Material poverty is not terrible. Only the inner abundance and optimism of parents can make children gain true self-confidence.
Text | Fortunately pregnant sister (senior maternal and child nurse, original is not easy, please do not plagiarize)
illustration| Juice
According to the statistics of China in recent years, there are fewer and fewer children in rural areas who have been admitted to prestigious schools such as 985 and 211. The difference makes people lament that it is difficult for a poor family to have a precious son. We all say that the college entrance examination changes their destiny, but it is only after real hard work in society that it is difficult for the next generation of the poor to become rich, and the rich generation is stronger than the generation. Why does the poor continue What about poverty?
The parent’s education model makes it difficult for the poor to get a good son
Some people say that this is the inevitable result of the gap between the rich and the poor. In fact, behind the "hard to fly out of the phoenix from the chicken coop" is not only the unfairness of educational resources, but more Parents’ educational philosophy and methods of education. The following education modes may make it difficult for the poor to get a good child.
1, crying poor education
Parents crying poorly will put huge psychological pressure on their children. Some parents even deliberately enlarge the poverty at home to make their children more sensible and thrifty. In fact, this will only educate a poor-hearted baby.
Because of the lack of money in childhood, children lack a sense of security, become anxious, panic, and even go astray in order to satisfy their inner desires. Just as Zhao Dehan’s embezzlement of 200 million yuan in "The Name of the People" was actually because my family My ancestors have been farmers for generations, and I am really afraid of being poor. The terrible thing about being poor is that no matter how much money you earn, you will not feel safe.
In addition, children who grew up in poor families are obviously not confident enough, whether they speak or behave in the world, they are not generous enough. Their personality is derived from the growth environment, because they have lived a life of tight clothing and food, understand It is hard and difficult for parents to make money. They do not have the confident capital and desperate courage. They dare not do risky work and investment. They just want to live a stable life.
Most ordinary families in my country want their children to change their destiny through learning. From an early age, they instill in their children the idea of studying well, and only when they grow up, can they earn a lot of money. They say that they don’t eat or wear clothes for you to take the test. University, this directly destroys the children's way of thinking and behavior, and makes the children feel a great sense of oppression. This is also the so-called crying poor education. Make children feel guilty, compromise and self-sacrifice under pressure, and hinder the expression of their development needs.
2, moral kidnapping education
conduct moral kidnapping of children, let them feel guilty and obediently submit. Some parents always like to complain in front of their children: We are exhausted for you to eat and wear. If you don't study hard, are you worthy of us? Why don’t we have so much money, can’t you save some money... Parents handcuff their children a heavy moral shackle, which makes them miserable, and even continues to copy the parent’s mindset, kidnap others with morality, and return Feel it deserves it.
3. Thinking education for the poor
The thinking of the poor will be passed on from generation to generation. The vision and pattern of the parents determine the future development and height of life of the child. The child’s thinking is not broad enough, the horizon is limited, the understanding of the future is vague, and the contact is only general education. Cognitive and thinking methods are limited, fixing oneself in the social class. Although they were admitted to prestigious universities with their hard work, the huge difference between them and the children of the rich made them feel a huge gap in their hearts and even felt powerless. The most helpless thing was not not working hard enough, but no results after hard work.
4. Education only based on learning scores
Most Chinese parents always judge whether a child is good or not based on the scores and rankings. In the environment of exam-oriented education, parents seem to think that only good learning is the only way to do anything unrelated to learning. It hinders future development. As everyone knows, this kind of wrong perception will limit children's other development space, and it is difficult to get out of poverty through learning as the only way.
Why do the offspring of the rich have a higher success rate?
1. Strong economic strength.
has no worries about food and clothing since childhood, and cannot feel the suffering of the world. They can enjoy it without any effort in clothing, taste, knowledge, and vision. They can go to aristocratic schools, receive high-quality educational resources, and have various interests. Class to improve themselves, Naturally it is easy to become excellent in all aspects.
2, with a wide network of resources
The circle of wealthy people is the same high-quality people, they can meet successful people, build good network resources, get the latest information, and pave the way for their own development. Some rich second-generation entrepreneurs rely on not only It's funding, but more connections and resources.
3. Vision and pattern
is good at cultivating children’s vision, pattern, cognition, thinking and anti-frustration ability. For example, when looking at problems, don’t just focus on small interests in front of you, but look at problems from a long-term perspective. Zhima, the children of the rich have broadened their horizons since they were young. They learned creativity, adventurous spirit and business acumen from their business parents. They have a broader perspective on problems and are more fond of hard work and innovation. Z2z
3, I work harder
Aside from the above added value, the key to a person's success depends on himself. As the saying goes, the rich are only three generations, and the children of the rich will not work hard. Sooner or later they will sit in the sky.
Of course, we can’t complain about our birth, maybe we lose at the starting line, but you have to believe that a bad family situation can’t cut off all the possibilities of success for a person. Fate gives you a lower starting point than others, and the purpose is to let you spend your whole life. Go and fight, come back with a beautiful Jedi.
Maybe life is like a marathon. The one who can hold on to the end is the strong. No one wins at the starting line, he can definitely win the final championship, because the difference between winning and losing is not the good or bad of the starting point, but the fierce fighting process. Competition, there is more than one track in life, you can singly spur your own life path. It is not others, but yourself that determines your success. Even if you come from a poor family, there will always be salty fish turning over. That day.
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