We often say that marriage is one of the most important things in life. It not only affects the family and future generations, but also affects the development of life destiny at all times. Therefore, compared with marriage itself, how to choose a good partner and match it is actually the most critical link. Assuming that a partner is not good or bad, a lifetime of happiness may be destroyed.
Why did most marriages in ancient times follow the orders of their parents and matchmakers? Although this arranged marriage deprives people of the right to have freedom of marriage and love, it also has certain reasons for existence, because the ancients believed that their children were too young and did not have the ability to distinguish good couples, so they would use their lifelong experience to find the best life partner for their children.
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Of course, here we are not saying that the marriage system that obeyed the "partner's orders and matchmakers" in the past is good, but at the same time, we can also see that the divorce rate of modern people has been rising, precisely because young people are too hasty when choosing a spouse, and some even get married as soon as they meet, and treat major events in life so casually. This is irresponsibility to both parties and disrespect to the elders of both families.
In fact, we ancient people have left many experiences about choosing a spouse to know people. For example, there is a saying that "women are afraid of being sloppy, men are afraid of being sloppy", which means that they should not look for "sloppy" to find their wife, and not look for "sloppy" to find their husbands. Do you know what "其典" and "典典" mean? How do you think?
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The ancients said that "appearance is born from the heart". What is a person's character? He can infer his inner character by observing his external "appearance". This theory is often used by the ancients in terms of identifying people and distinguishing people. So when facing major marriage events, how to recognize people and choose a spouse is naturally very important. The ancients said, "Women are afraid of being sloppy, and men are afraid of being sloppy." This sentence provides an exclusion for the choice of wife and husband, that is, don't marry a woman with sloppy mouth, and don't marry a man with sloppy mouth.
The saying "upright mouth" is actually very vivid, it is the kind of girl who likes to raise her mouth at any time and looks tricky and difficult to handle. This kind of girl who likes to be angry and tactful is very common in life. You can tell at a glance that this kind of person is difficult to deal with because she likes to act like a "upright mouth", so she gives people the feeling that she is sarcastic and scheming, and she looks petty. No matter how you look at it, she looks petty.
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And the ancients' standard for choosing a wife was dignified, generous, and wise. The superstitious saying is to be prosperous for the husband, but in fact it means that they are easy to get along with and understand the truth, so that the couple can get along harmoniously. When they marry a sarcastic and sarcastic woman, how can they live a good life? So this is the reason why "women are afraid of being overly rude".
Heavenly Court refers to the forehead part between the eyebrows and the hairline. The ancients believed that men with full heaven would be blessed, so when choosing a partner, men with this appearance would usually be more popular. "Men are afraid of being buried in heaven", which means that if a man's forehead is deep and messy, like he is stacked up layer by layer, then he is not a good partner to choose a partner. Try not to marry such a person.
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This explanation has a certain superstitious color, which means that a man with a "heavenly building" may not have a smooth future life and career. It is a kind of bitter appearance. He will have to endure hardship after marrying him.
In fact, the appearance of Heavenly Court is related to people's experiences and personality. If a person suffers for a long time, he will often be frowning. Optimistic people may be fine, but negative and pessimistic people will form inferior and melancholy personalities.
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A person who frowns every day will form chaotic patterns of varying depths over time. This can be judged that this person’s life is not very good, and his personality may not be optimistic. Without the kind of responsibility and courage of a man, and his mind is not open enough, such a man will certainly be difficult to become a good husband worthy of trust and relying on. Therefore, the ancients said, “Men are afraid of the towering place of heaven.”
