Kindergarten violence sounds scary, but this is indeed a true story.
One day, the weather was very nice. The teacher led the children to play on the playground. The children held hands and formed a circle. It seemed that they were playing games with the teacher. Their young faces looked particularly cute under the warm sun.
A naughty little boy ran out of the circle at some point. After being a certain distance away from the teacher and classmates, I saw him running, running, raising his legs, and kicking. In an instant, the two children were knocked down.
The little boy's whole set of movements was as smooth as flowing water, which made the class teacher very angry.
By coincidence, this scene was inadvertently photographed by a passing parent and posted to the parent group. In an instant, the group exploded...
All the parents thought it was a fight between children at first, and did not take it seriously. They always thought that the children were exaggerating. Until the appearance of this video, it directly subverted the three views of parents.
After talking to everyone, we found out that among the 30 or so children in the class, none of them had not been beaten by this boy, and there were even some thin boys who were afraid of going to school because of it.
Some parents whose children were spanked said they told their children to spank them back; some parents even said, "As long as you beat him to tears, I will give you a reward." Some parents came directly to ask for an explanation...
As a parent, I feel really uncomfortable when I see my children being spanked, because my child has also been spanked in this class;
But as parents, we cannot cultivate children's revenge mentality. Even if other people's children like to bully others, do not encourage or acquiesce in your own children's retaliation in a tit-for-tat manner. This is detrimental to the physical and mental development of the child.
The most important thing is that we must not look at fights between children from an adult perspective.
It is normal for children to argue or fight for toys while playing games. Unless the situation is too extreme and appropriate protection or appropriate intervention from adults is necessary, children should still be guided as much as possible to learn to face and solve the problem on their own.
In fact, every child is an independent life, with its own life energy and its own growth trajectory. We should believe that children have the ability to face and solve their own problems.
"Every time you take a bite, you gain wisdom." Only through constant experience and training will a child's heart become stronger and his ability to protect himself improve!
It is impossible for us to protect our children for a lifetime, let alone let them live in a vacuum isolated from the world.
In this case, instead of complaining and blaming others for their faults, it is better to teach children how to protect themselves in the face of violence. When a child is bullied, what we parents really need to do is: give him a warm embrace, listen to his inner feelings, soothe his hurt emotions, guide him to deal with the situation on his own, and avoid being hurt again.
When children have a certain degree of self-prevention awareness and self-protection ability, although they cannot completely eliminate all dangers, they can at least minimize the risks as much as possible.
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