It is better to be a real person. Don’t be stupid or be self-righteous. There are many smart people in this world. Do you think you are very smart and can live with your little cleverness. But in fact, others are not stupid, and they will not be confused by your cleverness.
When getting married, both men and women should treat each other with sincerity and discuss the details of the marriage. Don’t discuss being careless when you get married. It’s a clever way to fool the other person. When you get married, it will definitely be unpleasant.
Marriage is a lifelong event. Don’t get married impulse or use deception methods. Now is the era of freedom of marriage, and it is no longer the era of marrying a chicken and following the chicken. So if you get married by deceptive means, the other party can still divorce you after marriage, so don’t be lucky.
The day after getting married, the mother-in-law asked the daughter-in-law to return the bride price
Xu Zhen and her boyfriend met through a friend's introduction. After dating for a year and a half, they were urging by the parents of both parties and were about to get married. When discussing the marriage, Xu Zhen's family proposed to buy a good wedding house. As for buying two bedrooms, one living room or three bedrooms, one living room, they had no objection, but they must have a wedding house.
My boyfriend's family agreed immediately, and my mother-in-law said she would definitely buy a good wedding house and asked the woman's family to rest assured. When talking about the dowry, Xu Zhen's mother wanted 120,000 yuan, and of course the mother-in-law thought it was too much, so the two sides bargained, and finally agreed to have a dowry of 100,000 yuan.
The reason why Xu Zhen's mother insisted on asking for the bride price was because she had tasted enough of the pain of not asking for the bride price, so she could not let Xu Zhen repeat her experience. When she married her husband, because her husband's family was poor, she did not ask for the bride price in order to take care of her husband's family.
She took care of her husband's family, but after marriage she had conflicts with her mother-in-law, but her mother-in-law always called her worthless, saying that she would not dare to ask for the bride price if she couldn't get married. Every time the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a conflict, the mother-in-law always scolds her like this, and she feels extremely humiliated and painful.
So now she is marrying her daughter, she insists on asking for the bride price, and the bride price is even higher. She felt that the higher the bride price, the more the man's family valued his daughter-in-law, because they didn't care about his daughter-in-law, but they also wanted to feel sorry for the money!
In fact, for Xu Zhen and others, the 100,000 yuan bride price is not high. Some families want 200,000 to 300,000!
After discussing the marriage, both parties begin to prepare for the wedding, the man buys a wedding house, the woman buys a dowry, etc.
When getting married, both parties held it as agreed, so the wedding went smoothly. But the day after getting married, the situation changed, so that Xu Zhen was so angry that she divorced her husband.
The next day, I was going back to the door, but Xu Zhen and her husband got up early, but when they went downstairs for breakfast, a relative came. Xu Zhen naturally greeted his relatives very politely, so her mother-in-law asked Xu Zhen to go to the kitchen with her, and she had something to say to Xu Zhen.
It turned out that the bride gift money given to Xu Zhen by the in-laws was borrowed by the relative. Now that the relative's family has urgent matters, they come to ask for the money. This was what my mother-in-law promised her when she borrowed money, saying that she would pay it back the next day after marriage. They just made a temporary turnover, so now relatives come to get the money.
When my mother-in-law was talking about these, Xu Zhen didn't know what her mother-in-law meant, but just listened quietly. Later, the mother-in-law came to a conclusion and asked Xu Zhen to take out the betrothal money and she wanted to return it to her relatives. Xu Zhen then realized that of course she disagreed. How could she give the bride money to the woman's family? She had to pay it back to the man as soon as she got married?
Although Xu Zhen's mother fought for 100,000 yuan in bride price from the man's family, she and her husband didn't take a penny and gave it to Xu Zhen. My mother also told Xu Zhen to save the money as private money and not to take it out if there is no special thing.
Now my mother-in-law insists on Xu Zhen taking out the betrothal money. What's going on? Relatives and friends all know that the Xu Zhen family took the bride price, but now they have to pay it back, which means that the Xu Zhen family confiscated it at all, and they have only the name of receiving the bride price.
Xu Zhen firmly disagrees. If he wants to return it, then don’t agree to her at the beginning.The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law immediately started arguing. After hearing the quarrel, the husband immediately walked into the kitchen. Xu Zhen thought her husband would blame her mother-in-law for being wrong, but her husband stood on her side and asked Xu Zhen to take out the money.
For a moment, Xu Zhen felt that she was isolated and helpless. Although her father-in-law didn't say anything, she was obviously standing on the side of her wife and son. Because Xu Zhen refused to take out the money, the mother-in-law was very angry and said to her son: "Precaution your wife, set rules for her, and if you marry into our family, you have to listen to us."
After hearing her mother-in-law's words, my husband slapped Xu Zhen in the face, and Xu Zhen was stunned! After coming back to his senses, Xu Zhen threw down the word "divorce", shed tears and returned to her parents' home angrily. Later, Xu Zhen insisted on divorceing her husband and returned the bride price to the man's family, and the man's family regretted it.
people must abide by the agreement and keep their promises
When discussing the marriage, both the man and the woman are also like signing a contract. Therefore, after the two parties have negotiated various matters, they must do as agreed. Regarding the bride money, since the man has given it to the woman, the dominance is in the woman's hands, and the man can no longer interfere.
Xu Zhen’s ex-in-law’s family is a bit like cheating about the issue of bride gifts and money. They gave the woman the bride price and asked her daughter-in-law to return the bride price the next day after marriage. Of course, the woman would not want to.
If the man's family did not give the bride price, maybe Xu Zhen would not marry her husband. The reason why she agreed to get married was that the man agreed to give the bride price 100,000 yuan. But now after getting married, the man's family asked Xu Zhen to return the betrothal money. This is the man's family's first violation of the agreement, and the Xu Zhen family will also violate the agreement.
people must abide by the agreement and keep their promises. No one can break the bridge across the river. Xu Zhen’s ex-mother-in-law thought that her daughter-in-law had already entered the house and everything would be fine, but she didn’t expect that her daughter-in-law would file for a divorce. The former mother-in-law thought she was smart, but she was so smart that she was misled by her cleverness, which made her so useless.
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