Recently, through observation, I found that older people in the community have many ways to support their elderly care. Some are taken care of by their children, some are found by their partners, and some are helped by their friends, but the largest proportion is to ask a nanny to take care of their lives.
Among them, there are more elderly male employers, so why are gay men more willing to hire nanny to take care of themselves? We interviewed three old men and saw what they said:
Uncle Hu, 70 years old, a man lacks the ability to take care of himself and needs a nanny to take care of his daily life.
I started hiring a nanny to take care of me in the third month after my wife passed away. Now it has been ten years. I have changed three nannies in the past ten years, and we all got along very well.
Some people may say why they started looking for nanny at such a young age? Actually, I had no choice!
My wife was virtuous and diligent when she was alive. She kept it at home and outside. I had never been worried about her for decades of marriage. My wife became a person who was incapable of taking care of herself.
My wife died suddenly in her sleep. She had no time to explain anything, leaving me alone in life. I can tolerate the loneliness of living alone, but it is the three meals and housework that stumped me this day.
The children are far away from home and cannot take care of me every day, and relatives and friends just come to help me occasionally. If no one cooks for me, I might have to go hungry or order takeaway. There was no choice but to decide to ask the nanny to be responsible for my three meals a day.
I now have to pay 3,000 yuan of nanny fee per month, which I think is quite worth it. The nanny will prepare clothes and housework for me. I can eat delicious meals every day, which will be good for my health.
Uncle Huo, 68 years old, men are more likely to be lonely, and hiring a nanny can be someone to accompany him.
I have been with the nanny for three years now. The nanny is from the north and she is very diligent and kind. My monthly pension is only about 6,000 yuan, but I have to pay her a salary of 4,000 yuan. Although I have very little left, I feel it is worth it.
Because I was very lonely after my wife passed away, I went to my son's house for more than half a year, which was so tormenting. It’s not that they are not filial to me, but that they are too busy. Every day I go out early and come back late, it’s midnight when I get home. I am left myself during the day and at night, and I am very lonely every day.
Now the situation of hiring a nanny is different. Every day, someone at home takes care of me. Usually, the nanny would accompany me for a walk and go to the supermarket to buy things together, and we got along like we had a friend for a long time.
hiring a nanny in daily life can someone guarantee you that you will have more friends when getting along well, so that you will not be lonely every day. This is much better than living with your children or finding a partner yourself.
Uncle Zhou, 72 years old, it is inconvenient for children to take care of themselves, and the nanny can take care of her 24 hours a day.
I have been hiring a nanny for more than a year now, and I hired a male nanny who is twenty years younger than me. Why do I have to hire a nanny and a male nanny?
Because I accidentally fell last year and had a broken leg. It is said that it hurts the muscles for a hundred days, but I know the taste.
I have to lie in bed every day and can’t move. I need someone to feed me when I go to the toilet. I can only solve the problem in bed. I can still tolerate all of this, and the most embarrassing thing is the problem of taking a bath.
Because the weather is hot in summer, I sweat a lot every day, so I have to take a bath every day. But my children are busy at work, so it is impossible for me to have time to take a bath every day. Besides, my children are old and I always feel embarrassed to let them take a bath for me.
Later, my daughter saw my concerns, so they discussed and hired me a male nanny. Although the male nanny salary is higher, it is really much more convenient for me to take care of the same-sex people.
Now the nanny will cook for me and clean up the room, and play chess with me. We get along like old friends.
The existence of the nanny industry does provide great convenience to everyone, and at the same time, nanny can also get paid by their own abilities, which is a double benefit.
If the nanny and the employer want to get along well, the trick is that both parties must treat each other with care. The employer must be sincere and the nanny must be honest. Only in this way can both parties achieve a win-win situation in maximizing their interests!
