During the parenting process, many parents will find a particularly strange phenomenon. Although their children's academic performance is very good in elementary school, after entering junior high school, not only will their children's grades decline, but their children's personality, psychology, etc. will also have problems one after another. So, why is this?
Xiaozhou's children have always been Xiaozhou's pride. When the child first entered elementary school, he ranked first in in class with excellent grades. Xiaozhou is the most proud of every parent-teacher meeting, because his child only praises and no criticism in the teacher's mouth, which made Xiaozhou very pleased and satisfied, and felt that his child must be a very outstanding student.
The child's excellence runs through the entire primary school . Xiaozhou thought that his child would be able to maintain excellent results. After junior high school and high school, he was admitted to a prestigious university. studied for a bachelor's, master's and doctoral degree, and achieved a brilliant life. However, when the child entered junior high school, Xiaozhou found something was wrong. In terms of
score, the child’s whereabouts are very fast, but when Xiaozhou asks the child’s questions, the child can almost answer them, which makes Xiaozhou very confused. Why do children know how to do , but they are wrong in the exam?
Psychologically, Xiaozhou also found that there were problems with the child. The child seemed not as confident as before, and his personality became much "introverted". Xiaozhou even found that the child had accumulated negative emotions, which made Xiaozhou feel a little crisis.
Because Xiaozhou knows that if the child continues like this, he will definitely be affected even more. This impact is not only learning, but may also cause the child's will to collapse and it is difficult for him to continue to grow up healthily.
If children lack these two habits, no matter how good the grades in elementary school are, they will not use
What is the reason why Xiaozhou's children become what they are today? In fact, it is because the child does not develop two important habits that the child will show various negative phenomena after he goes to junior high school.
If these two habits are not developed, they will even continue to affect the child's future life and study.
Habit 1: The habit of answering questions seriously
There are some children who are good at studying. Although the teacher understands what they say and will do what they see, they do not have the habit of answering questions seriously. When children do not have this habit, they will "create" many opportunities for "wrong questions" and "lost points".
This is how Xiaozhou's children are. When they are in elementary school, they often miss words when answering questions. For example, when doing math application questions, always fails to write the following words "answer" .
Primary school teachers do not have very strict requirements for their children, and they are just a situation where they just need to live.
However, it is different after entering junior high school. With the increase of subjects and the systematic and standardized problem-solving steps, the steps have become more , but each step has begun to become rigorous and indispensable. However, Xiaozhou's children still like to "lose all the answers", either not write "answer", or not write "solve", or forget "because" or "so", and always feel that it doesn't matter.
However, if lacks some steps and content , the problem-solving steps are illogical in the teacher's opinion, so is wrong, and children with naturally won't get high scores.
[★ Solution]: Parents should take it seriously for children not to answer questions seriously and should not think that "the child can do it."
Because learning is not a matter of "just know it", the purpose of learning is to apply , so children not only need to learn, also needs to correctly express what they have learned , which is "learning is useful".
Therefore, parents should pay more attention to their children's homework and check their children's problem-solving steps according to the textbook examples. If the child is "lack of weight" in solving problems, parents should pay attention to urging their children to make up for it.As long as parents can stick to their children's learning, their children will definitely develop the habit of answering questions seriously.
Habit 2: Good living habits
The reason why Xiaozhou had some psychological problems after entering junior high school, including factors of adolescence and factors of living habits.
Simply put, it is that bad living habits intensify the problems of adolescence, affecting the children's mental state, psychological quality, etc.
Many people think that living habits are irrelevant to learning and have little to do with children's psychological development. But in fact, living habits can not only affect a person's temperament and connotation , but also affect a person's health and even intellectual level.
For example, if the child has poor working and rest habits and staying up late often, it may cause the body and brain to not get enough rest, which will not only affect physical fitness, but also affect the endocrine system. Especially during puberty, endocrine disorders will aggravate the problems of adolescence and make children develop more intense puberty thoughts and behaviors.
For example, eating habits. Poor eating habits will directly affect the child's intellectual development, physical development and physical health.
As the saying goes, "food is the most important thing for people". Diet is the foundation of a child's body. If the body is not good, let alone learning, the child cannot do anything well.
[★ Solution]: Therefore, parents must pay attention to their children's living habits.
①In terms of sleep, , pay attention to the child's sleep and wake-up time, and it is ideal to go to bed at 9 pm and 7 pm in the morning.
② In terms of diet, should pay attention to avoid eating outside frequently and taking out food, try to make healthy diet for your children at home, achieve diversification, nutrition and comprehensiveness of your diet, guide your children to develop good habits of not being picky about food and never getting tired of eating, and avoid doing other unrelated things when eating, especially criticizing your children.
③ Pay attention to guiding children to exercise properly. will not talk about anything else. The proportion of physical education scores in future exams will become heavier and heavier. No good health will suffer a great loss.
Conclusion
Elementary school grades do not represent the future of the child. Parents should not be complacent because their children's excellent grades in elementary school. Instead, they should examine their children's defects, correct their children's wrong habits in a timely manner, and cultivate their children's good habits. Only in this way can children maintain excellent grades and move wider and wider on the road of life.
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