In daily life, you often encounter children making mistakes. So what should parents do at this time? Today, I will explain to you the "seven no responsibility" of parenting from the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine.
1 "Seven No Responsibility" for Parenting comes from the "Groaning Words" by the Ming Dynasty thinker Lu Kun: " has had a humble life, be careful of the reason why he is responsible for giving up. He does not blame others, does not blame his guilt, does not blame his guilt, does not blame his food at night, does not blame his food, does not blame his celebrity, does not blame his sorrow and worries, and does not blame his illness. "The "Seven No Responsibility" is the wisdom of ancient Chinese parenting, which is also closely related to the theory of internal organs and emotions in traditional Chinese medicine.
Don’t blame others
Don’t blame children in public places. You should always maintain your self-esteem and give your children enough respect. Public blame will make children feel depressed, stagnant, and have low self-esteem. Public blaming will double this adverse effect, and even lead to autism, fear of people, and inability to communicate normally.
Traditional Chinese medicine believes that the liver likes smooth and hates depression. Children are like trees in spring. They must be comfortable and smooth to grow into towering trees. If you are criticized, insulted, discriminated in public, have long-term mental stress, and have excessive psychological pressure, liver qi is stagnant, and the ascension disorder will affect your body's growth and development. Modern medicine believes that long-term psychological pressure may cause growth hormone to secrete too little, affecting height development, and even suffering from a disease called "mental deprivation shortness".
liver is responsible for venting and storing blood, which is related to human emotional activities and promotes the body's digestion and the normal operation of qi, blood and water. If the liver qi is stagnant for a long time, it will be difficult for the child to improve his mind. Some children of seven or eight years old suffer from migraine . After asking, they found that it was caused by excessive stress. The stagnation of liver qi will also overcome the spleen and earth, affecting the spleen and stomach to absorb the essence of water and grain.
As parents and teachers, you must take care of your children's emotions, educate them to explain methods, and try to avoid public punishment. The saying "He is good at court and goes too far as the dark room" is worth learning from.
Shame and regret not blame
When the child has felt ashamed and regretted for his mistakes, don't continue to blame. Since the child has realized his mistake, if parents continue to blame and criticize, it will make the child too ashamed and think too much, thus causing the "acquired root" spleen to be damaged.
" Huangdi Neijing " points out that "the spleen is in the will and thinking", and long-term thinking will hurt the spleen. The spleen is responsible for transportation and transformation, and is in the body and muscles, and is responsible for the limbs. If the spleen functions normally, the muscles will be strong and the limbs will be strong. On the contrary, the qi and blood biochemical process are passive, malnutrition, thin body, and in severe cases, the complexion will be sallow, loss of appetite, abdominal distension, loose stools, and fatigue.
Don't blame
Don't blame the child before going to bed at night. Traditional Chinese medicine believes that children's internal organs are delicate, timid and weak, and are easily frightened and confused.
The child scolds him at night, and goes to bed with a depressed mood. He is prone to distracted, tossing and turning, unable to sleep at night, or has nightmares, crying and frightening at night, and may even cause long-term stubborn insomnia .
Sleeping is crucial to the development of the child's brain. Long-term lack of sleep will cause distraction, memory loss, and affect intellectual development.
Not blame for the diet
Don't blame the child when eating. Traditional Chinese medicine believes that the spleen and stomach are the foundation of acquired nature. The stomach is responsible for receiving water and grain, entering the food, passing through the esophagus, accommodates and temporarily stored in the stomach. The ancients called the stomach "Taicang" and "the sea of water and grain".Blaming your child during meals can easily damage the function of the stomach, affecting the digestion and absorption of food, and causing symptoms such as bloating, poor sagging, stomach pain, swelling, and odor, which will also make the child feel disgusted with diet. If this continues, it will inevitably lead to malnutrition and delayed development.
is celebrating and not chasing
Traditional Chinese medicine believes that "the heart is in the will," and "happiness is slower." When the child is happy, the meridians in the whole body are in a state of unblocking. If he is suddenly blamed, it seems that a pot of cold water is suddenly poured on his body. It is easy for the meridians to stagnate, which will really hurt the child's "heart".
The mind hides the spirit, and the mind is the mind. The mind has normal physiological functions, is energetic, has clear consciousness, is quick to think and is sensitive to reactions. "Su Wen·Linglan Secret Book" says: "The heart is the official of the monarch, and the spirit comes out. ... The master is unclear, and the twelve officials will be in danger, which will cause the Tao to be blocked and blocked, and the body will be severely damaged." The injury to the heart meridian will cause palpitations, panic, timid and frightened, insomnia, and unstable.
is sad and not blamed
The child is already sad enough, and even scolding him is like sprinkling salt in the wound. Traditional Chinese medicine believes that the lungs are "sad in their will." If you are too sad, it can easily damage your lungs. "Su Wen·Ju Pain" says: "Sadness means anxiety, the lungs are spreading, the leaves are raised, but the upper burner is blocked, the prosperity and defense are not dispersed, and the heat is in the middle, so the qi is dissipated." Sadness means qi disappears, excessive sadness and sorrow can make people lack passion for life, lack fighting spirit, etc.
Long-term sadness will reduce immunity and resistance , making it easy to catch a cold repeatedly and cause complicated diseases. "Su Wen·Theory of Impotence" also says: "If the sorrow is too great, the corpus and the corpus and the corpus and the corpus and the corpus and the corpus and the corpus and the yang energy moves inward, and the heart will collapse and count blood." When children are sad, they should provide timely guidance and help the children get out of their sad mood as soon as possible. This is what parents should do.
Don't blame for the disease
When a child is sick, he is suffering from illness. No matter what the reason is, if he blames the child at this time, it is tantamount to injury. Spreading salt on the wound will greatly harm the child physically and mentally. Traditional Chinese medicine says, "Where evil is gathered, the qi will be weak." When a person is sick, his positive energy is weak and his resistance is poor. This is the time when the human body is most vulnerable. What he needs most is the care and care of his parents, and he should give his children more warmth and comfort.
The so-called "care for illness" not only needs to be taken care of by the body, but also needs to be in a happy mood so that you can be able to maintain your body and mind. Otherwise, it will not only make the child feel uncomfortable, but also cause the disease to be delayed and unhealthy. ■
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