Speaking of remarriage in later years, although it has been very popular in recent years and many people have found true love, it does not mean that this kind of marriage will definitely be happy.

Introduction

Speaking of remarriage in his later years, although it has been very popular in recent years and many people have found true love, it does not mean that this kind of marriage will definitely be happy. Why is this?

In fact, this is also very intuitive to see through. Everyone knows that those who remarry in their later years are all elderly people who have married and families. They have nothing more than their purpose in remarrying. Some people are just to have a support. , but some people have no intentions, want to find a free nanny or money tree, etc.

Therefore, it is difficult for elderly people who remarry in their later years to be as good as their original wife and strive for the happiness of their marriage. Most of them have ghosts in their hearts.

A 59-year-old Aunt Liu experienced a failed remarriage. It was only 4 months after remarriage, and my second-married wife made three requests, which made Aunt Liu very dissatisfied. She felt that it was already fair to pay and work on her own. Unexpectedly, the other party was embarrassed to make a request, and in the end, the marriage was due to this. Breaked.

So what is going on? What kind of requirements does the man make? Let’s take a look together:

The following is from Aunt Liu’s self-report:

I am 59 years old this year and I am a woman with bumpy life.

23 years old, I was the only one left in the family. At the age of 25, I lent it to my husband in the same unit. After a pretty good marriage for 20 years, I didn't expect that an accident happened and my husband passed away and I fell into pieces again. Enter single.

I have been single for 13 years now. My son has started a family and started a business, and I have become a grandma. But because I couldn't live in the same room with my daughter-in-law, I have been living alone in my old house after I retired at the age of 55.

Speaking of this, many people may be curious, I have no husband so early, why don’t I remarry one? At the beginning, when I was pretty young, I really didn't think about remarrying at all, because my son happened to be in the third year of high school, and I didn't want to affect him because of my emotional problems.

Later, after he graduated from college, I also tried to go on blind dates, but because I am old, many men who can remarry don’t like it. There are also some people who are very afraid that I am widowed. When I heard that my husband left so early, I was even more afraid that I would have a "husband's life".

So, when I was single at the beginning, I didn’t think about remarriage. At that time, I just wanted to raise my son and then help me with him after my grandson was born. This would be considered as a way to do things. Will become a useless person. But who would have thought that the problem of the disagreement between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law directly affected my retirement life, making me unable to live in my son's house, nor could I help take care of my grandson, and could only live alone.

At this time, I ignited the idea of ​​remarrying. I feel that life cannot always be considered by others, but also think more about myself. Even though I know that I can’t get along with young people, I might as well find a partner to spend it with myself, so that I won’t be too lonely and I won’t live a boring life.

However, I imagined remarriage in my later years is like this. There is no love, but there will definitely be family affection for relying on each other and accompanying each other. However, since I had the idea of ​​remarrying, I went on blind dates to several men, but they all had a purpose. They came up and said how to share the responsibility. What's even more ridiculous is that some men directly said they wanted to AA after marriage. The system is to remarry just to find someone to make do with life.

So, I can't stand this, very materialistic remarried men, feel that they don't have the sincerity.

Later, two years ago, I was picking and choosing, and I found a man that I felt satisfied with. His name is Lao Lin, he is 5 years older than me. He is much better than me in terms of family conditions and physical condition. My pension is 3,000 yuan, but he has 5,000 yuan. He only has high blood pressure , and there is no other problem, but I have Rheumatism and hypoglycemia. So, I feel that it is my luck that I can meet him.

In fact, I like Lao Lin but his generous personality, which makes me like it very much.When he dates, he always treats guests. Although he goes to some small restaurants and small food stalls, he doesn't spend too much money, but he doesn't stingy with me. When talking about remarrying in the future, he also said: " because I I don’t know how to do housework, and I don’t like to do housework either, so after you follow me, you will be responsible for housework, and I will pay for it. We have all the food expenses and the water, electricity, gas expenses at home. Do you think so? OK? ”

To be honest, it is natural for women to do housework. For this reason, I think Lao Lin said this very well and didn’t think too much about it, so I lived a remarriage life with Lao Lin.

We didn’t get a marriage certificate, and we were married in a way. At first, I was a little worried, but seeing that the people around us remarried like this and were living a good life, I felt relieved. We didn't go through any procedures, so we invited a table of relatives and friends, had a meal, and then sang. We were encouraged to drink and drink , and then we became husband and wife.

After marriage, I fully manage the housework at home. Since Lao Lin has lived alone for many years, the house is in chaos. I cleaned almost every day for 10 days before I came to his house. During this period, Lao Lin didn't help me. Seeing that I was fiddling, he chose to go out to play cards. However, he would cooperate with me when he needed to move heavy objects.

Although the cleaning is tiring, I didn’t blame Lao Lin when I thought that this was my new home and my future life. At that time, Lao Lin was very good at pleaseing me. Seeing that I worked hard, I would buy my favorite peaches and help me pinch my shoulders at night. I was quite a good man.

In addition, he would also give me 2,000 yuan of living expenses on time, asking me to buy vegetables, cook, and pay water and electricity bills. Although this amount of money is often not enough, I did not ask Lao Lin for it, after all, it was only more. If you pay dozens or hundreds of dollars, you can still bear it. Occasionally, Lao Lin also knows that I don’t have enough money to spend, so he will automatically make up for it. However, I still feel that there is no need to distinguish between two people so clearly. Sometimes you can spend a lot of money for me and I will spend some money for you, not to mention who pays for you and who raises whoever pays for you.

But Lao Lin said, "It's better to distinguish , so that there will be no too many disputes, it's good for both sides! "

Lao Lin's persistence, I can't correct it, and I silently agree with him like this. Concept. However, my injury and hospitalization made me disgusted with Lao Lin's behavior that I had too clear distinction.

At that time, I spent 5,012.5 yuan on hospitalization. Lao Lin helped me advance. I thought that as a couple, he should pay some money. Unexpectedly, after returning home, he took out an invoice and asked me to reimburse me. I was stunned on the spot. I thought he was joking, but his persistence appeared again. I reluctantly transferred the integer of 5,000 yuan to him, but he said he was still 12 yuan and 5 cents away. I said let it go, but he said in a low voice, let's deduct the food expenses.

I thought he was just joking, after all, it only costs ten yuan, so there is no need to worry too much, right? Who knew that at the beginning of the second month, he only gave me 1,988 yuan. When I saw this number at that time, I was speechless, and because of this, I gradually lost my favor to Lao Lin.

probably the fourth month of the relationship, because of his three excessive demands, I really gave up on him completely.

At that time, the day after Lao Lin's daughter-in-law gave birth to a son, Lao Lin found me and made three requests: "1. My son gave birth to a second child, and you are the only woman in the family. You have to go and help my daughter-in-law to serve me. and grandson; 2. Our family will spend a lot in the future, so I hope we can AA system in the future. If you pay 1,000 yuan, I will pay 1,000 yuan as our living expenses; 3. If you live in my house now, we will spend an average of consumption. , so your child cannot always come to the house for dinner, it is unfair to me! "

When I heard Lao Lin say this, I was furious and cursed without any politeness: "What's the reason for ? Your daughter-in-law is born I was born after I was born, why did you ask me to take care of me? I am not her mother-in-law, nor her biological mother! I also agreed before the relationship that I would do my best to be responsible for housework, and you are responsible for paying money and contracting the house Why do you have the nerve to mention the AA system to me in the end? Should I be a woman, so I should do housework for you for free? ”

After saying that, I proposed to break up because I have seen Lao Lin’s true face clearly It’s just that he asked me to be a free nanny, and he paid and worked hard, and he said so well, which was really ridiculous!

Seeing that I was so determined to pack my luggage and leave, Lao Lin was also panicked and pulled me and kept saying, "He was just talking casually. If I didn't agree, I wouldn't agree. I asked me to stay and said if I left." Then he can never find a woman as good as me, etc., a bunch of hypocritical words.

However, I have given up on him, because since the end of the relationship, he has not done any housework for more than four months, and he has calculated everything he has done without doing any housework. Now I still want to take care of my daughter-in-law and grandson, and it is ridiculous that my son cannot come to the house for dinner. To be honest, is such a man still a good wife? Is such a marriage worth running?

After leaving Lao Lin, I vowed not to remarry again. No matter how good the other party's conditions were, even if the other party contracted everything and asked me to be a rich wife, I would not remarry again. Because remarriage is an imperfect marriage, how beautiful it is at the beginning will be slightly overturned by reality in the later period.

So I think it’s better to live alone. Although it’s not a good time to live alone, I feel quite comfortable being alone than to be a free nanny for those men who only care about enjoyment.

Women, you should still love yourself more. Some men have the conditions but are not good to us women, so they still learn to give up. There is no man without us in the rest of our life, so we can't live. Are you right?