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There is a saying in China that is called: Poor couples are sad.
For a family, the economic situation can directly affect a family's quality of life and happiness. But in fact, although money is important, it is not the most important thing.
After all, you can earn money without money. As long as the family is willing to work hard, no family will be poor for the rest of their lives.
After all, the sorrow of a family is not that they have no money, but that they tell others these two privacy. This is the beginning of mutual centrifugation, and it is also the beginning of gradually declining.
1: The real economic situation of the family
There is a small story circulating among the people:
There are two hotels on the street, they are competitors. In a certain year, both hotels encountered a very serious economic crisis at the same time.
The owner of one of the hotels adopted the method of reducing expenses. He quit some workers and no longer decorated the store. He hoped that this could be achieved through this crisis.
The other hotel owner used the opposite method. Instead of dismissing the workers, he renovated and rebuilt the hotel with great fanfare, making the hotel magnificent and more grand than before.
According to ordinary people's ideas, this renovated and rebuilt hotel is so squandering under economic tight conditions and should soon go bankrupt, but the truth is exactly the opposite.
The hotel that tightened its expenses business became worse and worse and soon went bankrupt. Another refurbished hotel, because it became more grand, some business partners felt that he had strong funds and was more willing to cooperate with him, so he successfully survived the crisis.
This story actually tells us that poverty is not terrible, but if you let everyone know your poverty, this is the most terrifying thing, because your image in people's hearts is gone.
The same is true for a family. The poverty of the family is only temporary. As long as the family works together, you can always get rid of this poverty situation through your own efforts. However, once the impression of embarrassment is formed in the eyes of outsiders, it will be very difficult to change the deep-rooted impression of others. A poor family tag like
will bring great social pressure to family members, which may attract ridicule, disgust, alienation, and may also cause family members to lose many opportunities.
Maintaining the family image is not about trying to save face, but a manifestation of self-esteem.
There is no need to slap the swollen face and pretend to be rich, but there is no need to tell everyone about your difficulties like a beggar.
Those who are really willing to help you don’t have to speak up, they will also help you. For those who are in a joke mentality, even if you let them know how difficult it is now, they will not give you a penny, they will just add a little to the joke.
Some difficulties can only be spent together. There is no need to open the most embarrassing wounds to show them in front of others.
2: Conflicts between family members
Family and talents are all prosperous, and what is more sad than a family is to let others know that there are various contradictions between your family.
Family ugliness should not be made public. Many people have heard of this sentence, but many people often cannot do it in their lives.
Everyone has a desire to talk. When there is a conflict with family members, they will want to talk, vent, and seek other people's recognition.
But you have to know that family members are always family members and the person closest to you. No matter how much outsiders agree with you in their words, in fact, their hearts towards you will never be as sincere as their family members.
At the same time, you tell outsiders about family conflicts, which is actually intensifying the conflict. If family members hear what you are saying from others, they will have a kind of anger of being betrayed, and the conflict that was originally a small one will become unhandled.
The conflict in the family is always to solve it yourself by closing the door. The family will hope you are better, and outsiders may just want to watch the fun.
at the end:
For a family, temporary poverty is not terrible, but if you tell the two family secrets mentioned above, it will not only not solve your current difficulties, but it will also have a long-term impact on the future, cast a shadow on the future of the family, and also create a gap between family members.
So take care of your mouth, know what you can say and what you can’t say, keep the secret of your family, and all difficulties will pass.
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