The more things you have, the more constraints you have! Before talking about the topic of "what are you bound by", Dr. Xu first tells a story. In ancient times, there were two monks, one poor and one rich. They both wanted to go to the South China Sea to worship Buddha. The two

has, the more constraints it has!

Before talking about the topic of "what are you bound by", Dr. Xu first tells a story.

In ancient times, there were two monks, one poor and one rich. They both wanted to go to Nanhai to worship Buddha.

The two monks said: "Then let's save money together and set off together in three years."

Three years later, the poor monk went to the rich monk and asked him how much he had saved. The rich monk said: "I have saved a lot, but it is not enough. Let's save a few more years before setting off!"

The poor monk thought: "I am much poorer than you. I haven't saved much after three years of saving. If I continue like this, I won't be able to save enough for a lifetime, so why not just set off first! I will beg for alms along the road and set off directly!"

As a result, five years later, the poor monk has returned to the temple from Nanhai after worshiping Buddha, and the rich monk is still saving money.

Who will fulfill their dream first? Be the person who has nothing, not the person who has a lot.

I want to tell you what is wrong with this world. You both seem to feel that what you have is not enough, but sometimes you have too much. You have too much, which becomes your constraints and obstacles.

In the past, when you had nothing, you pursued your dreams, and you dared to pursue anything. Now, not only do you dare not create, you are also afraid of losing.

If you are afraid of failure and loss, what else can you do while living?

Dr. Xu tells everyone: Sooner or later you will lose everything.

If you die today, you will lose everything. How have you ever owned anything? Sooner or later you will only lose it, and you will always only have the right to use it but not the right to own it.

The same goes for husband and wife, as well as children and parents. They only have the right to use it but not to own it. You have only the right to use everything around you, including houses, cars, etc., but not ownership.

Because when you are "gone", nothing is yours.

etc. When you leave this world, nothing will be yours. But people just can’t think about it.

Going back to what Dr. Xu just said, you may feel that you do not have enough, but from a certain perspective, I would say: "On the contrary, because you have too much, so much that you dare not go beyond your role and framework!"

In this regard, Dr. Xu feels that he is quite "cunning". I am so "cunning" that I have owned more and more over the years, but I have also allowed myself to have nothing because everything is not on my side.

I often don’t have half a dime on me. Sometimes Dr. Xu wants to go to a coffee shop to buy a cup of coffee, but he has no money.

Of course there are several reasons:

The first is that there are often people around me, either assistants, directors, or staff. I have almost no chance to spend money outside.

Secondly, Dr. Xu also deliberately left himself with nothing for so many years, not even half a dime on him. I am doing something that everyone thinks of as a physical, mental and spiritual guru would not do. I am doing myself.

Dr. Xu will remind himself throughout his life that I have to be myself. I will not get lost in any fame or fortune.

Even if people all over the world kneel down and call me master, I will say: "What does it have to do with me?" I will pat my butt and leave.

I will not get lost in any identity or role.

Dr. Xu added another sentence: "In this world, how many people are lost in roles and identities!"

How many people are lost in their own state, changing positions and changing heads, because you are no longer yourself.

I really like the fact that I don’t lose sight of the character’s identity. But you need to have courage to do these things, because people will look at you based on your role.

Speaking of "freedom", Dr. Xu will tell you a little story.

When I was the director of the psychiatry department at New Taipei City United Hospital, a patient brought me a bag of snacks to eat. I took two bites and put them aside. When the next patient came in, I asked him to eat with him.

The patient was very moved because it was the first time a doctor invited him to eat in the clinic. I said: "I can't finish it by myself, let's eat together."

Later I learned that it was Dr. Xu's freedom that moved him. Dr. Xu does not need to be framed by his role.

This is why some organizations later become very inhumane, because everyone in the organization cannot be themselves in the end.

Of course, there are many rules and precepts that you cannot break.

A real organization does not kill individuality, but allows you to express yourself more. But the real world is often not like this.

Therefore, I often tell my staff: "It's not because you can't be yourself when you enter this job, it's because this job makes you braver to be yourself. This is right."

Let's go back to roles and identities.

Let me give you an analogy: When you are walking on the road, who are you? When the prosperity is gone and the beauty is washed away, when you lose all your roles and identities, who are you?

Dr. Xu is walking on the road today. What identity do I use to walk on the road? Am I a doctor? Am I a dean? Am I a chairman? Am I a world-famous mind-body spiritual teacher?

Or am I a nobody who can be anything and be nothing?

I often say that you are freest when you are nothing.

Today I am not a father, not a mother, not a daughter, not a son-in-law, I am not a man, I am not a woman.

When you are nothing, you walk out of that door, because you are nothing, you have complete freedom of creation.

You are not even 60 years old, nor are you 70 years old. When you no longer have age and no restrictions, you can create.

You follow your heart, follow your inner love, wisdom, compassion, creativity, joy and magical power, you begin to take away the frame, and you begin to return to Seth's philosophy and listen to your inner voice.

The only thing in the world that limits you is yourself.

You often ask one thing: What limits you? Frame you? Is it really because your academic qualifications are not enough? Not capable enough? Not enough time? Don’t have enough financial resources?

is actually that you have not transcended your role and framework. You are tied to who you know you are.

If we go back to our youth, often we have nothing. When you first graduated, you had nothing, but you were very happy because you could create anything.

It seems that you have something now, maybe a car and a house, but you are not so happy every day.

So, because you have too much, it becomes your constraints and obstacles, and you have not transcended your own role identity, and you are framed and bound by what you think you are.

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About the author: Xu Tiansheng [Taiwan], a world-renowned psychologist and psychiatrist, the founder of Xu Tiansheng Psychodynamics and a global messenger, a psychological writer, philanthropist, and entrepreneur who has published many books.

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