Everyone dreams of being able to hold hands with the person who only has you in their heart for the rest of their lives, the person who will never be apart from each other until we grow old together. However, in the adult world, everything can never go as planned. Doubt, suspicio

Everyone longs for the person they can hold hands with and only have you in their hearts for the rest of their lives.

However, in the adult world, how can everything go as planned? Doubt, jealousy, betrayal and temptation often exist in marriage and become a stumbling block to relationships.

We once thought that love that lasts forever will also face various tests from the outside world. Among them, the most troublesome one is extramarital affairs .

When it comes to feelings, some people are loyal, while others are distracted.

So, who are more likely to change their hearts in relationships? From a behavioral and cognitive perspective, such people often have the following three characteristics.

01, like to play ambiguously with the opposite sex.

Some people say that ambiguity is actually a kind of behavior in which two people who have no definite relationship test each other, show their goodwill to each other, and let the relationship go around and around, but they can't let go of each other.

I wholeheartedly agree with this statement. However, for people who are already married, if they are used to enjoying ambiguous relationships, the seeds of extramarital affairs have already been planted.

My best friend said that her husband likes to play games at home after get off work. They have a special game group. There are so many male gamer netizens that he doesn’t want to find, but he likes to find girls to play with him, and chatting ambiguously while playing. Messages, terms like dear, sweetheart, etc. After my best friend saw it, she felt very uncomfortable, so she had a big fight with her husband and asked him not to play games with girls in the future.

But my best friend’s husband said: “I just play games with others online and don’t do anything else. Are you being too lenient?”

My best friend said: “You’ll know when you get back from get off work all day long. Even if you want to play games, why don’t you find a team with so many men?”

My best friend’s husband said: “If you don’t play games, you don’t understand. It’s not tiring to work with men and women. Playing games is meant to relax, so why are you so nervous? I think you are thinking too much. "

Is it true that your best friend is thinking too much and being too lenient?

You must know that when we truly love each other, we can completely reject all ambiguous information from the outside world, let alone take the initiative to interact and flirt with the opposite sex.

For people like my best friend’s husband, on the surface it seems that he is just playing games at home, but in fact he is enjoying the spiritual satisfaction brought to him by other members of the opposite sex. Once the time is right, he may have an extramarital affair.

When we choose another person to be our life partner, we should not let other people go in our hearts, let alone establish ambiguous relationships with other people of the opposite sex, leaving a way out in the relationship and looking for spare tires.

02, Lack of propriety with the opposite sex and not knowing how to say "no"

People often ask: "Is there pure friendship between opposite sexes?" Everyone has different opinions on this topic.

I believe that a sense of propriety is very important when getting along with opposite sexes. If you get too close, you have crossed the line, and unexpected things may happen.

Xiaoyu's husband is well-known as a "good old man" in the company, and he has a good relationship with everyone, especially with a few female colleagues who have just been together.

Every time these female colleagues ask Xiaoyu’s husband to take them home after get off work, he will not refuse; when they are in a bad mood, they will also chat with him; even every month, my aunt will call her when she is in pain Give it to him and ask him what to do?

As long as Xiaoyu's husband receives messages from colleagues, he always responds to requests. Although they never talked about feelings, this feeling made Xiaoyu feel very unhappy.

But Xiaoyu's husband said: "We are all colleagues in the workplace. When others have difficulties, I just help them. These girls are all fresh graduates and don't understand anything. It is not easy for them. Even if they ask me for help, I will not I'm sorry not to help."

Xiao Yu was furious and said angrily: "Are you the only one in the company? Why don't they find someone else? Although you are very kind to me, you are always responsive to their requests! If what you give me is the same as what you give to others, then I don’t want it. "

In love, if I can't be your only one, I would rather quit. In the final analysis, the biggest characteristic of love is exclusivity . It is preference, it is me who is different from others.

Like Xiaoyu's husband In this way, Xiaoyu is no different from his colleagues in the company if he blindly acts as a "good guy". Therefore, some interactions are between lovers and husbands. Everyone has to do some favors for outsiders and others for others. You must grasp this degree. Once you violate this point, no matter how strong the love is, it will no longer be rare. In the end, your marriage will be shaken. They don’t have a strong sense of right and wrong or morality. They don’t think cheating is an unforgivable mistake. They always put their own needs first, regardless of other people’s feelings. When problems arise, they don’t take the initiative to admit their mistakes. They will also find reasons for each other. Such people are often not single-minded in their emotional outlook and lack the ability to self-discipline.

In the final analysis, they are selfish. Living with such people has many hidden dangers. Interests and feelings, and lack of sympathy and moral sense, are more likely to be shaken when tempted.

Fidelity is more valuable than the spark of encounter.

Married friends, please remember: Don’t. When you are ambiguous with the opposite sex, remember to maintain a sense of propriety and keep your bottom line with morality.

Life is a long journey, and it is not easy to meet someone who is really good to you. If you meet someone, please cherish it forever. I am Xiaojing. A stay-at-home mother from Sichuan, follow me and tell us about the things happening around us!