childhood, we often have the impression that:
elder population, the family always had a "wonderful relatives" -
Single Unmarried, running away from the family to the big city, I don’t know what I’m doing every day, and I don’t like to go home during the holidays... The "rebellious and unfilial" aunt/cousin/cousin became our own.
However, is it the result that we want to be such a "strange relative"?
Young people who are stuck between the big city and their hometown do not want to go back, or are they "not going back"?
We are "stuck in place",Trying to split up
Young people who successfully came to Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen to work alone are generally divided into two types.
The first type is young people who were born in first- and second-tier cities.
When I was young, I worked alone in the most advanced cities, and temporarily did not need to bear the pressure of raising a family. Moonlight can achieve a petty bourgeoisie life.
In order to maintain this wealth and freedom experience and escape some complicated responsibilities, TAs do not want to go home for the time being.
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especially personality-or sexuality,People who are quite "maverick" in their hometowns, and those with extremely serious problems in their native families.
Because the humanistic environment outside is too free and ideal, it is too far away from the narrow world before. TAs are like beasts out of the zoo. It is difficult to see the active world outside. Retreat to the cage.
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At this time, the entanglement, contradiction and confusion, lies in the two worlds appear to be "incompatible".
North, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, can we stay? Stay, then cut off everything behind?
Back to the town, can we do it? Give up, and then forget the outside world?
This may be a kind that generally belongs to young people in modern China,Very real and stinging mentality:
We stuck ourselves.
we "return home", in turn fled
talk to this topic and had to recommend a book:
"Return to Hometown".
author Didier Eribon is a low-class working-class French philosopher who is squeezed out by his own homosexuality. Knowledge jumped out of the bottom prison.
Thirty years later, he returned to his hometown due to the death of his father.
In the book,He called the town, family and childhood memories that gave birth to him together-
"a social space that I used to deliberately alienate, a spiritual space that served as a negative teaching material in the process of my growth, is also the hometown that still constitutes my spiritual core no matter how I resist. ”
The mentality is quite similar to that of young people in the big cities today.
No matter how you struggle, as long as you go home, it seems that everything will be beaten back to the original.
Even the Summer, Linda, and Amanda who are in the business world, after returning to their hometown, they will turn back to be wrapped in a big flower jacket and be urged by the seven big aunts. .
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The big cities and the new environment urge us to make rapid progress, and the families who stay in the same place will always live slowly in their comfort zone.
Compared with falling leaves returning to the roots, we are more annoyed to deal with the "span 6span " that we feel every time we go home.
For the author who jumped out of the bottom class in "Return to Hometown", "Things that I tried to escape from _spanspan are still part of _spanspan6."
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Middle-Who is to blame for this? At least I understand that this is not just the responsibility of an individual.
the appearance of dislike,And my own reflection on this dislike, quietly formed a circular circle. In the middle, there are only new thoughts and old emotions that grow wantonly and have nowhere to put them.
We use further growth to trap ourselves in place.
As the author said, this is a "change your own work" _span17span _spanstrong _strong. It may be so long that it may take a lifetime.
Who is deprived of "spiritual home"?
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this scene,The debate between Zhan Qingyun and Chen Ming is called the "fairy showdown".
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and doing or not doing it will be for humans and for The world has an impact for better or worse.
While we are making many decisions, have we taken away the right to speak of countless people who have been decided?
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During this journey, the author tried to reflect on and analyze the meaning of this long "life escape" .
For the old family of the native class, "Fleeing is also a kind of violence in itself." Not in individuals.
He was born from the bottom, but after "fleeing", he understood, pityed, and sympathized the working class through the mouth of the privileged class.
and never returned to his parents and the surrounding group of so-called "vulgar, uncivilized, and unreasonable" people.
At this time, whether it is us or our family, it seems that we are exiled "spiritual refugees" .
We have only one enemy, but many times, it seems that we have more than one enemy.
When the big city's "intruder" , our hometown has become the last fetter that we fly higher and higher. There is no worries about the line.
This is the same thread, and at the same time good fortune and good fortune depend on each other.
After a complete cut, what will we lose? What will we lose if we are pulled back into place along the line? No one can interpret these two answers at the same time.
I only know that there are countless people flying in the air with a string behind their ass. And, thinking about the same question all the time:
should I go up?Should we go down?
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Only hope that every trace of mood swings that we have for this-
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Whether right or wrong.
is "breakaway" or "homecoming"
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