In a foreign classroom, the teacher organized students to conduct an experiment. He wrote down four interpersonal relationships: husband, parents, children, and friends on the blackboard.
Then a girl came up and drew a relationship in order from low to high importance, and the girl finally retained the relationship between husband and wife on the blackboard.
In this regard, the girl explained that it was not because she was cold-blooded and ruthless, but because on the long road of life, parents will leave before themselves, children will also have their own lives, and friends will not accompany them for a long time. Only husbands will accompany them until the last moment of their lives.
It can be seen from this that husband and wife relationship is the closest relationship in the world.
I just don’t know when it started. The phenomenon of sleeping in separate beds between couples is very common, and it seems to have become a potential trend, which makes many people puzzled by this. After all, if a couple sleeps in separate beds, they always feel that this phenomenon is caused by the breakdown of their relationship.
However, psychological research shows that in the relationship between couples, it is actually because of the philosophical philosophy.
Why do couples sleep together?
In " Wang Gui and Anna ", the male and female protagonists were very shy when they first got married because they were together through blind dates. Although both families knew each other's family background, the parties involved did not have enough time to get along with their personalities and hobbies.
Therefore, even if the two have the closest husband and wife relationship, they will still be a little unfamiliar and shy when they get along.
Therefore, sex has become an important base for them to communicate with each other.
After the night is late, Wang Gui and Anna are lying on the bed, saying and saying a word, and achieving the purpose of exchanging and understanding each other in the process of communicating 's .
It is in such an environment that the two people's originally somewhat unfamiliar relationships have also become familiar.
In a gender relationship, the establishment of intimacy can help us feel the sense of belonging from love.
Under the framework of husband and wife's relationship, we will inevitably hope that the two people can understand each other, or even know each other's roots, so that we can have the most unswerving confidence and courage to stay together through the long years.
Therefore, it becomes a natural thing for couples to sleep on at . The distance between the two people is shortened and the touch between the bodies can give the two people sufficient opportunities to deepen and sublimate the relationship.
Why is it a pragmatic philosophy for couples to sleep in separate beds?
Due to the change of seasons, my seasonal rhinitis has occurred again. My nose is blocked and it feels very uncomfortable. Even when I go to bed at night, I am not as honest as before.
According to roommates, the sound of my snoring at night is deafening, but I am a person who sleeps very heavily, so there is no way. She can only choose to slept with other roommates to avoid my snoring and bombardment.
In fact, between husband and wife, due to personal habits or physical reasons, one of the couple will inevitably have differences with the other party when sleeping, such as snoring, such as getting up in the middle of the night.
If the other party has a very light sleep quality, these will not constitute too much problem. If the other party sleeps lightly, a little movement will wake him (her). Then at this time, if you force sleep in a bed, there will be a barrier due to these unchangeable habits.
The so-called pragmatist philosophy means that based on each other's actual interests, both parties start from the most objective perspective and use some reasonable and effective methods to safeguard each other's interests.
For couples, although sleeping together is conducive to enhancing each other's feelings, if they force each other to get closer due to certain unchangeable factors, this will often cause the relationship between the two people to be separated, and it will slowly develop into an invisible thorn, stinging each other from time to time.
bed sleep reflects the way of getting along between husband and wife
Before we were together, each of us was a unique individual, if it was not for fate, if it was not for love.
I think, maybe in the vast crowd, we would not have met so lucky and been together so lucky.
Based on this situation, it is common for couples to have differences. Twins will have differences, let alone two people who did not have any relationship.
Therefore, if this relationship lasts forever, it is necessary for both husband and wife to respect each other's differences to a certain extent, respect each other's living habits, and seek common ground while reserving differences.
Shi Tiesheng once said this: "Like it means seeing something good or even very good. The thought that comes with it is: want to possess it.
Love it is mostly seeing something bad or not good enough. In fact, it is hoped that it is good or even very good. The motivation that comes with it is: willing to give."
The relationship between husband and wife must be based on love. Therefore, two people who truly love each other will not force each other to change for themselves. He (she) chooses to respect each other and do not infringe on other people's private space casually.
bed sleeping is not equivalent to breaking up feelings. On the contrary, it is a way for couples to get along with each other that we are worth learning. Only love that is tolerant and respect can achieve the beauty of a pair of people in one lifetime.
