The 2020TWP Tencent Smart Parenting Annual Ceremony hosted by Tencent Childcare was successfully held in Beijing on December 17th. The event invited parenting experts in the industry, heads of maternal and child companies and other industry leaders to talk together to "ignite new forces With the theme of "Transmitting the Voice of Mother and Child", we will discuss topics such as family education, inter-generational parenting, and trends in the mother and child industry, output valuable insights and lead the innovation of business models.
The round table forum session started with the theme of "Dads overcoming difficulties, fathers’ responsibilities and responsibilities in the family". The host of the China Education Television Station Tian Bolin served as the moderator of this forum, and the founder/CEO of Ivy Dad’s children’s enlightenment education brand Huang Ren, "Xiaoxiaobao Mama" founder & CEO Jia Wanxing, New Oriental Education Technology Group Assistant Vice President, New Oriental Family Education Research and Guidance Center General Manager Zhou Lei three guests shared their wonderful views.
Fathers and mothers play different roles in the family, and they play different roles in children's mental growth, emotional expression and social adaptability. However, because each family is different, it cannot be generalized. Huang Ren, founder and CEO of Ivy League Dad’s Children’s Enlightenment Education Brand, said that the education of both parents is very important. Mothers have the instinct to protect their children. The protection of maternity is essential to the growth of children. More exploration and experimentation are also very important for the development of children's various aspects of character. Parental division of labor exists in many family education. Many mothers may be more principled, while fathers may be more open and tolerant, and there are not so many rules. However, education is best if they complement each other.
At different stages of children’s growth, Huang Ren believes that parents’ companionship to children can be divided into three stages: the first stage is 0-6 years old, which is an important period for parents to establish parent-child connection with their children. Parents should give their children six years before school. The child has enough physical and psychological companionship; the second stage is the child’s elementary school stage. While helping the child develop good study habits, parents should not blindly occupy the child’s time, and should let go of giving the child more freedom; In the three-stage junior high school stage, teenagers are in their puberty, and they need to be respected rather than required. What parents need to do at this stage is to do their job well, set a good example for their children, and let Children see the value of their parents and learn independently.
Founder & CEO of Ivy Dad’s Children’s Enlightenment Education Brand Huang Ren
As a parent, as a child’s growth process, he should understand what his child needs at different stages, and parents must also make constant adjustments in the process. In a child's childhood, the most important thing is companionship. Jia Wanxing, founder and CEO of "Xiaoxiaobao Mama", believes that companionship for children can be divided into two parts, one is physical companionship and the other is psychological companionship. Physiological companionship is a process of gradual distance. When you are a child, you hold your child in your arms. When you grow up, you must learn to let go and give them enough freedom; but psychological companionship should be consistent and parents can do it. What is to do is to respect the child as much as possible, to empathize with the child's external emotions, to treat the child as an independent and equal individual, and to establish equal values with him, which will play a very good role in the harmony of the whole family.
At present, family education in society is still affected by the solidified thinking of “men dominate the outside and women dominate the inside”, but this phenomenon is gradually improving. The role of the father for the family is more reflected in hard work, thereby changing the living environment of the entire family ,Living condition. At the same time, the father’s “lack” in family education is partly due to the mother’s overly protective awareness of the child, preventing the father from participating in the child’s education process. Jia Wanxing said in his speech: “I hope my mother can give us some opportunities. , Trust us more, let us have more parent-child interaction time with our children, maybe we are not worse than you."
"Xiao Xiao Bao Ma Ma" founder & CEO Jia Wanxing
in the process of parenting, or In the process of family education, one person must make some sacrifices. In most families in China, the mother is alone. Fathers are busy in the workplace. This has resulted in a more common social phenomenon in the current society-widowed family education. Zhou Lei, Assistant Vice President of New Oriental Education Technology Group and General Manager of New Oriental Family Education Research and Guidance Center, said that family educationThe real meaning lies in education that can have an impact on children. Generally speaking, fathers may have more advantages in science studies. Sometimes a day of company is not as good as helping children solve a problem. With regard to companionship, not only depends on the time, but the quality of companionship is also important. Fathers should give full play to their own advantages and teach their children in certain areas where mothers are not good at it, which can really help children grow up.
Zhou Lei believes that fathers have three main roles in the family: the decision-maker of children's education. In Chinese family education, fathers have a great say in children's education and decide which school their children go to and which education route they take; This role is a role model. As a mature male in the family, the father’s behavior will naturally receive special attention from the child, and the father’s behavior will naturally become the object of children’s learning to imitate; the third role is also a more important role, which is The father is the stabilizer and mediator of the family relationship. When the child is in puberty, the mother is just in menopause. The two stages collide with each other and there will be a certain quarrel. At this time, the father must be the contradictory mediator and tranquilizer. In order to have a good family atmosphere.
Zhou Lei also said that the more important thing about the parent-child relationship is that multiple independent individuals establish the same values in the process of getting along, rather than the blood ties between parents and children. In the process of children’s growth, the distance between parents and children is steadily increasing, and the child will eventually develop into an independent individual. During the growth process, only the same views on many issues and the same values can be achieved. It can maintain the long-term development of parent-child relationship, so that children can still have a good parent-child connection with their parents at the age of 20, 30, or even 40, 50.
Assistant Vice President of New Oriental Education Technology Group and General Manager of New Oriental Family Education Research and Guidance Center. Zhou Lei
There is a phenomenon of "father absence" in family education in society, which is not conducive to the health of children. Fathers play a very important role in family education. The role is an indispensable part of family education. The father plays an important role in shaping the character of the child. The unique position of the father in family education cannot be replaced by the mother. The influence of parents on the child is complementary. Only the combination of the two can make the child develop comprehensively.
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