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As the economic conditions are getting better and better, parents on and always keep in mind that "you can't lose your children if you lose anyone", so many families, even if they are not particularly wealthy, always pay attention to their children in terms of money. Continuous enrichment.
Children who blindly compare are not uncommon in this era. Clothes, trousers and shoes, the pursuit of famous brands; school bags and learning equipment, but also high prices; the brand of mobile phones and computers is especially important... It seems that the more expensive things are, the more they can set off their identity; Not up to their temperament.
Yesterday, a report of "15-year-old girl jumped from the 6th floor in anger because she asked for 5,000 to buy a mobile phone, but her father only gave 3,000", exploded Xixi's mother's circle of friends. The incident occurred on the evening of July 13 in Chendai Town, Jinjiang City, Quanzhou City, Fujian Province. On the rooftop of a six-story building at the scene, a father dressed in black and a daughter in a white shirt stood on the edge. Suddenly, the daughter opened her arms, stepped back with her right foot, and jumped down from the top floor. Fortunately, the ground was covered with life-saving air cushions, and the daughter was not in danger.
It is understood that the daughter had been away from home for several days before the incident. After returning home on the 13th, she asked her father to buy her a mobile phone for 5,000 yuan. The father said that he could not give her that much money, and could only give her 3,000 yuan at most, so the two quarreled, and then the daughter ran to the top floor to commit suicide.
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To be honest, as a mother, I was both angry and helpless when I saw this report. Angrily, a man who can't support his own children, opened his mouth to be 5,000 yuan, as if his parents didn't have much trouble earning money. Helpless is the child's problem, in fact, it is also the parent's problem. If parents can provide correct guidance and education in the process of children's growth,How can the child make threats such as jumping off the building?
Countless facts tell us that children who are arrogant and spoiled tend to cherish their parents' love the more they are spoiled!
My aunt is primary school culture, and my uncle is illiterate. My aunt is 20 years younger than my uncle. When my uncle was 50 years old, my aunt gave birth to a cousin. Although both aunt and uncle only work odd jobs on the construction site to make a living, and often it is raining and unable to work, and when there is no work, they can only wait, so it is actually difficult for them to earn money to support their family.
But the two of them are the ultimate followers of rich daughters. The shoes they wear are always Jiefang shoes that cost more than ten yuan a pair, and their clothes and pants have never exceeded one hundred yuan. But their daughters have been well-dressed since childhood, princess dresses, crystal slippers, crown hair accessories, brand sportswear. If they only see their daughter, people who don't know the truth will definitely think that their family is a nouveau riche.
My daughter is arrogant and unreasonable, they think it is cute; the daughter is arrogant and domineering, they think it is personality; the daughter is delicious and lazy, they think it is enjoying life; the daughter is rude, they think it is sensible.
Even if the family is stretched thin and sometimes have to borrow money to live, the uncle and aunt always instill in their daughter "you have what others have". When my cousin was 20 years old, she fell in love with a boy in town and became pregnant. The uncle and aunt went to the man's house frequently as if they were going to the market, just to ask for the 88,008 dowry.
Although the two sides were very unhappy, the aunt and uncle still got their wish and got 88,800. My cousin didn't go to work on the grounds of taking children, and the child's father didn't go to work on the basis of lumbar disc . The family of three sat and ate at home, and soon the betrothal gifts were used up. Although the aunt and uncle were a little dissatisfied, they still held on.She even gave birth to her cousin to have a second child.
Yes, now it has become a family of four. And my uncle is 70 years old, and no construction site dares to recruit him as a coolie anymore. All the burdens fell on the aunt, and when she was exhausted, she wanted to leave this bottomless home completely.
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Doing your best to satisfy your children is something that many parents have always believed in. But Xixi's mother has to remind parents that it is really not as good as raising the poor to raise the rich. And wealth, in fact, is by no means the wealth of money that appears on the surface. Rich nourishment often refers to the spiritual enrichment of children.
The neighbor's daughter did not get into the ideal university this year. Her parents bought her a mobile phone of 2,000 yuan. She was so happy. After staying at home for five or six days, I went to a restaurant for summer work. Xixi's mother believes that although she can only go to a junior college, she can still do it when she goes to the society, she is not afraid of being tired, and she does a good job. Parents are willing to let their children endure hardship, and children know that money is hard-won, and only then can they understand the hardships of their parents to make money.
Conversely, children who are always coddled by their parents will not only gain an inch, but also often use threatening means to pinch their parents.
Do you have such arrogant children around you? Do you think there is a problem with the home education of these children? Welcome to discuss with Xixi's mother.
Countless facts tell us that children who are arrogant and spoiled tend to cherish their parents' love the more they are spoiled!
My aunt is primary school culture, and my uncle is illiterate. My aunt is 20 years younger than my uncle. When my uncle was 50 years old, my aunt gave birth to a cousin. Although both aunt and uncle only work odd jobs on the construction site to make a living, and often it is raining and unable to work, and when there is no work, they can only wait, so it is actually difficult for them to earn money to support their family.
But the two of them are the ultimate followers of rich daughters. The shoes they wear are always Jiefang shoes that cost more than ten yuan a pair, and their clothes and pants have never exceeded one hundred yuan. But their daughters have been well-dressed since childhood, princess dresses, crystal slippers, crown hair accessories, brand sportswear. If they only see their daughter, people who don't know the truth will definitely think that their family is a nouveau riche.
My daughter is arrogant and unreasonable, they think it is cute; the daughter is arrogant and domineering, they think it is personality; the daughter is delicious and lazy, they think it is enjoying life; the daughter is rude, they think it is sensible.
Even if the family is stretched thin and sometimes have to borrow money to live, the uncle and aunt always instill in their daughter "you have what others have". When my cousin was 20 years old, she fell in love with a boy in town and became pregnant. The uncle and aunt went to the man's house frequently as if they were going to the market, just to ask for the 88,008 dowry.
Although the two sides were very unhappy, the aunt and uncle still got their wish and got 88,800. My cousin didn't go to work on the grounds of taking children, and the child's father didn't go to work on the basis of lumbar disc . The family of three sat and ate at home, and soon the betrothal gifts were used up. Although the aunt and uncle were a little dissatisfied, they still insisted, and even gave birth to their cousin to have a second child.
Yes, now it has become a family of four. And my uncle is 70 years old, and no construction site dares to recruit him as a coolie anymore. All the burdens fell on the aunt, and when she was exhausted, she wanted to leave this bottomless home completely.
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Doing your best to satisfy your children is something that many parents have always believed in. But Xixi's mother has to remind parents that it is really not as good as raising the poor to raise the rich. And wealth, in fact, is by no means the wealth of money that appears on the surface. Rich nourishment often refers to the spiritual enrichment of children.
The neighbor's daughter did not get into the ideal university this year. Her parents bought her a mobile phone of 2,000 yuan. She was so happy. After staying at home for five or six days, I went to a restaurant for summer work. Xixi's mother believes that although she can only go to a junior college, she can still do it when she goes to the society, she is not afraid of being tired, and she does a good job. Parents are willing to let their children endure hardship, and children know that money is hard-won, and only then can they understand the hardships of their parents to make money.
Conversely, children who are always coddled by their parents will not only gain an inch, but also often use threatening means to pinch their parents.
Do you have such arrogant children around you? Do you think there is a problem with the home education of these children? Welcome to discuss with Xixi's mother.
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