The child who returns late at night is seriously admonished by his parents. The parents vent their anger on their children because of fear and worry. When seeing the child coming home safely, not only do they not hold him in his arms to care for him, but they also blame the child because their carelessness and ignorance make their parents worry. If a child doesn’t understand the truth, of course he should teach him a lesson and explain it clearly to him. However, any unnecessary emotions or excessive punishment are manifestations of venting one's anger, not really for the purpose of allowing children to learn and grow.
people, the biggest crisis is that they don’t know that they are “ill” and often want to find a scapegoat to blame them to make their self feel better. After all, it is much easier to accuse others of others and think that this situation is caused by other people’s faults than to admit your own mistakes.
In our lives, there are many scenes that use other beautiful rhetoric to satisfy our selfish interests. Between husband and wife, they ask the other party to be satisfied with their own satisfaction in the name of love, and once there is any mistake, they accuse the other party of not caring about themselves. Between parents and children, they even count their efforts in detail, hoping that their children can achieve the level they require, otherwise they will be rebellious.
We always say, "Only parents love their children without asking for rewards." Is this really true?
There is no love in this world that does not seek reward. Parents’ love for their children is instinctive and pure, but it is not selfless and does not seek reward. Parents also have selfish intentions and desire rewards. That reward is to hope that their children will use grades when they are young and filial piety when they grow up. This is actually just satisfying the vanity of parents.
If you want to cure this "disease", you must first be responsible for your emotions and know the source of this emotion. Just like treating children who return late, should you let your children understand their worries and the danger of returning late or is it important to accuse your children of returning late? First know how to soothe your little cheetah in your heart, and then deal with things that stimulate your bad emotions, which is a manifestation of being responsible for your life.
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