Text/Xiaoxue’s mother After the release of the second child, the discussion about "second child" has not stopped. There are 10,000 reasons for people who want to have a second child, and there are 10,000 reasons for people who don't want a second child. Some parents gave birth to

Text/Xiaoxue’s mother

After the second child was released, the discussion about "second child" has not stopped. There are 10,000 reasons for people who want to have a second child, and 10,000 reasons for people who don't want a second child.

Some parents have a daughter for their first child, and they hope that the second child will be a boy; some parents have a son for their first child, and they also long for a daughter. In short, they just want to be "good".

However, there are not many families who choose to have a second child. Everyone is a little "afraid". As for what they are afraid of, everyone's fear is different. Let's take a look at these three families.

Family 1: Afraid of a "second child" because the son cannot afford to raise him

Colleague Xiaofan's family has a daughter who has just entered kindergarten. Her mother-in-law has always felt that it was a pity not to have a "grandson". Although she did not explicitly urge her son and daughter-in-law to have a second child, she always said in a different way that the couple's health was still good. If they wanted to have a child, they must not miss the opportunity, otherwise they would not be able to get married.

Xiaofan has also carefully considered this. For Xiaofan, she is not opposed to having a second child, but she is full of worries. The financial conditions of her family are average. She just bought a house and still has to pay off the mortgage. Having a child in the family is quite expensive. If the second child is a son, the pressure on her will be even greater.

When a son was a child, he was almost the same as a daughter, but in the future, parents will have to prepare more for their children. Houses, cars, and marriages are all big spenders, and the invisible pressure is heavy.

Furthermore, the cost of educating children is so high now. Better private kindergartens cost more than 10,000 yuan a year. In the future, if two children go to school, interest classes, and tutoring classes, these hidden education expenses will be even greater.

I am already very tired from work now. Although my mother-in-law helps to take care of the children, after having a second child, her mother-in-law cannot take care of her alone. She may have to quit her job to take care of the children at home. This makes the situation even worse for a family that is not already wealthy.

If there are two sons in the family, then the burden on the family will be even greater. The half-grown son will eat up my father. In the future, the expenses for two houses and two small families will not be able to support the family without some financial resources.

Family 2: A daughter is good, she will not be a mother-in-law in the future

My friend Xiaolan often joked to us that it would be great to have a daughter. She would not have to worry about anything when she gets married, and she would not have to worry about the pressure of buying a house for her son, and she would not have to fight with her daughter-in-law all day long.

himself is a person who does not like to make trouble. It is good to have a small and harmonious family. He takes good care of his daughter. does not plan to have a second child at all. If it is a son, he will be stressed out and there will be a lot of trouble in the future.

Although not every family will have conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I really don’t know how to get along with my daughter-in-law in the future. Two people who are not familiar with each other live together, and their eating habits, personalities, and behavioral habits are different. cares too much and causes trouble. However, he doesn’t care at all and worries about his son’s life, which makes his life unsatisfactory.

So Xiaolan feels that raising a daughter is quite reassuring. Although she will worry about getting married in the future, the pressure on others is not that great and there are much fewer things to worry about. Furthermore, if you raise a daughter now and train her to be promising, the child will also be very filial.

Family 3: The first child is a son, and I don’t even dare to think about the second child.

My cousin has a son in her family. The elders in the family suggested having another child, but the cousin immediately refused. One son has already exhausted her so much that she would not dare to have a second child.

The first child in the family is a son. I have already told the old man that I am very tired from going to work every day. After get off work, I have to take care of the child and play with my son. In order to better train the child, I also enrolled the child in interest classes. The expenses are really high, and I don’t have the energy and time to have a second child.

There may be some families where the first child is a daughter and they feel little pressure and want to have another son. However, the second child is already a son. If another son comes, what kind of family conditions do you dare to have a child like this?

doesn’t have the idea of ​​favoring boys over girls. I just feel that a child is perfectly fine in the current environment. The next step is to work hard, cultivate children to become talents, and make the family’s life better.

What do you think about the second child?

In fact, for most young people, whether it is a boy or a daughter, one child is enough. Some people even think that they do not want to have a child. There are many reasons, as I said before, but they are just "fear" of being poor and not being able to support themselves.

But for many elderly people, they still hope to continue having children. They feel that raising two children is enough to support them. There is a lot of excitement in the house with children, and they vow to help take care of the children.

However, reality and ideas are often very different. It is really stressful for an ordinary family to raise two children. Of course, this also depends on the individual. Some parents just like children, so how many children they have depends on their size.

Finally, do you think it is better to have one child or two?

I am Xiaoxue’s mother, a mother born in the 1990s. Follow me and share scientific parenting knowledge every day!