: In any relationship, you should stay true to yourself. Changing yourself just because of what others think will only lead to disaster.
The heroine Gu Nian in "The War of the Roses" was also an excellent lawyer, and she and her husband Song Jiachen founded the law firm Tianlun Qiankun.
Later, due to family needs, she returned to her family and became a full-time housewife, taking care of the lives of her daughter and husband. With the strong support of Gu Nian, Song Jiachen became a famous gold medal lawyer.
But unexpectedly, Song Jiachen was arrested and the fact of cheating was revealed in court. Gu Nian couldn't accept it and chose divorce.
In our impression, women who are cheated on have become yellow-faced women or resentful women because of their families.
But Gu Nian has a slim figure, well-maintained appearance, gentle temper, and a virtuous family. Why does her husband cheat on her?
Let’s break down the three mistakes Gu Nian made in his marriage:
Viewers who watched this TV series should be so angry at Song Jiachen, a scumbag, that they hate cheating men, and also agree with Gu Nian’s strength and forbearance.
Everyone saw that after the divorce, Gu Nian stayed at Yishenghe Law Firm with Fengsheng's help. In the law firm, she worked hard and was finally recognized by everyone.
Her ability is obvious to all, and with the help of Fengsheng, she has been cheating all the way in her career. When handling cases and collecting evidence,
is always able to find key evidence in detail. But why did such a perceptive woman fail to discover Song Jiachen's scumbag nature?
had been deceived for ten years before she found out in court that her husband had cheated on her.
She has been married to Song Jiachen for ten years. She has always trusted him, respected him, taken good care of him, guarded her home, and was a truly good wife and mother.
From Gu Nian's failed marriage, it is not difficult to find Song Jiachen's sanctimonious and lustful nature.
I don’t believe that there are no signs before marriage, and Gu Nian, who is studying law, should have carefully examined the marriage partner, but he did not discover his scumbag nature.
A good wife does not cherish her, but instead plays with women outside, and ends up making a mess of herself. The important thing is that he pushed the originally harmonious family relationship to a dead end and made Gu Nian despair of him. He was really a complete scumbag.
The funny thing is that Fengsheng has been in love with Gu Nian since college, and has been helping Gu Nian ever since.
How could Gu Nian easily get a job at a law firm without abundant help along the way? She has been a housewife for ten years after her marriage and lacks work experience. And there is no advantage in age.
And Fengsheng helped her find a way out despite a lot of pressure, and he always inspired her and helped her find ideas at work.
Such a person actually missed it. This is not a bad vision, what else could it be?
Therefore, when a woman gets married, she must keep her eyes peeled and find the right person. Marriage for a woman is equivalent to reincarnation for the second time, so she must choose carefully.
British physicist Faraday once said:
Love is not only synonymous with friendship, but also a reliable guarantee for our struggle for a common cause. Love is a good companion in life. You and your beloved woman sleep in the same bed because they share the same bed. The ideal binds the two hearts together.
A man may be attracted to a woman because of her beauty; but a man must fall in love with a woman not only because of her beauty, but also because of her talent, and the way to show her talent is through her work.
If a woman accepts a man and starts a family, and gives up her proud job for the sake of the family, then her status in the man's mind will no longer be that of the woman who attracted him in the first place.
Take a closer look at Gu Nian's daily life in the first episode: chatting with her neighbor about how to roast roast chicken and what seasonings to put on it. You can't tell that this is a female lawyer who once dominated the workplace.
Then Song Jiachen appeared. After getting up in the morning, Gu Nian quickly greeted her. After the couple hugged, Song Jiachen said she was hungry, and Gu Nian quickly served a carefully prepared breakfast.
In Gu Nian's heart, family is very important. Her husband Song Jiachen is not only the man she loves, but also the father of her children, and the financial source of their entire family.
So during the ten years that she was a full-time wife, she took care of his daily life meticulously.
So her biggest mistake was to completely give up her major and her job.
When she gave up all this, her former glory disappeared, and she became like all women, doing laundry and cooking, taking care of her children and husband, and having trouble with her neighbors.
While men are working hard outside, they are not only husband and wife, but also the parents of their children, and there is no overlap in their thoughts.
Without a common language and thoughts, men will slowly get bored. This is an inevitable outcome.
Therefore, women should not give up their jobs at any time, because women at work are the most attractive.
Secondly, Gu Nian did not control the family's financial power, otherwise he would not have moved out of the villa after Song Jiachen was detained because he could not afford the expenses.
Song Jiachen has been running a law firm for so long. If Gu Nian was in charge of the money, how could he not have enough money to pay off the mortgage?
She might have thought that Song Jiachen was the person closest to her, no matter who cared about the money.
It may also be that she feels embarrassed to have financial power in the family if she doesn't work.
This is really wrong. Two people who love each other must not be separated from material life.
In a relationship, although talking about money is a bit tacky, it can ensure the stable development of the relationship between two people.
There are very few families where the husband and wife each keep their own property. For the joint property of the husband and wife, who has the right to keep this property seems to have become a problem that must be faced.
In a family, women managing money can often better ensure the stability of the family and the harmonious development of the relationship between the two people.
Therefore, if a woman does not work, she must keep track of a man's money trends, how much he earns, spends, and how much entertainment he has every month. Only if you know these things in your heart, will you not be kept in the dark when a man cheats.
So when Gu Nian was in college, he missed the right man, missed out on a truly good man, and chose a sanctimonious scumbag. After getting married, he gave up the major he studied and the career he founded for the scumbag. There is also no control over the family's financial power, which gives the scumbag the opportunity to cheat.
So as a woman, you must avoid these mistakes. Marrying a woman is equivalent to reincarnation for the second time. You must keep your eyes open and never give up your job and financial independence at any time.
