But suppose that your daughter is the last in elementary school and her academic performance is the last. Can you accept it? Most parents may not accept this situation, but this Peking University professor accepted this situation.

Every parent hopes that their children will one day be Jackie Chan Become a Phoenix.

also thought that their children could reach the peak of their lives with their own knowledge and abilities.

But if your daughter starts in elementary school, her academic performance will be the last. Can you accept it?

Most parents may not accept this situation, but this Peking University professor accepted this situation of the child.

The professor is named Ding Yanqing. After graduating from Peking University , he served as a professor and doctoral supervisor at Peking University.

His wife also graduated from Peking University, and the couple are definitely top students.

Professor Ding Yanqing is holding a lecture

Such combination of excellent genes, in theory, the offspring born will definitely not be bad.

However, in fact it is surprising. The couple's daughter is already in elementary school, but is the last in the class.

The couple have tried to improve the status quo of their children, but they still have no effect after using many methods.

Faced with such a reality, Ding Yanqing and his wife could only accept it and no longer put pressure on their daughter.

So what caused Ding Yanqing's daughter to become like this?

Professor Ding Yanqing

Ding’s family has a daughter

Before telling her daughter, let’s first learn about her father, Ding Yanqing.

Ding Yanqing, a bachelor's degree in sociology at Peking University, was admitted to the Institute of Higher Education Sciences at Peking University for his outstanding grades.

As Ding Yanqing, a master's degree in public administration in the institute, successfully stayed at the institute after graduation and served as an associate professor. Although

has already joined the company, Ding Yanqing still does not forget to improve his academic level.

So in 2001, he was admitted to the School of Education at Columbia University in the United States and went to the United States to study in the same year.

In 2005, Ding Yanqing successfully graduated and obtained a doctorate in philosophy from Columbia University in the category of socioeconomics.

At this time, Ding Yanqing's academic research directions include education economy, education finance and rural compulsory education.

He mainly studies the efficiency and fairness issues arising from the allocation of educational resources in these types of fields, as well as some social issues such as supply and demand and statistics of funding in the compulsory education stage in my country, and rural education guarantees.

Peking University

And Ding Yanqing's wife is also a top student at Peking University and successfully obtained a master's degree from Peking University. "elite" couples like

can be said to be the ceiling of the academic class of our parents.

Parents with such high IQ, logically speaking, the children they give birth to will definitely inherit their abilities.

What's more, Ding Yanqing's major is to focus on education, and there is basically no burden on children's enlightenment until they enter school.

Before the child went to school, Ding Yanqing and his wife also thought so.

But reality caught them off guard.

Ding Yanqing's daughter not only did not inherit the excellence of the couple, but even at some point could not compare to ordinary children.

It is said that the knowledge learned in elementary school textbooks is not difficult, but Ding Yanqing's daughter cannot understand it at all.

Every time I take the exam, Ding Yanqing's daughter will be extremely collapsed, and her grades will be the last.

Peking University Affiliated Primary School

Seeing this result, let alone Ding Yanqing and his wife, even the people around them felt puzzled.

And his daughter's grades are so difficult to see, it also makes him very ashamed of Peking University professors.

Ding Yanqing has been smarter than other children since his enlightenment and is often a role model for other parents in their hearts.

When he was six years old, he had already recognized all the words in " Xinhua Dictionary " and was regarded as a "child prodigy" by people around him.

From childhood to adulthood, Ding Yanqing's academic performance has been among the best, and he was a student in a key school before he went to college.

What's more, after Ding Yanqing was admitted to Peking University, he stayed in the school because of his excellent overall scores.

Not only Ding Yanqing, his wife was also treated as "other people's children" since childhood.

Even Ding Yanqing himself said that he was more troubled by the child's situation and tried many methods but it was useless.

But as parents, they must be very anxious when faced with problems with their children's academic performance.

Ding Yanqing was interviewed by

So Ding Yanqing plans to make up for the loopholes in his studies for his daughter and try to get her daughter to catch up with other classmates as soon as possible.

In order to tutor your daughter more efficiently, Ding Yanqing takes her to his office every day after school.

Ding Yanqing thought that his daughter was just a young and loved to play, and it would improve after training.

After all, in Ding Yanqing's heart, he didn't accept his daughter very much, but even an ordinary child was not as good as an ordinary child.

But the matter did not follow Ding Yanqing's idea, and his daughter's inattention was too serious.

In Ding Yanqing's office, his young daughter sat at the table and looked at her father.

Ding Yanqing told her daughter in a soft voice that she would tutor her and her grades would improve soon.

At the beginning, the daughter did not show any resistance and sat down quietly to do her homework.

However, during the first few times when my daughter was doing her homework, Ding Yanqing found that her daughter was wandering from time to time.

She wrote her homework for a while and then put down her pen and began to look around and make small moves.

Ding Yanqing looked at her daughter's inattention, so she planned to stare at her daughter doing her homework.

Ding Yanqing After being interviewed by

, Ding Yanqing would dissuade him as long as his daughter began to get distracted during the learning process.

But my daughter is still young and doesn't know how to control her desire to play.

After several times, Ding Yanqing's patience was also smoothed out.

Since mid-October 2020, Ding Yanqing's roar often echoed on the third floor of Peking University faculty and staff office building.

The daughter doesn't seem to understand why her father treated her like this.

The usually gentle and loving father just needs to open the homework book, and he is like a different person.

Whenever Ding Yanqing stares at her, she becomes panicked for no reason.

Over time, Ding Yanqing's daughter also became resistant to learning.

Most of the teachers on the office floor where Ding Yanqing is located have experienced similar things.

So although the teachers in the office building are constantly in contact, no one comes forward to persuade them.

Everyone subconsciously believes that such chaos on the road to educating children is inevitable.

Ding Yanqing's daughter is studying

Nature is hard to change

Ding Yanqing's daughter is studying at Peking University Affiliated Primary School, so the teaching staff is naturally unspeakable.

So before Ding Yanqing tutoring his daughter in school, he would understand what the teacher said.

What I do this is first of all, to understand how much the daughter has learned the knowledge taught by the teacher, and secondly, to sort out the focus of tutoring.

However, in the face of Ding Yanqing's inquiry, his daughter often acted unaware of it.

Ding Yanqing heard that it was the result, and like most parents, he scolded his children.

In front of his daughter, Ding Yanqing is no longer a professor, but a father who is exhausted from studying physically and mentally.

Ding Yanqing will give her the subjects she studied on that day after her daughter has finished school every day.

However, because my daughter is not focused, he needs to explain a knowledge point several times.

There were a few times when Ding Yanqing was wondering if his daughter deliberately did it because she resisted learning.

social platform publishes Ding Yanqing's interview

Slowly, Ding Yanqing's daughter began to be afraid of school and was afraid to come to her father's office.

is the same for Ding Yanqing, but as his father, he must take such responsibility.

But Ding Yanqing never expected that his daughter was not interested in learning at all, and she would make mistakes on simple questions.

After a long time, Ding Yanqing and his daughter were in great pain, and their daughter's personality also changed.

But in Ding Yanqing's view, learning is the best way to change life.

So Ding Yanqing not only tutored her after school, but also did not forget to consolidate the words and texts on the way to school.

Ding Yanqing's office slowly turned into a small tutoring classroom.

The bookshelf are placed with primary school tutoring materials and reading materials, and next to the bookshelf are chairs and stationery for children.

Ding Yanqing was interviewed by

Ding Yanqing's way of tutoring his daughter is relatively violent. No matter how loud the daughter cries, homework and tutoring must be completed. Under the educational method of

, my daughter's academic performance has improved significantly.

Ding Yanqing constantly fills the gap in his daughter's academic performance, and wants to maintain his daughter's learning balance as much as possible.

Two months later, the daughter is about to take her final exam.

After the daughter's exam, Ding Yanqing was anxiously waiting for the announcement of the results.

Hard work pays off. Although my daughter's test scores are not among the top, she is no longer as embarrassing as the last one.

Looking at the result, Ding Yanqing forgot about the previous two months of rush.

Ding Yanqing held the transcript in both hands and immediately started preparing for the tutoring project during the winter vacation.

Because of his daughter's progress, he regained his confidence. He is a professor at Peking University, how could he not be able to tutor his children well?

Dante Yanqing's winter vacation tutoring plan has not been completed, but his wife had a conversation with him.

Children teach in the classroom

Ding Yanqing's wife went to work in Yunnan after finishing her graduate school at Peking University.

She took advantage of the winter vacation and rushed back to Beijing from Yunnan to visit her husband and daughter.

But just after I got home, my wife sensitively discovered that her daughter's condition was abnormal.

Before she returned home, she could always hear her daughter's cheerful voice, but this time she came back, her daughter became a little bored.

As a mother, she was worried about what happened to her daughter during the days when she was not around. After asking

, she realized why her daughter became like this.

Facing Ding Yanqing, she solemnly said to him:

"How did you take care of your daughter during this period? Why is her personality not as lively and cheerful as before?"

Ding Yanqing told his wife carefully what happened during this period and explained why she did this.

After hearing this, his wife quickly pointed out the problem of Ding Yanqing doing this:

"The child is still young. If you put so much pressure on her now, everything will be reversed."

The children studied in the classroom

and let it go

One word woke up the dreamer. Ding Yanqing recalled all these times and found that his daughter had indeed become abnormal.

Before Ding Yanqing tutored his daughter in a simple and crude way, she was a very lively and cheerful child.

But with Ding Yanqing's increasingly radical tutoring, his daughter began to become depressed.

Not only that, Ding Yanqing also found that his daughter also became less smirking and always looked worried.

Every time Ding Yanqing takes his daughter to the office for tutoring, she always shows a very resistant state.

At that time, Ding Yanqing was anxious about his daughter's study, so he ignored all these details.

Now that I think about it, if I continue to be so radical, my daughter may have a big problem with her psychology.

Ding Yanqing couldn't help but smile bitterly when he thought of this. He had been engaged in educational research for so many years, but he had made such a mistake.

So Ding Yanqing put the winter vacation tutoring aside and had a special conversation with his daughter.

Ding Yanqing was interviewed by

During the chat, Ding Yanqing found that his daughter's psychology had changed.

The daughter told Ding Yanqing that she had no interest in learning now.

In the eyes of her daughter, the school, textbooks and even Ding Yanqing's office have become her nightmare.

What's even more terrifying is that in his daughter's heart, Ding Yanqing is no longer the image of a kind and gentle father in the past.

Every parent hopes that their children will one day be Jackie Chan Become a Phoenix.

also thought that their children could reach the peak of their lives with their own knowledge and abilities.

But if your daughter starts in elementary school, her academic performance will be the last. Can you accept it?

Most parents may not accept this situation, but this Peking University professor accepted this situation of the child.

The professor is named Ding Yanqing. After graduating from Peking University , he served as a professor and doctoral supervisor at Peking University.

His wife also graduated from Peking University, and the couple are definitely top students.

Professor Ding Yanqing is holding a lecture

Such combination of excellent genes, in theory, the offspring born will definitely not be bad.

However, in fact it is surprising. The couple's daughter is already in elementary school, but is the last in the class.

The couple have tried to improve the status quo of their children, but they still have no effect after using many methods.

Faced with such a reality, Ding Yanqing and his wife could only accept it and no longer put pressure on their daughter.

So what caused Ding Yanqing's daughter to become like this?

Professor Ding Yanqing

Ding’s family has a daughter

Before telling her daughter, let’s first learn about her father, Ding Yanqing.

Ding Yanqing, a bachelor's degree in sociology at Peking University, was admitted to the Institute of Higher Education Sciences at Peking University for his outstanding grades.

As Ding Yanqing, a master's degree in public administration in the institute, successfully stayed at the institute after graduation and served as an associate professor. Although

has already joined the company, Ding Yanqing still does not forget to improve his academic level.

So in 2001, he was admitted to the School of Education at Columbia University in the United States and went to the United States to study in the same year.

In 2005, Ding Yanqing successfully graduated and obtained a doctorate in philosophy from Columbia University in the category of socioeconomics.

At this time, Ding Yanqing's academic research directions include education economy, education finance and rural compulsory education.

He mainly studies the efficiency and fairness issues arising from the allocation of educational resources in these types of fields, as well as some social issues such as supply and demand and statistics of funding in the compulsory education stage in my country, and rural education guarantees.

Peking University

And Ding Yanqing's wife is also a top student at Peking University and successfully obtained a master's degree from Peking University. "elite" couples like

can be said to be the ceiling of the academic class of our parents.

Parents with such high IQ, logically speaking, the children they give birth to will definitely inherit their abilities.

What's more, Ding Yanqing's major is to focus on education, and there is basically no burden on children's enlightenment until they enter school.

Before the child went to school, Ding Yanqing and his wife also thought so.

But reality caught them off guard.

Ding Yanqing's daughter not only did not inherit the excellence of the couple, but even at some point could not compare to ordinary children.

It is said that the knowledge learned in elementary school textbooks is not difficult, but Ding Yanqing's daughter cannot understand it at all.

Every time I take the exam, Ding Yanqing's daughter will be extremely collapsed, and her grades will be the last.

Peking University Affiliated Primary School

Seeing this result, let alone Ding Yanqing and his wife, even the people around them felt puzzled.

And his daughter's grades are so difficult to see, it also makes him very ashamed of Peking University professors.

Ding Yanqing has been smarter than other children since his enlightenment and is often a role model for other parents in their hearts.

When he was six years old, he had already recognized all the words in " Xinhua Dictionary " and was regarded as a "child prodigy" by people around him.

From childhood to adulthood, Ding Yanqing's academic performance has been among the best, and he was a student in a key school before he went to college.

What's more, after Ding Yanqing was admitted to Peking University, he stayed in the school because of his excellent overall scores.

Not only Ding Yanqing, his wife was also treated as "other people's children" since childhood.

Even Ding Yanqing himself said that he was more troubled by the child's situation and tried many methods but it was useless.

But as parents, they must be very anxious when faced with problems with their children's academic performance.

Ding Yanqing was interviewed by

So Ding Yanqing plans to make up for the loopholes in his studies for his daughter and try to get her daughter to catch up with other classmates as soon as possible.

In order to tutor your daughter more efficiently, Ding Yanqing takes her to his office every day after school.

Ding Yanqing thought that his daughter was just a young and loved to play, and it would improve after training.

After all, in Ding Yanqing's heart, he didn't accept his daughter very much, but even an ordinary child was not as good as an ordinary child.

But the matter did not follow Ding Yanqing's idea, and his daughter's inattention was too serious.

In Ding Yanqing's office, his young daughter sat at the table and looked at her father.

Ding Yanqing told her daughter in a soft voice that she would tutor her and her grades would improve soon.

At the beginning, the daughter did not show any resistance and sat down quietly to do her homework.

However, during the first few times when my daughter was doing her homework, Ding Yanqing found that her daughter was wandering from time to time.

She wrote her homework for a while and then put down her pen and began to look around and make small moves.

Ding Yanqing looked at her daughter's inattention, so she planned to stare at her daughter doing her homework.

Ding Yanqing After being interviewed by

, Ding Yanqing would dissuade him as long as his daughter began to get distracted during the learning process.

But my daughter is still young and doesn't know how to control her desire to play.

After several times, Ding Yanqing's patience was also smoothed out.

Since mid-October 2020, Ding Yanqing's roar often echoed on the third floor of Peking University faculty and staff office building.

The daughter doesn't seem to understand why her father treated her like this.

The usually gentle and loving father just needs to open the homework book, and he is like a different person.

Whenever Ding Yanqing stares at her, she becomes panicked for no reason.

Over time, Ding Yanqing's daughter also became resistant to learning.

Most of the teachers on the office floor where Ding Yanqing is located have experienced similar things.

So although the teachers in the office building are constantly in contact, no one comes forward to persuade them.

Everyone subconsciously believes that such chaos on the road to educating children is inevitable.

Ding Yanqing's daughter is studying

Nature is hard to change

Ding Yanqing's daughter is studying at Peking University Affiliated Primary School, so the teaching staff is naturally unspeakable.

So before Ding Yanqing tutoring his daughter in school, he would understand what the teacher said.

What I do this is first of all, to understand how much the daughter has learned the knowledge taught by the teacher, and secondly, to sort out the focus of tutoring.

However, in the face of Ding Yanqing's inquiry, his daughter often acted unaware of it.

Ding Yanqing heard that it was the result, and like most parents, he scolded his children.

In front of his daughter, Ding Yanqing is no longer a professor, but a father who is exhausted from studying physically and mentally.

Ding Yanqing will give her the subjects she studied on that day after her daughter has finished school every day.

However, because my daughter is not focused, he needs to explain a knowledge point several times.

There were a few times when Ding Yanqing was wondering if his daughter deliberately did it because she resisted learning.

social platform publishes Ding Yanqing's interview

Slowly, Ding Yanqing's daughter began to be afraid of school and was afraid to come to her father's office.

is the same for Ding Yanqing, but as his father, he must take such responsibility.

But Ding Yanqing never expected that his daughter was not interested in learning at all, and she would make mistakes on simple questions.

After a long time, Ding Yanqing and his daughter were in great pain, and their daughter's personality also changed.

But in Ding Yanqing's view, learning is the best way to change life.

So Ding Yanqing not only tutored her after school, but also did not forget to consolidate the words and texts on the way to school.

Ding Yanqing's office slowly turned into a small tutoring classroom.

The bookshelf are placed with primary school tutoring materials and reading materials, and next to the bookshelf are chairs and stationery for children.

Ding Yanqing was interviewed by

Ding Yanqing's way of tutoring his daughter is relatively violent. No matter how loud the daughter cries, homework and tutoring must be completed. Under the educational method of

, my daughter's academic performance has improved significantly.

Ding Yanqing constantly fills the gap in his daughter's academic performance, and wants to maintain his daughter's learning balance as much as possible.

Two months later, the daughter is about to take her final exam.

After the daughter's exam, Ding Yanqing was anxiously waiting for the announcement of the results.

Hard work pays off. Although my daughter's test scores are not among the top, she is no longer as embarrassing as the last one.

Looking at the result, Ding Yanqing forgot about the previous two months of rush.

Ding Yanqing held the transcript in both hands and immediately started preparing for the tutoring project during the winter vacation.

Because of his daughter's progress, he regained his confidence. He is a professor at Peking University, how could he not be able to tutor his children well?

Dante Yanqing's winter vacation tutoring plan has not been completed, but his wife had a conversation with him.

Children teach in the classroom

Ding Yanqing's wife went to work in Yunnan after finishing her graduate school at Peking University.

She took advantage of the winter vacation and rushed back to Beijing from Yunnan to visit her husband and daughter.

But just after I got home, my wife sensitively discovered that her daughter's condition was abnormal.

Before she returned home, she could always hear her daughter's cheerful voice, but this time she came back, her daughter became a little bored.

As a mother, she was worried about what happened to her daughter during the days when she was not around. After asking

, she realized why her daughter became like this.

Facing Ding Yanqing, she solemnly said to him:

"How did you take care of your daughter during this period? Why is her personality not as lively and cheerful as before?"

Ding Yanqing told his wife carefully what happened during this period and explained why she did this.

After hearing this, his wife quickly pointed out the problem of Ding Yanqing doing this:

"The child is still young. If you put so much pressure on her now, everything will be reversed."

The children studied in the classroom

and let it go

One word woke up the dreamer. Ding Yanqing recalled all these times and found that his daughter had indeed become abnormal.

Before Ding Yanqing tutored his daughter in a simple and crude way, she was a very lively and cheerful child.

But with Ding Yanqing's increasingly radical tutoring, his daughter began to become depressed.

Not only that, Ding Yanqing also found that his daughter also became less smirking and always looked worried.

Every time Ding Yanqing takes his daughter to the office for tutoring, she always shows a very resistant state.

At that time, Ding Yanqing was anxious about his daughter's study, so he ignored all these details.

Now that I think about it, if I continue to be so radical, my daughter may have a big problem with her psychology.

Ding Yanqing couldn't help but smile bitterly when he thought of this. He had been engaged in educational research for so many years, but he had made such a mistake.

So Ding Yanqing put the winter vacation tutoring aside and had a special conversation with his daughter.

Ding Yanqing was interviewed by

During the chat, Ding Yanqing found that his daughter's psychology had changed.

The daughter told Ding Yanqing that she had no interest in learning now.

In the eyes of her daughter, the school, textbooks and even Ding Yanqing's office have become her nightmare.

What's even more terrifying is that in his daughter's heart, Ding Yanqing is no longer the image of a kind and gentle father in the past.

My daughter thought that Ding Yanqing no longer loved her as much as before when she saw that she had poor academic performance.

In this conversation, the daughter told Ding Yanqing very directly that she didn't like the knowledge in the textbook at all.

The reason why she tried hard to force herself to learn was because she was afraid that Ding Yanqing would be unhappy.

Ding Yanqing listened to his daughter's confidant silently, but his heart was as heavy as a stone.

Although her daughter's academic performance gave Ding Yanqing a headache, she is indeed a sensible and good child.

On the other hand, Ding Yanqing himself ignored his daughter's feelings and arranged for her to study paranoidly.

After the daughter confides her thoughts, Ding Yanqing thought for a long time.

Ding Yanqing said that he was not comparing with

Recalling these few months ago, Ding Yanqing was not so strict with his daughter.

Daughters can choose what they like to learn based on their interests.

Ding Yanqing would not force her to accept things she didn't like.

So at that time, Ding Yanqing's daughter was full of curiosity about the world and had a very lively personality.

But in just one semester, Ding Yanqing's daughter is no longer interested in the world.

Her eyes no longer had the liveliness and agility she had before, and she also lost her curiosity about everything.

In Ding Yanqing's eyes, tutoring classes are the ones he is most reluctant to choose.

A parents as outstanding as them generally choose to tutor their children in their own way.

, but this also creates some disadvantages, which are often not conducive to children's learning.

Ding Yanqing entered this vicious circle, which led to such changes in his daughter.

Ding Yanqing thought for a long time, then discussed it with his wife. After

, the couple decided not to force their daughter to study anymore, so that their daughter could return to the previous state of learning.

Ding Yanqing accepted his daughter's "ordinary" and no longer imposed interference in his studies.

The helplessness of the academic top father

Not only that, Ding Yanqing does not intend to let his children attend cram school, everything is left to the children's interest as the main focus.

Although Ding Yanqing decided to "lead his daughter" he would also communicate with his children patiently.

After all, mastering basic knowledge is still a hard condition in this society, and my daughter is willing to accept it.

That's it. Ding Yanqing asked her daughter to study in her own way, and she returned to her previous cheerfulness.

What made Ding Yanqing even more pleased was that although his daughter's academic performance did not increase much, she was no longer at the bottom.

Ding Yanqing was relieved to watch his daughter go to school happily every day and finish her homework spontaneously when she got home.

Soon, my daughter was promoted to the second grade and unexpectedly became interested in wild animals.

Ding Yanqing and his wife are very supportive of their children's interests and accompany their children to safari in their spare time.

Ding Yanqing will also accompany his daughter to watch documentaries and buy many books related to it.

everyone says interest is the first teacher. While my daughter understands wild animals, she also learns other knowledge.

Ding Yanqing felt even more relieved when he looked at his daughter's current appearance.

He discussed with his wife and let his daughter grow up with his own heart and would never enroll her children in tutoring classes to help them grow.

Ding Yanqing talked about his past experiences

behind the acceptance

Seeing this, maybe everyone will ask, why did Ding Yanqing finally "compromising" to his child?

In fact, as parents, no matter what their profession is, they hope that their children can become successful.

As an associate professor at Peking University, Ding Yanqing has high hopes for his daughter.

Moreover, in Ding Yanqing's opinion, he and his wife are so outstanding, how can they accept the ordinaryness of their daughter?

Ding Yanqing's unwillingness made him eager to correct his daughter's ordinaryness, which ignored the essence of this matter.

Ding Yanqing tells the achievements of his daughter

First of all, parents' love must be rational.

Everyone understands how important children are to parents.

However, most parents ignore an important fact when caring for their children, that is, they are irrational.

Because of this irrationality, some parents spoil their children too much.

They don’t know how to reject children, and they will try their best to satisfy whatever their children want.

Similarly, such parents do not know how to restrain their children, so their children's learning is completely casual. Children like

are likely to go astray due to years of habit after adulthood.

Ding Yanqing talks about his family

, and another type of parents have very high expectations for their children.

Just like Professor Ding Yanqing in the article, he loved her very much when he didn't find that his daughter was not good at studying.

But since he discovered that his daughter had problems with her academic performance, he has shown anxiety and distress.

In order to relieve one's anxiety, he held his child down his head to study.

Ding Yanqing's love for his daughter is not rational, but love mixed with conditions.

The true rational love should be Ding Yanqing's timely analysis of his daughter's problems after his wife communicated.

carefully lists the child’s problems and discovers solutions from them to help the child get out of the predicament in a timely manner.

In Chinese-style families, parents often use grades and scores as criteria for measuring whether their children are excellent.

When you see that your child’s grades are not ideal, you will either beat or scold the child.

They believe from the bottom of their heart that children with poor grades are useless. Values like

will unconsciously affect the children's psychology, thus creating a gap with their parents.

Ding Yanqing talks about his helplessness

However, when parents pursue their children's academic performance, they must also understand that scores do not represent everything.

You should know that every child has their unique highlights, which is what we usually call "talent".

Parents should, like Professor Ding Yanqing, discover their children's talents in time and encourage them.

Children will guide their favorite directions in time and continuously discover their talents.

The children trained in this way will not be like products under the assembly line, but will have different expertise.

So what kind of education is good education? First of all, you need to accept the ordinaryness of your children.

For example, Ding Yanqing and his daughter, parents with high IQs will give birth to children with the same high IQs without scientific evidence.

Ding Yanqing's daughter's living environment and educational resources since childhood are undoubtedly the top-level in China.

But even in such a growing environment, his daughter is just like an ordinary child.

So looking across the country, how many children can have a top-level educational environment like Ding Yanqing’s daughter?

In contrast, many children have been surrounded by countless tutoring classes since they received education, but they often get half the result with twice the effort.

However, accepting the ordinaryness of a child does not mean letting go.

Children need to master basic knowledge during compulsory education, and the content in the textbook needs to be fully learned.

and the rest need to guide children to make their own choices and cultivate their ability to dominate their lives.

Netizens discuss this matter

Every child has his own different life, and they should not be bound in shackles.

Not every child must go to Peking University and Tsinghua University, nor does every child must become a phoenix among people.

Parents should cultivate their children to arrange their lives rationally and wisely, without obsessing with the advantages and disadvantages of their grades.

Only with such education can children grow up completely psychologically. Only when children like

enter society in the future can they face all the ups and downs brought by life with ease.

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However, most parents ignore an important fact when caring for their children, that is, they are irrational.

Because of this irrationality, some parents spoil their children too much.

They don’t know how to reject children, and they will try their best to satisfy whatever their children want.

Similarly, such parents do not know how to restrain their children, so their children's learning is completely casual. Children like

are likely to go astray due to years of habit after adulthood.

Ding Yanqing talks about his family

, and another type of parents have very high expectations for their children.

Just like Professor Ding Yanqing in the article, he loved her very much when he didn't find that his daughter was not good at studying.

But since he discovered that his daughter had problems with her academic performance, he has shown anxiety and distress.

In order to relieve one's anxiety, he held his child down his head to study.

Ding Yanqing's love for his daughter is not rational, but love mixed with conditions.

The true rational love should be Ding Yanqing's timely analysis of his daughter's problems after his wife communicated.

carefully lists the child’s problems and discovers solutions from them to help the child get out of the predicament in a timely manner.

In Chinese-style families, parents often use grades and scores as criteria for measuring whether their children are excellent.

When you see that your child’s grades are not ideal, you will either beat or scold the child.

They believe from the bottom of their heart that children with poor grades are useless. Values like

will unconsciously affect the children's psychology, thus creating a gap with their parents.

Ding Yanqing talks about his helplessness

However, when parents pursue their children's academic performance, they must also understand that scores do not represent everything.

You should know that every child has their unique highlights, which is what we usually call "talent".

Parents should, like Professor Ding Yanqing, discover their children's talents in time and encourage them.

Children will guide their favorite directions in time and continuously discover their talents.

The children trained in this way will not be like products under the assembly line, but will have different expertise.

So what kind of education is good education? First of all, you need to accept the ordinaryness of your children.

For example, Ding Yanqing and his daughter, parents with high IQs will give birth to children with the same high IQs without scientific evidence.

Ding Yanqing's daughter's living environment and educational resources since childhood are undoubtedly the top-level in China.

But even in such a growing environment, his daughter is just like an ordinary child.

So looking across the country, how many children can have a top-level educational environment like Ding Yanqing’s daughter?

In contrast, many children have been surrounded by countless tutoring classes since they received education, but they often get half the result with twice the effort.

However, accepting the ordinaryness of a child does not mean letting go.

Children need to master basic knowledge during compulsory education, and the content in the textbook needs to be fully learned.

and the rest need to guide children to make their own choices and cultivate their ability to dominate their lives.

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Every child has his own different life, and they should not be bound in shackles.

Not every child must go to Peking University and Tsinghua University, nor does every child must become a phoenix among people.

Parents should cultivate their children to arrange their lives rationally and wisely, without obsessing with the advantages and disadvantages of their grades.

Only with such education can children grow up completely psychologically. Only when children like

enter society in the future can they face all the ups and downs brought by life with ease.

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