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do not know if your children often say to you:
"Mom/Dad, I am afraid! I dare not sleep, can you accompany me?"
" Mom/Dad, our home There are monsters, it’s terrible!"
After you listen to it, do you immediately comfort your child: "Don’t be afraid, mom/daddy is there, there are no monsters, be brave!"
However, saying more similar things will not help.
My 6-year-old child once said something similar, and I comforted him the same way. But no matter how many times I said it, the child was still scared, and I had to accompany me to the toilet at night.
What should I do? In fact, it is more important than comforting the child to let the child understand what the fear is and where it comes from.
An interesting picture book recommended by a friend a few days ago, it tells a story that a child is afraid of. The name of this picture book
is very interesting, it's called "I heard you have a monster"!
Seeing the title of this book makes many children happy. What story does
tell in this picture book?
is about a little girl named Ludovica who has a cat named Doudou.
She found that many monsters appeared in the house at night. But in the daytime, the monster is gone.
Is it dawn and the monsters are all going to eat breakfast? This picture book
takes us into a child’s imaginary world from the perspective of a child, and finally helps us discover that the so-called monsters are actually not terrible, they are just household items.
It turns out that in the face of fear, comfort will appear pale and weak. The important thing is to learn how to face it.
Therefore, when children say fear to our parents, what they need first is not comfort, but to accept the child's timidity.
Tell the child that this is normal, and talk to the child about the story that he was afraid of when he was a child.
allows children to understand that everyone has moments of fear.
Color Contrast
After reading this picture book, my first feeling is that the color contrast is strong.
We can see that when the little girl Ludovica introduces herself, the picture is colorful. The yellow skirt, the red cat, the green tree, and even the house are colorful.
At night, the picture is dark, mostly black and dark blue.
Similarly, at night, the monster is black.
But in the daytime, I found the so-called monsters, but they are just a combination of household items, and the colors are also colorful. Why does
have such a color contrast?
I think this is to tell the child through color contrast: looking at a terrible monster, it is not terrible, it is just an item that can be seen everywhere in the house.
Bright color and dark color contrast , which has more visual impact and reduces children's fear.
Children’s imaginative world
Children’s imagination is very rich, I remember reading some poems written by children on the Internet:
"Every time it rains, I come out to play with you, but you make me dirty Yes."
network picture
"No one has seen the wind, not to mention me and you. But when paper money is floating, we know that the wind counts money."
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anything, in the eyes of children, All can become poetic. Even the clouds in the sky and the leaves on the ground are cute animals to children.
I once asked my children: You often say that you are afraid. What are you afraid of?
The child replied: Afraid of thinking in your head?
What's in your mind?
The child cried: I will not say! I'm even more scared when I say it!
Later, the child told me: he was afraid of everything in the dark night, his shadow, clothes in the closet, items on the coat rack, and the towels hanging on the bed.
In his eyes, all these can become terrifying monsters.
I really didn’t understand before. After reading this "Listen"You have a monster", I just understand!
Then how can we let children get rid of this fear?
Actually, we just need to let the children understand: the things they fear do not exist, and the rest is left to time. At the end of the story of
and fear coexisting peacefully
, Ludovica turned into a monster. My baby called her the Flying Cat Big Mouth.
You see, pointed ears, two big wings, and white Sensen's big teeth, this is really terrible! The cats of Ludovica are so scared that they blow up!
Actually, this is just Ludovica on the bed after turning off the lights.
small picture book, great theory. After reading the picture book, what should we think about?
When children say that they are afraid, we should pay attention to the following points:
One, don't intimidate the children at ordinary times.
Let's not vent our anger on our children, and cause them to be timid and fearful.
The angry parent looks like a monster to the child.
is like in "Russian Adventures", the little-headed father is angry, and , the big-headed son of , is like a big fire-breathing monster.
Two, don't hide the fear of the child.
Some parents will laugh at their children when they see their children are scared, saying "what are men afraid of" "you are afraid of this" and similar things.
This will not only helpless, but will increase the child's fear.
Three, don't let your children be afraid.
Parents should let their children understand what they are afraid of. If the child fears for no reason, parents should not keep the child in fear, but should let the child understand the source of fear.
is like a monster in a picture book, but it is actually a household item, there is no need to be afraid.
Some people may ask, after reading this picture book, will the child not be afraid of darkness?
is not necessarily, maybe still afraid of the dark. However, at least let the children understand that many things in this world do not exist, they are all imagined. Such as monsters, monsters, ghosts and so on.
Finally, instead of comforting the child not to be afraid, let the child learn to accept, accept his timidity, his imperfections, and learn to live with fear in peace.
So, one day, the child will walk out of fear and get rid of the shackles of his heart.
The dancing monster is also very cute
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