Yu Linmeng
Netizen asked: Is it a kind mother or a strict father in the family that is more beneficial to the growth of children?
Reply: Modern education requires: parents who are good at making choices and can stick to it . Family education focuses on the development of behavioral habits. The two basic responsibilities of parents - help children decide what to learn in electives and guide their children to make persistent long-term learning plans.
"Tao Te Ching": "Heaven and earth are not kind, and treat all things as straw dogs." Heaven and earth treat all things the same, and will not be particularly good to anyone, nor will they be particularly bad to anyone, and everything develops naturally. Life is given a combination of natural matter with reproductive ability + growth cycle + a small part of damage self-healing function. All natural life must adapt to the natural living environment in a passive manner + active request. Plants absorb water-soluble microminerals from natural substances and combine with photosynthesis to produce life nutrients, animals feed directly or indirectly on plants, and microorganisms are hosted in plants or animals... Natural life quietly forms a "ecological food chain" with relatively balanced stability, and there is no real high-level or low-level difference between the living groups in the natural "ecological food chain".
The same drop of water can only be used by one living individual, the sunlight in the same airspace can only shine on one living individual, the same plant "nutrition cell" and can only be eaten by one animal... The possession of survival nutrients between the groups in the natural "ecological food chain" has "same rejection" of survival nutrients. Therefore, there is direct or indirect survival competition between all different groups of natural life and different individuals within the same group.
Humans are the social viviparous mammals with the highest comprehensive IQ, the slowest growth and the strongest growth plasticity in the natural life system. They are also the only animal group in the natural life system that has the ability to create living and consumer materials through active labor according to the needs of independent survival. They are acclimating agriculture that sows plants, tame animal husbandry and fishery that raises animals, and mining and processing to make production labor and industry with assistive tools for life, and pharmaceutical industries that help humans overcome diseases... Active labor creation has become the fundamental symbol of the difference between humans and other natural life. However, the "same rejection" of comprehensive survival resources among different individuals in the human community has not been resolved. On the contrary, with the evolution of human social civilization, the competition for "same type of opposite sex" for comprehensive survival resources has become increasingly fierce, extending from competition for physical consumer materials to the fields of spiritual honor and cultural knowledge.
When a child is born, he only has the most basic vital signs. He can crawl around 8 months of birth, walk around 1 year old and try to talk, after the age of 3, he can eat independently and defecate himself after the age of 7, and basically has complete independent civil capacity after the age of 15... After the age of 60 [60], his ability to survive independently begins to decline, until the individual finally returns to nature, the trajectory of human individual life is like a complete parabola, and the ability to survive independently will not suddenly arrive or disappear. Therefore, in order to better pass on the formed civilized survival mode from generation to generation, human society has formed the most complete system of inheriting group survival skills in the natural life system - education. So, why do modern education requires parents with a little opinionated attitude?
1. Modern human children must make choices when receiving education
Zengguang Xianwen": "Every inch of time is gold, and a gold cannot buy a small amount of time." Wherever humans spend time, they will harvest fruits. In his book "Alien", the writer Gladwell pointed out: "The reason why geniuses in people's eyes are extraordinary is not that they are superior to others, but that they have made continuous efforts. 10,000 hours of tempering is a necessary condition for anyone to turn from ordinary to world-class masters."
Learn to walk upright, learn to speak human social language, learn to interpersonal social etiquette, cultivate land + raise animals + mine natural minerals, and learn to use production labor and life auxiliary tools made by humans... As the saying goes, "Learn until old", the life of human life is a life of "learning for use".Time treats all natural life equally, and will not deduct the living time of a certain life, nor will it deliberately forgive the living time of a certain life. Faced with the "broad range of" content to be learned, everyone must make choices to achieve success in learning. If a child learns everything, he will inevitably be unable to learn anything or learn thoroughly.
Family education focuses on developing behavioral habits
2. Education has become the longest full-time job in the journey of modern human growth and progress
Kindergarten for 3 years, 6 years in elementary school, 3 years in junior high school, 3 years in high school, 3 years in college, more than 3 years... Modern human children have been receiving professional school education for nearly 20 years before they become adults, and even if they only receive basic compulsory education, it will last for 12 years [Kindergarten for 3 years + 6 years in elementary school + 3 years in junior high school]. At the same time, after graduating from university, there are still many education and training + certificate waiting for everyone in front of you. " Live to learn to live until you are old" has become a part of people's daily life.
Companionship is the best love for children, and companionship is the best education for children. What is it necessary to accompany your children? childlike innocence, love, patience and wisdom ! Because every child is not afraid of tigers, newborn calf , they are lively and cute and naughty . As parents, taking care of children's diet and daily life is a physiological instinct. It is the basic responsibility to guide children's regular work and rest, and it is the mission of civilized teaching and learning literature.
Idiom allusion of Wang Po selling melons :
Wang Po (Po)'s hometown is Western Regions (now Xinjiang and Gansu), and planting melons for a living. The melon planted in that area is called Hu Gua , which is the current cantaloupe melon. At that time, wars often occurred on the border of the Song Dynasty. In order to take refuge, Wang Po moved to the countryside of Kaifeng and planted muffins. But Hu Gua's appearance is not very good-looking, and people in the Central Plains don't recognize this kind of melon, so although this Hu Gua is ten times sweeter than ordinary watermelon, no one comes to buy it.
Wang Po (Po) was very anxious. The pedestrians who came and went to praise how delicious the melon was and cut it open for everyone to taste it. At first, no one dared to eat it, but later a brave man tasted it and felt it was as sweet as honey. So, one came from ten to ten, ten to hundreds, and Wang Po’s melon stall business was booming, and people came and went.
One day, the emperor of Shenzong went out of the palace to inspect. He went to the market on a whim and saw that there were people everywhere. He asked his left and right: "What's the noise?" The left and right replied: "Your Making the emperor, it's a man who sells melons to attract everyone to buy melons."
The emperor thought that the melon was so attractive, so he walked up to watch it. Wang Po was talking and gestured to praise her melons. When he saw the emperor, he was not panicked and asked the emperor to taste his courgette.
The emperor tasted it and praised it repeatedly, and asked him, "Since your melon is so good, why do you still shout?" Wang Po said, "This melon is a variety of Western Regions. People in the Central Plains do not recognize it, so no one will buy it."
The emperor sighed after hearing this, "If you do business, you should praise it. Like Wang Po selling melons, you should boast about it. What's wrong with it?" As soon as the emperor opened his golden mouth, this sentence spread throughout Yellow River north and south, until today.
People often use " Wang Po, sell melons, sell yourself and boast about " to describe everyone who boasts about the good quality of the goods they sell. Similarly, every subject in the modern human social education system is very important, and the teachers and relevant experts of each subject will explain the powerful relationship to parents. However, everyone's daily life energy is a certain value, and the basis of growth and progress is to allocate life energy reasonably. Therefore, if children find it difficult to control how to allocate their study time, their overall growth will definitely not be very good.
Sow a thought and harvest a behavior; sow a behavior and harvest a habit; sow a habit and harvest a character; sow a character and harvest a destiny .Everything in modern human society is called the civilization era. Its fundamentally means that the work and rest are regular and systems to be found. There are time constraints on what time should be done, such as getting up, having three meals, working, socializing, and sleeping are all subject to time constraints. However, as people who lack comprehensive life practice experience, the most lack of ability is how to control their daily routines.
The bed is warmer, the games are charming, the candy is tempting, and the cultural courses are boring... Work and rest management is the solid pillar of modern human education activities. The school has a unified work and rest system for the whole school and even the whole country. However, it is difficult to achieve routine work and rest in family life. professional work, life social often interrupts the routine that should have in family life from time to time. Therefore, if parents have no opinion and learn whatever they say in the social environment, then the child may be like corn-breaking monkey , and can only be empty-handed; if parents do not have the opinion of their own, they can look at their children's studies when they have time, and let go without time, then the child may be like , with broken kites , which can only float with the wind. Therefore, modern education in requires: parents who are good at making choices and can stick to it.
Neighborhood mission: Become a sparring and consultant on the road to growth of children.
Vision of nurturing neighbors: Let there be no difficult-to-bred young people and no difficult-to-raising old people in the world.
The growth of children is like a century-old tree. It requires experiencing storms, selfless companionship from the family, and earnest teaching from schools and society. Educate neighbors: Explore the use of neighborhood friendship to drive social harmony, promote social moral education, and promote everyone's healthy and happy growth, in order to "tailor" children's growth plans with parents and build an educational service ecosystem that helps community neighbors.
