"She is disobedient", "I just hope she can be obedient", when a husband uses the word "obedient" to demand his wife, then the marriage is destined to fail.

"She is disobedient", "I just hope she can be obedient", when a husband uses the word "obedient" to ask his wife, then the marriage is destined to fail.

When a woman marries such a man, the marriage will be very painful, with no status or respect.

In marriage, the husband's attitude determines the happiness of the marriage.

Post-95 husband and post-00 wife

Liu Qiang, who lives in Xiangtan, Hunan, is 26 years old. He works in engineering in Changsha and earns over 10,000 yuan a month. His wife, Ye Jingwen, is 22 years old and graduated as a nurse.

One day, he unexpectedly discovered that his wife, whom he had been married to for a year and a half, was working in an entertainment venue as a single and unmarried person without telling him. He even discovered ambiguous messages between her and a strange man, which made him very angry and collapsed.

Liu Qiang and Ye Jingwen got married in February last year, and they were married by their own children.

Liu Qiang is a post-95 generation, while Ye Qianwen is a standard post-00s generation. The two met on the Internet, when Ye Jingwen was still in college. Liu Qiang fell in love with the young, beautiful and fashionable Ye Jingwen at first sight, and then launched a fierce offensive. They quickly established a relationship, and their relationship was very sweet during their relationship. Later, Ye Jingwen found out that she was pregnant, and the two decided to get married after discussion.

My son is now one year and nine months old, cute and well-behaved. Liu Qiang loved Ye Jingwen very much, and he didn't want the family to break up. So he said he was willing to forgive his wife for her cheating. But Ye Jingwen refused to communicate with him and insisted on getting a divorce.

When reporters saw Liu Qiang, his face looked lonely and haggard. He had many doubts in his mind. He obeyed his wife in everything, and he would not let her do anything after marriage. He has been at home since graduation, and he has never disliked it. Am I not good enough to her? Why do you still cheat? You could obviously choose to be a nurse, why would you choose such an unorthodox job?

He definitely said that his wife was brainwashed because she worked in an entertainment venue. She thought it was easy and easy to make money quickly, so she chose this industry.

Husband collapsed: Can’t I support you?

Liu Qiang decided to talk to his wife face to face, hoping that she would change her mind. But after meeting, Ye Jingwen remained silent.

No matter how Liu Qiang tried to persuade her to stay, she had to get divorced.

When talking about his wife working in an entertainment venue, Liu Qiang became very angry: Is it clean to make money in that place? Can't I support you?

Seeing his wife's refusal to communicate, Liu Qiang was helpless. He said that since his wife went to work in an entertainment venue in April this year, the relationship between the couple has changed a lot.

Ye Jingwen sat on the bed, still saying nothing. But there are a lot of bruises on the arms and legs, which look like new and old injuries superimposed on each other.

It turns out that after Liu Qiang discovered his wife's ambiguous text messages, he lost control and did some extreme things. Not only did he beat his wife, he even pointed a knife at her.

Liu Qiang's extreme behavior filled Ye Jingwen's heart with fear and terror. Now that I think about it, I can't help but tremble all over and cry.

Ye Jingwen said that she had never done anything deviant and was just working in an entertainment venue. But as her husband, Liu Qiang beat her many times.

Liu Qiang said that he had a clear conscience and had only taken action once. The reason for taking action was very strange. He said that he took action to save his wife and did not want her to make the same mistake again and again. At that time, he only wanted to hurt himself when he took the knife, but unexpectedly it frightened his wife.

Liu Qiang kept calling "wife" and kept apologizing, hoping that his wife could forgive him. His love for Ye Jingwen is paranoid and humble.

He explained that his excessive behavior was all because of love, and he cared too much, so he was afraid of losing her. But this kind of love makes Ye Jingwen feel scared and disgusted, and now she is very reluctant to communicate with him.

Liu Qiang couldn't help crying when he thought of his wife's rejection of him. The first meeting ended unhappily.

Liu Qiang refused to give up and decided to meet his wife again. However, because Liu Qiang's multiple acts of domestic violence and paranoid love frightened Ye Jingwen, she was still unwilling to communicate with Liu Qiang.

When a reporter asked Ye Jingwen what her specific job was at an entertainment venue, she replied that she was just an ordinary employee. But Liu Qiang didn't believe it at all. He took over and said: She is being a princess.

Ye Jingwen denied that she was acting like a princess. She said that she had not done anything to regret her husband, and the ambiguous messages were just to maintain her client's needs. But her actions have touched Liu Qiang's bottom line as a husband.

Unequal relationship model

The reason why the marriage between Ye Jingwen and Liu Qiang has reached its current stage has a lot to do with the relationship between the two.

Ye Jingwen has been raising her husband and children at home since graduating from university, and has never gone out to work. All expenses had to be asked for from Liu Qiang. This kind of life made her feel very inferior.

Without an economic foundation, there is no right to speak. Over time, Ye Jingwen felt very painful and depressed, so she decided to go out to make money. But because nurses work very hard, I was introduced to work in an entertainment place.

She had been hiding it from her husband when she went to work at an entertainment venue. When her husband found out, she was very scared.

Ye Jingwen has a very introverted personality and doesn't like to talk. When something happens, he will just remain silent. Liu Qiang is basically in charge of everything at home. Liu Qiang is a very controlling person. No matter what time it is, he will send a video to Ye Jingwen to confirm her whereabouts.

Liu Qiang always took advantage of the fact that he was older than Ye Jingwen, so he always spoke to her in the tone of an elder.

Regarding his wife, Liu Qiang said: Have I ever disliked you since you were always at home? I just want you to be obedient.

The word "obedient" has been mentioned by Liu Qiang all the time. He always hoped that Ye Jingwen would be obedient. But she is a living person with her own thoughts and pursuits. How can she be an obedient puppet .

Liu Qiang believes that his wife has to divorce now because she was brainwashed by working in an entertainment venue and because he is too indulgent and caring.

The Bondage of Love

The mother of the Ye family did not agree with this marriage at all. Firstly, Ye Jingwen was too young and still studying, and secondly, she had never been in society and didn’t understand anything. But Ye Jingwen would not marry Liu Qiang.

Now that she heard that her daughter wanted a divorce, the mother of the Ye family did not agree. Marriage is not a child's play, it is not about getting married when you want, and leaving when you want, but you also have to think about your children. She believed that her daughter's request for divorce was related to the Liu family's delay in holding a wedding, which showed that her daughter was not taken seriously by the Liu family.

But when she learned that her daughter had been domestically abused by Liu Qiang, she was extremely angry. She never thought that the daughter she held in her hands would be bullied like this, so she immediately agreed to her daughter's idea of ​​divorce.

Ye Jingwen's brother said that the two of them could discuss everything carefully and there was no need to go to the stage of divorce. He believes that the problem does not lie with one person. His sister is introverted and stubborn, and it is inevitable that conflicts will arise between the two.

Now, Liu Qiang also realizes that he did something wrong and should not use extreme methods. He promised that he would correct himself and hoped that Ye Jingwen would not work in an entertainment venue again.

Liu Qiang is not only paranoid, but also self-centered. I hope Ye Jingwen will put him first, but such a bound love makes Ye Jingwen just want to escape.

Liu Qiang’s character has a lot to do with his native family. His father passed away when he was young, and his mother was busy making a living and had no time to take care of him. That's why he does this because of his extreme lack of love.

After communication, the two parties came to the mediation room. Through the patient guidance of the mediator, Ye Jingwen was finally willing to speak. She said there were three reasons why she could not accept Liu Qiang:

The first was because of his domestic violence , which made her feel scared;

The other was that Liu Qiang was not motivated. Let her see no hope;

The third one is the communication problem between the two parties.

The two of them are husband and wife. Although I am young, I hope Liu Qiang will not always communicate with her in the tone of an elder.

Through the mediator’s patient persuasion, Liu Qiang promised that he would make things right. He said he would work hard to give his wife a good life.From now on, I will respect my wife and will no longer indulge in random suspicion and domestic violence. I will communicate with my wife about everything. The mediator

also advised Ye Jingwen not to embark on a road of no return because she was too young, stop working in entertainment venues, and find a good job.

Ye Jingwen also admitted his mistake and promised to give Liu Qiang three months for both of them to calm down. She will also quit her job in an entertainment venue and return to work as a nurse.

sentiment analysis:

After the three-month cooling off period of and , I hope both of them can reflect on their own problems.

Liu Qiang's love is too heavy and paranoid, and he only hopes that his wife can surround him. But he ignored that the relationship between husband and wife was an equal relationship, instead of always communicating in an elder's tone depending on how old he was, which would only make Ye Jingwen even more disgusted.

Ye Jingwen has been raising her husband and children at home since she graduated, and has never been in contact with society. And her classmates and friends are working hard and working hard at this age. Comparing yourself with others will make you feel inferior. When she comes into contact with the outside society, she will long for freedom.

Because Ye Jingwen's personality is too introverted and not good at communication, Liu Qiang said that Ye Jingwen's best communication method is not communicating. In this way, one is speaking and the other is listening. Ye Jingwen would not speak out what she thought, and Liu Qiang didn't know what Ye Jingwen wanted, so there was a gap between the two.

I hope they can learn how to get along as husband and wife through this incident. Run your own small family well and give your children a warm home.