but some parents say " Why are you so stupid, there is something under your feet that you can't see! I fell down! "Z2z." The former parent belongs to correct expression education, and the latter parent belongs to mocking education . The two different education methods bring very different feelings to children.
Xiaoxi’s son is 5 years old. Although he has been in kindergarten for a long time, he is still very courageous. In kindergarten, he has to rely on the teacher for everything.
It is reasonable to say that my son should not be like this when he is 5 years old. The 5-year-old child is alive and kicking all day long, and basically does not need parents to control. Z1z and even younger children are more capable than him . Why is the son of Xiaoxi family worse than a child younger than himself?
In fact, this is all related to Xiaoxi's usual education of his son, because Xiaoxi always ridicules his son , no matter what the son does, what gets here is always ridicule, without encouragement.
Son eats slowly, Xiaoxi will say: "Why are you so slow, you can’t eat faster, little baby is faster than you" son did not get good grades, Xiaoxi would say: " We don’t know how to study. People also listen to class and study like you. How can they get so many points on the test?" In any case, everything about the son of can only be ridiculed by Xiaoxi.
How much harm does ridicule education do to children?
1. Harm the child’s self-esteem
Parents treat their children with sarcasm, which seems to be nothing to the child, but the ridicule of language is more serious than the pain of skin and flesh , ridicule will hurt the child’s self-esteem, the child’s self-confidence, and the social . Will be affected by the way. And after the child's self-esteem is hurt by the parent, there will be a gap between the child and the parent. In the future, the child will not listen to what the parent says.
2. Children are easy to break the cans
Parents always treat their children in a mocking way. Some children will break the cans to fight against the parents , If you say I can’t, then I can’t show it to you. If it doesn't work, parents learn to mock. Gradually, children will really develop towards what the parents say. Sometimes children don’t want to do that, but in order to compete with their parents, they have to make mistakes.
3. Children are easy to close their hearts.
Parents always treat their children in a mocking way. Children can easily close their hearts to their parents, and parents can no longer enter their hearts. And children treat their parents far away from . Children will not take the initiative to share anything with their parents, because children know that even if says it by themselves, they will get a ridicule. It is better not to say anything.
Parents really need skills to treat their children. Parents should not use the wrong way to educate their children that they have wounds all over the body, and claim to be for the good of their children. If parents are really good for their children, they should educate their children in a way that children can accept.
When a child encounters a situation, how should parents educate their children correctly?
1. Control their emotions
The reason why parents lose their temper with their children is because parents cannot control themselves well, and parents vent their emotions on their children. , Z1z child became an innocent victim . When a child has a problem, the parent must first control his emotions . If the parent can control his emotions, the child’s problem is not a big deal.
2. Approval and acceptance of
When a child has problems, parents ridicule the child because the parent does not approve and accept the child , because the child does not develop in the direction that the parent expects, so parents can't bear it. If parents can accept children, no matter what kind of children, parents canFace it calmly and the problem will be much easier.
3. Listen patiently and guide
When a child has a problem, parents should not always stand on the opposite side of the child, so that the child will definitely not give the parent a good attitude. If parents can listen patiently to their children, will vent their emotions to the children first, , , and then give them the correct guidance, without any emotional color , believes that children can also communicate well with their parents.
Parents should not always ridicule their children when it comes to educating their children, because that will make the children lose their confidence and find their self-worth. Of course, parents cannot always praise their children, because parents always praise will make their children lose their direction. Misunderstood that I was really good, and I couldn't know myself correctly.
In short, educating children is a question of knowledge. Parents should find suitable ways to educate children according to their specific circumstances.
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