The love that parents have for their children is understandable. You want to give all the best in the world to your children. Even when your conditions are not good and your life is at the most difficult time, you try your best not to let your children suffer.
But why can't the child suffer with you? Let your child understand the hardships of his parents. While you accompany him to grow up, he is also growing with you. I feel that such children will understand their parents more. Some parents should give their children love beyond their abilities if the conditions do not allow it, which may ruin the children's
You should give your whole family the best, and even borrow money to give your children a better life. You said that no matter how hard you are, you can't make your child suffer. You would rather work five or six part-time jobs on your back and you wouldn't be willing to order one more dish. Why? You can eat a few less meals, but you will wipe your tears when your child eats less, and you say you are sorry to your child. . . Most children will not understand your
I have talked to my wife. We should be as restrained as possible in the future. If my family has no money, then live a life of no money together, so that the child will know that the family has no money since childhood. Some things want to buy but I can't afford it. It's not easy for parents to make money. The family has no money. Not all parents who I like have to buy me
If my family has money, I will also let the child experience the hard work of making money from an early age, cultivate his concept of financial management and consumption from an early age, so that he knows where the money comes from? Spending money can be generous, but it needs to be spent right away. We must respect money, and the money of rich people is hard-earned
If I were a loader and unloader, I would go out to make money at the high temperature of 40℃ in summer, but I would not allow my child to blow air conditioning at home all day to eat and drink. I occasionally bring him to my place where I work, even if my mother takes him to sit under the shade of the tree and watch me sweating, let him know that he and his mother are sitting under the shade of the tree because their father is sweating and working hard
If I were in the water Mud, when my son was a few years old, I would find an opportunity to bring him to work with my father. I bought him a small plastic shovel or a remote-controlled bulldozer. When I was with cement, I asked him to shovel the sand for me. At noon, I told him that this was what we earned together. I took him to a KFC and told him that he had spent it, so that he knew that the father and I had finished a meal in the morning.
When I took him to eat KFC again, my son might say to me: Dad, I don’t want to eat KFC today. Can we go eat ramen? He knew that the meal was hard-won. I was giving him as much as I could. He was giving me as much as he could. Love is mutual
When I was a child, I had a year when I was a family farming and needed weeding. My mother asked me to play under the tree and she went to weed. It was really hot that day. Later, when I learned that acre of land was so hard and only made such a little money, I advised my mother not to farm. I could buy a few less clothes
There are many similar examples, so I want my son to understand and understand his parents since he was a child. I don’t want to wait until the child is in his twenties and thirties, and I praise him for growing up and becoming sensible. Don’t you all want your children to win at the starting line? This is also a starting line. Let the son understand his parents since he was a child
I don’t know how to define the word “sensible”, but as a rural child, you can always hear adults praise their children for using the word “sensible” from childhood. Some children are praised for being sensible since childhood, and some children are more than 20 years old and more than 30 years old by their parents. When they grow up,
Children who have been sensible since childhood are divided into “passive sensible” and “education sensible”. The wife is considered “passive sensible”. She has not had good family conditions since childhood, and later the family conditions are better, and she has grown up.Since childhood, she knew that the family had no money and some things could not be afforded. Because the family was poor, relatives would treat differently. She was in this environment since childhood and was passive and sensible
I recalled myself. In fact, in essence, I was "educational and sensible". This education started with the homework assigned by the school teacher. The homework assigned by the teacher since childhood made us understand the difficulty of parents since childhood and knew that our current life was hard-won. We should be grateful to our parents
For example, send an egg to each of us, let us protect us for a week, and experience the process of protecting eggs; let us go back to wash our parents' feet; let us learn to do housework when we are at home, sweep the floor and wash dishes to reduce the burden on our parents, and give back to our parents' efforts. I have done all these homeworks in this way, and I have to write an essay every time. Based on this education, I understand the difficulty of my parents. Then, as I grew up, I observed how hard my parents worked to make money. So I have made a lot of efforts to reduce the burden on my parents since I was a child
pick me up and drop me off to school every week. Others have private cars, but my family doesn’t. My father always rented them for 60 yuan at a time, twice a week. I know that my family will not make money by this 120 yuan. About the third grade, I told my dad that I didn’t have to pick me up and drop me off. I could take the bus, which cost 50 cents at a time. I remember it was a bus No. 5. I took it from Nanshan Mall. I went to Liuzhuang Fulong Supermarket to get
. I have been beaten a lot since I was a child, but I have never been beaten because of my poor test scores. I couldn’t bear the verbal education because I felt sorry for the tuition and knew that the money was hard to come by. I have been a sensible child from my relatives since I was a child. This comes from the education of the school and parents.
This morning I saw a circle of friends. This friend may have a bad marriage. He has a daughter who is taking care of him. His personal financial situation is not very good. Most of them are the parents who are helping him. Maybe it is because of the unhappy marriage that he loves his daughter extraordinarily. He may feel that he owes a lot of his daughter
He has a salary of less than 2,000 yuan a month, but seeing how he receives his daughter’s food, clothing, and plays every day, I feel that all his salary is not enough for him to pay for his daughter. He feels that he owes his daughter and wants to give all his love to his daughter, and even those who are beyond his ability can also try to force him to the daughter so that the child cannot suffer. I can understand the love of a single father for his daughter
, but I was thinking: Why can't children endure hardships? Sometimes, if you give too much of this kind of love, it is not good. Just like adding too much sugar will make it bitter. In this environment, children will lack the ability to perceive their parents. If there is a slightest one that cannot be satisfied, the child will yell and roll around the ground. The fight against Mi En is also applicable here.
It is not that the child is ignorant, it is not that the child is inconsiderate to his parents. It is the environmental education you gave him since childhood, and he has no chance to understand and perceive the hardships of his parents. The son does not teach, the father's fault is right. Now it should be said that the son does not teach, the parents' fault
Regarding whether to raise children in poverty or raise children with wealth, I think if you have money, you will be rich, and if you don't have money, you will be poor. Children should be matched with your life. Even though the family has no money, you will be rich and you will be rich. It is equivalent to letting people from the well underground reach the edge of the well. He sees the outside world, but his family can only let him reach the edge of the well and stick out his head to see it. This is more than letting him in the well. It's even more uncomfortable
When I was a child, my school expenses accounted for a large part of my family's income. My parents thought I could do my best to send me to the school they thought was the best, but in fact I was not happy in that environment because the school environment was not matched by my family
When my father was the most glorious in the first grade, he used more than 3,000 mobile phones, and my classmate used three or four thousand mobile phones in the second grade. When I eat a KFC meal, my classmate's shoes are one or two thousand. . Mismatch, Mismatch.The growth I got in this environment is more about comparison. Vanity
Once my shoes broke. My father bought me a pair of star-like cloth shoes and rented them to school. The cloth shoes were more than 100, and they took a taxi of 60 yuan. He might not make a profit in a day, but I felt that the shoes were embarrassing that day and couldn't compare with my classmates. I don't want them. My father chased me and played all over the playground. . . At that time, the overall environment of the school was to compare
. Nowadays, many families have no money, but they think that their daughter must be raised with wealth, and spent most of the money on food and drink for their daughters, satisfying their daughters as much as possible, thinking that this is raised with wealth. . . In fact, have you ever thought that it is this kind of "rich support" that pushes her to the extreme. If you try your best, you can only satisfy her food and drink. If you can't keep up with other rich support, you can only make her vanity and comparison since childhood.
If you really have money, that's fine. There is no need to grit your teeth without money and let your children enjoy better things. It’s really no need. It is not a bad thing for children to live the same life as you.
It is the fault of parents if they don’t blame their children. Let your children live within your ability, let them see their parents’ hard work and their sweat. There is no need to hide it from the child. You must also meet the needs of your child if you work a few jobs behind your back.
Adding too much sugar is really bitter. Give your child the love that is within his ability, and both parties will be comfortable, otherwise you will be tired and your child will be tired of competing with
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