It is said that a person’s appearance is given by his parents. He is born like this. Even if there are some changes when he grows up, it is still very small. In fact, it is not the case that a person's appearance can be divided into two parts, one is appearance, and the other is mental outlook.
Most people care about the external form, but people with real connotation value a person's god. The shape can change continuously with time, while the spirit can remain unchanged, or even gradually sublimate to reach the state of perfection. A truly powerful person, no matter how he looks, his "spiritual appearance" must be very good. His appearance characteristics mainly include the following aspects:
First of all, a skilled person knows how to speak well and shows his style at any time. Language can best reveal a person's temperament. Knowing how to say the right words at the right time is a great wisdom in life. Language is not about more or less, nor about gorgeous or mediocrity. The most important thing is to express it perfectly in the right way and attitude at the right time and occasion, which can not only be accepted by others, but also achieve one's own goals. This is the most appropriate thing.
People who know how to think from the other person's perspective are often generous and decent, showing a high emotional intelligence. The more you speak, the happier you can make people feel, the better your popularity will be. At the same time, you will get more help, the chances will increase greatly, and you will feel extremely happy.
Secondly, everything is handled in moderation, and it is even better or worse. Whether you are speaking or doing things, you must know how to grasp the right level. The wisdom of dealing with people and things is undoubtedly revealed in these two words. If you do things too much, others will feel embarrassed and feel angry. If you don’t do enough, you will be far from achieving your goal.
So, no matter what you do, as long as you don’t fall into both sides and take the middle way, it is the best state. Be happy but not crazy, be happy but not lust, be sad but not hurt. You must summarize your experience through continuous experience and practice to achieve the most comfortable state for yourself and others. Find this critical point, and then you will be at ease in everything.
Finally, appearance is born from the mind, and the fundamental reason for self-cultivation lies in cultivating the mind. Whether it is appearance, mental outlook, etc., the most fundamental factor lies in our hearts.
As long as you strengthen your cultivation of your mind and develop a strong heart through continuous actions, your appearance will be completely renewed and your life will change quietly. Because all external conditions and external conditions are inspired by your own heart. If your mind changes with the environment, you are an ordinary person. If your mind can change the environment, you are a sage.
