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Marriage is not a matter of two people, but is related to two families. We help our children choose a marriage partner, and we also help ourselves choose a family. If you choose the right family, your life will be particularly comfortable in the future. Once you choose the wrong family, you may be in trouble and trouble.
This reminds us that we must take this matter carefully.
When looking at problems, you should not only look at the surface, but also learn to see the essence through the surface. Sometimes the appearance of some people is not what they originally looked like, but a disguise made specifically to achieve certain goals.
Young people may not be able to see it and are easily blinded by momentary impulse, but as parents, we must be very energetic and avoid future risks for our children to the greatest extent.
If you can understand the following three unspoken rules when choosing a family, you can not only help your children choose the right person and the right family, but also accumulate blessings for yourself in your later years.
1: Don’t just look at whether the other party’s family has money, but look at their family style and character
Modern people attach too much importance to money. Even when it comes to getting married, many people first consider whether the other party has it. Money, what is the other party’s family conditions? If you only focus on material conditions and ignore character and feelings, then even if you really get married, you may not be able to live a happy life.
Because having money does not mean having happiness, and having no money does not mean being unfortunate. A good marriage is composed of many factors, and material conditions are just one of them.
A truly visionary person chooses in-laws and never singlely sees whether the other party has money. This is a bit one-sided and superficial. They will give priority to the other person's character and family style.
If this person is responsible, responsible, and has a strong ambition, then even if his current conditions are not very good, he will have potential in the future.
After all, character is the guarantee of everything. People with good character will not only treat others with sincerity and treat their marriage and family with sincerity, but also have enough filial piety and good treatment of both parents.
If such a person is a daughter-in-law or a son-in-law, he will save much worry and be much happier in his later years.
2: What they say may not be true. Let’s see what they actually did
Some people will fabricate some facts that do not exist in order to make their children get married as soon as possible. They are very good at saying some sweet words to make people happy. , but in fact, not much action was taken.
people like to listen to some nice words and flattering words, which is understandable, but you must maintain the most basic soberness and rationality. When talking about the specific details of marriage, don’t just look at what the other party has made, but look at what they actually did.
For example, some people promise to get marriage certificate to hold a luxurious wedding, but it was delayed again and again; for example, some people promised to get married first, hold a wedding first, and then buy a wedding house, but it really got married but I found that buying a house was nowhere to be achieved.
People who have promises but no actions are not credible. Such people are not suitable for marriage, and such families are not suitable for being in-laws. You must be rational.
3: Family education and atmosphere will determine the happiness of marriage to a certain extent. You should get along more and learn more about
Whether you marry a daughter-in-law or choose a son-in-law, you must first look at the other party’s family and what is he like The growth environment often has a kind of personality and qualities.
If parents have bad relationships, often quarrels, or have a poor family atmosphere, often have cold wars, or have a bad family style, are unreasonable in everything, and often do things that are difficult to understand, then children who grow up in such an environment, The three views may not be correct.
Family education and family atmosphere will affect the happiness of a marriage. Only by getting along with each other and understanding more can we avoid being blinded by the superficial things and making wrong judgments.
This is not scheming, but the most basic reason, and it is also a kind of vision. After all, getting married is for the rest of your life. If you choose a person and family, it will be full of hidden dangers in the future.
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Really visionary parents will not only consider the present when choosing a family, but will consider the future, and will not only look at the surface when looking at the problem, but will not only look at the surface, but the essence.
Remember that only by determining the other party’s character can we avoid risks in the future. If there is a problem with the character, everything will be zero.
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