties and had no major health problems. It is completely okay to take care of myself. Moreover, I don’t want to remarry, just want to live freely by myself.
But I ignore that the greatest happiness actually comes from inner satisfaction. After I became a person, my life became more or less deserted, no one spoke or communicated.
In order to alleviate the dullness and boredom in life, I began to try every means to make up for the loneliness in my heart.
And at this time I made the second wrong decision to spend money to buy a happy life.
Because I have enough savings in my hand, because I have my own pension every month, so I don’t have to worry about food and drink, and life, so I started to plan to make myself happy. I tried to travel, but I was really not interested and kept running around. I tried to sign up for some senior interest classes, such as calligraphy classes, dance classes, etc., but when I had to pay the money, I regretted it and felt that I was old and it was useless to learn these. In the end I fell in love with making money.
At the suggestion of an old sister, I went to invest in a beauty shop. I invested 80,000 yuan. At the beginning, it was fine. I would pay dividends at the end of each month and give it to me according to the benefits. I felt that I gave the last few thousand yuan in the first month, but later it gradually decreased until I lost money.
was also during that time. My happiness was bought with money. I didn’t know how to open a store, but I kept doing beauty treatments. Every time I made a perfect life, I went to the mahjong hall. Every time I was in the mahjong hall, I would play in it for a day. From the beginning, I just played it, and in the end, in order to have fun, it doesn’t matter how much I earn, and it doesn’t matter how much I pay. This mentality greatly affected my life. Although I did get happiness and satisfaction, I also lost a lot of money. I calculated that in those years, I did not forget to do so. In addition to the 80,000 I lost my investment, plus my daily expenses and the money I lost in playing mahjong, I spent a total of nearly 130,000 to 140,000. When I divorced, I didn’t have much left in the deposit, only more than 10,000 left. I felt extremely anxious and very frightened. I also restrained my days in the future. I was no longer as casual as before. It was not easy to go to the mahjong hall. Most of the time I just played with ordinary friends in the community. The children didn’t know about this, and I kept it hidden.
But in my later life, I once again regretted my third wrong decision and did not take myself seriously.
did not pay attention to my health. At the beginning, I felt that it was a common cold. I always felt that it was a small problem. I didn’t go to the hospital, so I bought some medicine and took it myself. It was so painful that I took two painkillers. Although it also relieved my life, it was not a cure for the symptoms. Finally, I went to the hospital after the pain was too much. As a result, after the examination, it was said that it was a gynecological tumor and needed surgical removal. I was worried that it would become worse and worse. This made me suddenly collapse. My son and daughter took turns to take care of me, and I also gave my son the only remaining 10,000 yuan to my son as my various expenses.
Although the operation was successful, my body also collapsed, and life alone seemed to be very difficult, so I had to live temporarily at my daughter's house. Now I have lived in my daughter's house for more than half a year, and I also noticed my son-in-law's dissatisfaction, but now I don't know what to do. It's not appropriate for my daughter to live in my daughter-in-law. My son's ex-husband is also there. I don't know how to tell my son and daughter-in-law, sometimes I think: Shouldn't you divorce at the beginning? If I have money now, I can live a good life with a nanny.
I also want to live the next life. When my health is completely recovered, I will move back home. After all, living alone is more free. In fact, I would like to advise all retired elderly people to plan their lives well in their later years. Whether they are divorced or not, they should plan their lives reasonably. No matter whether they are rich or not, they should not be carefree. Taking good care of their own body is more important than anything else.
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