I know I don’t stand up to my boyfriend’s mother, who probably calls me a bastard behind her back, but, I really like her way of looking down on me but not being able to kill me. After all, that’s the problem The key is not whether she can like me, but whether I can like her son.
I also want to be a daughter-in-law that she likes based on universal values. However, if I completely fit into her template for a qualified daughter-in-law, I will lose myself and wait for me to be cooked by her warm water. Now, if we can't get out of this big hole and are rejected by her again, it's far better than just adding filters to each other to beautify our faces from the beginning, and each taking a step back to have fun.
When Dayao and I first met, we did not set up a gentle and homely persona, but a naked person who regarded dirt as money. I can look up at the stars and talk about the stars and the moon with you, and talk about poetry, songs, and philosophy of life, but the premise is I lowered my head to pick up the sixpence and got tired, so I raised my head to rest for a while.
Therefore, Dayao and I had given up hope of reforming me since the beginning of our acquaintance. He knew and accepted that I could always pick up sixpence while looking up at the moon with him.
When Dayao told me that on his grandma’s birthday, he asked me to get off work early to help his mother with work, I didn’t object too much. After all, I knew Dayao had more reasons for me to perform. Dayao's aunt and uncle's family were going there that day, and Dayao also wanted me to go and help his mother gain face.
was also lucky that I was more cautious about my work and didn't agree too quickly. I kept a living and said I would try to go as early as possible.
Sure enough, at noon on Friday, a colleague and I discussed taking his place in the last class in the afternoon. He wanted to catch the train and go home early for the weekend.
The last class on Friday is the best time to have fun. Generally, employees in our school’s agency training have this mentality in asking for leave, so the school’s control is not as strict as usual. We don't have to give lectures to the whole class like normal, which is equivalent to earning free class fees. I am not happy to have such a good job. Compared with making money that can be put in my own pocket and working for nothing at Yao's house, no fool can make money.
So I spoke to Dayao confidently. Dayao knew my temper and didn't say anything.
After class, I took a taxi and went to Yao's house.
Firstly, I didn’t plan to buy a gift, and secondly, time really didn’t allow it. After I finished buying cakes and other things, I would really have to go to the door to serve the rice bowl, so I just walked in and gave the birthday girl a thick gift at an affordable price. The red envelope allows her to buy what she likes.
So far, I feel that I have done nothing wrong. The thousand yuan red envelope can be regarded as a great honor for Dayao, but Dayao’s mother got embarrassed when she saw me coming in empty-handed, and even more embarrassed when she saw me taking out a big red envelope. Face.
I wisely pulled Dayao into the kitchen to help, and the old lady’s face grew even longer.
Later, it came out that the power cord was burned, so I simply pretended to be stupid and left the kitchen, leaving her busy in the kitchen.
The old lady had such a face, she didn’t wait until she got to the table and started eating.
I really didn’t expect the old lady to have the courage to teach me a lesson at the dinner table.
When Aunt Yao saw the old lady being embarrassed, she originally wanted to lighten the mood and praised me for how easy my job was. I was about to say something modest when the phone rang. It was my client who was a part-time copywriter who put forward suggestions for revision. I was just talking on the phone. Just a few polite words, but I haven’t really said it yet. When the table full of people went to work on the computer next to me, the old lady took advantage of me and shouted to the side regardless of it, "Are you sensible? There are so many people waiting for you to eat."
She has such a voice. I lost face and lost my status to Dayao.
I glanced at him, and without me saying a word, Dayao automatically became my spokesperson and went to public relations.
Dayao's explanation completely added fuel to the fire. I had no choice but to take action myself. I jokingly said that the job I took just now was quite cool and I could easily earn hundreds of dollars. Then we can get the money to buy candy. Everyone eats.
took a peek and saw that the old lady's mood had been swayed, and she changed her anger to disdain.
That's it.
I continue to wear a high hat and criticize myself for not coming here earlier because I want to make money. On the other hand, I am self-aware and know that I will not be able to do much work, but will cause trouble to the old lady. She can handle this craft by herself.
The old lady was indeed a little relieved.
I have to give the old lady a chance to read her lines. Sure enough, as soon as I had a breath, the old lady started her mother's talk. This woman will still focus on the family in the future. It's not easy for everyone to get together today. Let's make less money. It’s the class fee, so it’s okay to come back early and start playing.
I immediately took over the conversation and criticized myself, finally calming down the atmosphere.
During the meal, I was only responsible for praising Dayao’s mother when she was complaining that no one in the family was working hard, and exaggerating her hard work and merits.
Sisters, don’t hold back and say that I am embarrassing women, and don’t give me advice and say that you should confront the old lady face to face, otherwise she will definitely bully you in the future.
You have to figure out what you want. If I don't have the same experience as her, I will be considered inferior. No matter what she says, I will lose even if I hear a word.
My pretending to be respectful in front of her didn't stop me from calling her son hard behind her back. Anyway, the anger I suffered from her would be doubled back on her son. I was afraid that the anger she had given me would be too little, which would not be enough motivation for me to control her son.
There is nothing difficult about the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If the old lady wants face, just give her face. I don’t make less money that I should earn. I don’t do more housework that I shouldn’t do. I use nice words to coax her to work more. What's wrong with me being less angry?
One of the comments on yesterday's Weibo headlines was very exciting, "Mother-in-law, you can either be a servant, work conscientiously, behave in a proper manner, speak carefully, and pay generously.
Or you can be an enemy, and we will live or die. We live together, and every word, every word, and every deed can reveal class hatred. Or. , Be a stranger and stay away from each other forever. "
It's not that exaggerated, but if you can't be the kind of mother-in-law who can do things well, you can only be the kind of mother-in-law who doesn't do anything thankless. It’s impossible to give them all to you.
All mothers-in-law who squeeze their daughter-in-law's room for growth think they have succeeded. In fact, they are digging a hole for their son. You make your daughter-in-law miserable, but in the end it is your son who lacks happiness. You prevented your daughter-in-law from returning to the workplace, which satisfied your addiction to scolding her, but it also put financial pressure on your son to support the family.
Alas, even though I consider myself to be open-minded, I still think this is an unsolvable problem. How can there be so many cheap daughters-in-law who listen to you and respect you as the boss, are full of martial arts skills, can fight hard, can make money to support the family, and can also make money to support the family? You have done all the housework so that your son can play games without getting scolded. If you really have such a satisfying daughter-in-law, I would have booked ten or eight of them. Where is your turn.
The best way I can think of is to shut up and let your son move his legs, improve your son's ability to make money and change his wife, so that the daughter-in-law will feel the pressure and dare not rebel.
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