After becoming "yang", many people experienced physical discomforts such as having their throats cut with a knife, sealing their noses with cement, swallowing razor blades in their throats, and having their heads opened without anesthesia.
Although everyone’s constitution is different and their symptoms may be mild or severe, they still suffer.
If someone unfortunately becomes "yang", everyone expects to receive care and understanding from their family members instead of blaming. However, some parents prefer "accusatory care" at this time.
"Let you run around blindly"
Recently, a blogger shared his family's reaction after he became "positive", triggering heated discussions among netizens.
After the woman was "recruited", she originally didn't want to tell her mother that she was positive, but during a video call with her mother, she still noticed the clues.
The mother blurted out: "Let you run around."
In fact, the woman did not run around, but she still had no choice but to be tricked. We all know that under the current situation, Yang is normal, and absence of Yang is lucky.
After listening to her mother's words, the woman couldn't help but feel that the first step for parents to express their concern is to scold you. The woman's words instantly resonated with many netizens, who left messages saying, "That's what my mother would say."
"After my mother became positive, I took care of her for 6 days. When she was about to recover, I became positive again. When I told her about it, the first thing she said was, 'You just didn't disinfect it properly.' The second thing she said was, 'Why didn't you wait until I got better before I got sick again?'..."
"My mobile phone was stolen. When my mother found out, the first thing she said was: Why don't you install the mobile phone."
"I described my symptoms of COVID-19. Me: 'Dizziness', my mother: 'Who told you not to eat breakfast'; Me: 'Sore throat', my mother: 'Who told you not to drink water', Me: 'My whole body aches', my mother: 'Who told you not to exercise', I threw out positive screenshot, my mother: ‘Why do you do nucleic acid if you have nothing to do?’”
Many parents are like this in life. They obviously care about their children, but the words they say become blame.
Having a sharp mouth and a soft heart not only fails to make children feel cared for, but also causes them great pressure.
"Accusing concern" is not advisable
Some people say that this is "deep love and deep responsibility". Because we love children, we urgently hope that children can remember lessons and stay away from "bad" things.
The starting point may be good, but many parents often ignore that the core of "accusatory concern" is not concern, but accusation. This is like a piece of rancid steamed bun. Although it can satisfy hunger, people will suffer from diarrhea after eating it.
Parents' "accusatory concern" is tantamount to pouring salt on their children's wounds. Not only is it useless in healing the wounds, but it will cause greater pain to the children. Gradually, the children will be unwilling to show their "wounds" to their parents.
Just like the blogger in the article, he was "positive" but didn't want to tell his mother.
Love is unconditional understanding and acceptance. Children may do much better than our parents in this regard.
Children will not blame their parents for "why they were so careless" because their parents accidentally broke the bowl; children will not blame their parents for "who told you not to wear more clothes" because their parents caught a cold.
Loving children is a parent's instinct, but loving and knowing how to love are two different things.
"Accusatory concern" no matter how much care is hidden inside, but the appearance is a sharp knife that hurts people, which not only hurts the child, but is also not conducive to establishing a close parent-child relationship with the child.
Learning to express love to your children correctly is a skill that modern parents should master.
If you love your children, kiss and hug them more often; if you care, just tell your children "I'm worried about you" directly; if you feel distressed, just say "I'm very distressed"...
Parents' love for their children is not something to be ashamed of, and we should not be ashamed to express love to our children directly.
In addition, do not look for reasons beforehand, pay attention to the child's emotions and feelings first, understanding and acceptance are the best medicine to heal pain.
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