Bacon once said: "Character determines destiny." We cannot assert that character can determine a person's life, but there is no doubt that character will affect a person's life. The age of 3 to 6 years old is often called the "wet cement period". This is the critical period for c

Bacon once said: "Character determines destiny." We cannot assert that character can determine a person's life, but there is no doubt that character will affect a person's life. The age of 3 to 6 years old is often called the "wet cement period". This is the critical period for children's personality shaping. 80% to 90% of a child's personality, thinking and lifestyle are formed during this period. This stage is also the transition period for children, and the shaping of personality is particularly important. Therefore, parents should pay attention to the cultivation of their children's character during this period. How to help children develop good character from an early age? You can start from the following points:

1. Parents should first become excellent objects to be imitated

Sociologist Talde put forward the point of view of the law of imitation. He believes that the behavior in the world is nothing more than imitation and invention. Inventions are very few, and imitation is the most basic social relationship. For children aged 3 to 6html, their parents are more likely to be imitated. child psychology research expert Professor Li Meijin also said: "Character and speech are very similar. No one is born with the ability to speak. You can speak wherever you are born. The same goes for your character. What kind of family you are born into will form a similar character."

Therefore, the personality of parents will largely affect the personality of their children. When we want to help our children develop good characters, we should first make ourselves excellent examples of imitation. Honesty and trustworthiness, respect for others, helpfulness, modesty and courtesy, etc. These qualities can be seen and learned by children. Similarly, negative information displayed by parents will also be imitated by children. As the most critical teachers in children's growth, parents must first grow and correct themselves.

2. Say "No" to your children appropriately

There is a good saying, if you tell your child "No" when he is about three years old, he will probably roll on the ground. When you say "No" to your child after the age of 12, he may run away from home. This also shows that children's character needs to be consciously shaped and guided from an early age.

Saying "no" to children has two functions. One is to promptly correct the child's wrong behavior and establish a correct view of right and wrong. When a child refuses to share, parents can say "no", which actually shows the parent's attitude. The second is to prevent over-indulging and learn to let children delay gratification of to . Many children who grow up in a doting environment have to satisfy their needs immediately. If they are not satisfied, they will become irritable and anxious. This is a typical bad character. Therefore, parents should not overly obey and satisfy all their children's requests, but should say "no" moderately, so that their children can live in principles from an early age and become principled people when they grow up.

3. Speak well and grow in communication

The ability to express is one of the very important abilities of people in social activities and is the basis for interacting and communicating with others. People who are not good at verbal expression often behave negatively in interpersonal relationships and social activities, and may even suffer from mumbling, slow speech, and low self-esteem. Children who cannot express and communicate often develop introverted personalities. Therefore, parents should help their children learn to express and communicate well from an early age. The first thing to do is to encourage children to speak up, especially to show themselves bravely in public. The second is to teach children how to speak, how to express correctly and efficiently.

Taking your children to participate in more activities and communicating with them more in daily life can help your children develop a confident, outgoing, lively and generous character.

4. Learn to wait and improve self-control

Snacks, toys, mobile phones, and TV can all be temptations for children. When children grow up, they will encounter more things with greater temptation. Therefore, parents must consciously improve their children's self-control. Arrange daily snack time, game time, and study time, do the corresponding things at the corresponding time, and learn to wait and self-discipline. This is a difficult but necessary thing for children. Patience and self-control will be important qualities for children as they grow up.

In the golden period of character development between 3 and 6 years old, parents can start from the above four suggestions to help their children develop a good character and prepare for their children's lifelong development.