Walking in the community, I saw my neighbor Xiaoying arguing with her mother-in-law from afar. When I got closer, I heard them say that Xiaoying knew that Xiaoying was complaining that her mother-in-law was running around in the community in open-crotch pants. After my mother-in-law took the child away, Xiaoying complained to me again, saying that she had told her mother-in-law many times, and put on diapers for the child and don’t wear crotch pants, but her mother-in-law just didn’t listen. So, she put on open crotch pants for the child while Xiaoying was not at home at work.
The question of whether children should wear diapers or crotch pants is a topic of common debate among the older generation and young people within the family, and it is also a reflection of the different parenting concepts in different eras.
If you often take your children to play with other parents who take care of their children in the community, it is not difficult to find that there are still a few children who play in open crotch pants, but most children wear diapers or pants that don’t have crotch pants, and children who wear open crotch pants are basically brought by the elderly.
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Why do the elderly keen on wearing open-crotch pants for their children
First of all, the era in which the elderly live determines the way they raised their children at that time. The social conditions and economic development level at that time were not even possible even if you wanted to use diapers for your children.
This is how the elderly used to take care of their children. In their words, this is how parents and mothers grew up. They think wearing this way is a natural process for children to grow up. There is nothing wrong with wearing this way. On the contrary, if they were asked to use diapers for their children, they felt that it was a waste of money.
Secondly, they feel uncomfortable and not breathable with diapers, and are afraid that their children will be panicked. Even when the children are still very young and are not yet at the time of practicing going to the toilet, they would rather use diapers for their children and wash them over and over again.
Xiaoying's mother-in-law is like this. When she was about to give birth, she greeted her mother-in-law in advance. The child came out to prepare diapers for the child, but she did not prepare to use urine mats and diapers. Using diapers is not only troublesome for adults, but also affects the child's sleep. Because the diapers must be changed in time as soon as they are soaked in urine. If they are not replaced, the wet diapers will touch the child's delicate skin, and the child will be more likely to have red butts and rashes. Once they change, they will have to toss and disturb the child's sleep.
But my mother-in-law didn't listen to her, so she carefully prepared various diapers and diaper mats by hand, and took them out and said to her that it would be soft, so it would be better to use diapers for her children, which are breathable and comfortable. She couldn't bear to refuse her mother-in-law's kindness anymore, and while taking care of her children, she let her mother-in-law use diapers for the children.
Later, the child was a little older, and the mother-in-law practiced to the child to urinate, saying that if this makes the child a habit, the child will have conditioned reflexes and will not heal and pull his pants.
The child is at the age of learning to walk, and the mother-in-law put on the child's crotch pants and asked the child to practice squatting down and peeing and pulling stinky. It is said that this is good to practice, and the child only needs to squat down and solve it independently when he wants to pee and pull.
includes taking children out for fun on weekdays, wearing open-crotch pants, squatting down and exposing their private parts to play with other children, or sitting on the ground while playing, which is very unhygienic.
While the child's growth, Xiaoying also expressed her opinion, wanting her mother-in-law to use diapers for the child, and even had several arguments. Later, her mother-in-law agreed on the surface, but when Xiaoying was not at home, she would still wear open-crotch pants for the child. In her heart, her mother-in-law still felt that it was better to wear open-crotch pants.
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. Wearing "diapers" and "open crotch pants" have different effects on children
In fact, with the progress and development of society and the deepening of scientific parenting concepts, there are fewer and fewer cases of wearing open crotch pants for children. Especially now that the Internet is relatively developed, no matter whether the elderly are literate or not, they will take a smartphone to watch the news and videos. As long as they are careful, they will pay attention to some parenting knowledge. In addition, the indoctrination of their children, many elderly people can keep pace with the times and keep up with the pace of young people.
First of all, hygiene issues. Children wearing open crotch pants are often exposed in their private parts, which cannot ensure that the child’s butt is hygienic.
Children love to play by nature, and they will not pay attention to hygiene anytime and anywhere like adults. They often sit wherever they play. This will be very unhygienic. As parents, we cannot always stop children, and we will not let them do this or that, which will affect our children's free play. Some children even saw wearing crotch-open-crowned pants to slide, which was dirty, and the friction between the butt and the slide could easily damage the skin.
Secondly, it is not conducive to toilet training. As some elderly people think, wearing open-crotch pants is good for children to defecate, and there is no need to take off their pants. It can be easily solved by squatting down by yourself. Adults don’t have to work hard. Children can also learn to defecate by themselves as soon as possible.
However, it is impossible for children to wear open-crotch pants all the time, so they don’t have to put on and take off their pants by themselves. After forming such a habit, what should I do if I go to kindergarten? I can’t wear open-crotch pants to kindergarten.
When the child wears pants that are not open, it is easy for the child to continue his previous habits and hesitate his pants. In this way, he still has to practice using the toilet again, which will delay the child's early toilet training.
When my child was over one year old, he was about to practice going to the toilet, the child's grandmother also wanted the child to wear crotch-open pants to practice, but I firmly disagree.
At the beginning, before the child learned to go to the toilet, he first practiced wearing diapers, took her off her diapers and sat on the toilet to pee, and then put on diapers to avoid the child's pants when he was urinating.
If it is summer, I am afraid that my children will be hot, so I don’t need to wear diapers. Wear small shorts. Even if the urine is wet, it will be easy to wash and dry. I bought more than ten pairs of shorts for my child at that time, so I didn't worry about wetness and changed my clothes.
At the beginning, there must be times when I pee my pants, but it didn’t take long. When the child was tempted to pee, he told the adult to help her take off her pants.
Later, she taught her to take off her pants and lift her pants. Soon the child basically learned to go to the toilet by himself, and no adults need to intervene. In this way, when you go to kindergarten, your children can use the toilet skillfully, and parents don’t have to worry.
Finally, it is not conducive to the establishment of gender awareness and the cultivation of self-protection awareness. Everyone knows that the social environment is complex nowadays, negative news reports appear from time to time, and things that hurt children and even young children often happen, making us parents always full of anxiety and anxiety.
After the child grows up slowly but cannot tie the child around him at all times. It is urgent to teach children how to protect themselves. The establishment of children's gender awareness and the cultivation of self-protection awareness are very important. As children grow up, we need to teach them where they cannot see and where they cannot touch.
Wear open crotch pants, leaving the child’s private parts exposed, and even wearing open crotch pants when he is one or two or three years old. He has not developed such behavior for the child to see the private parts since he was a child. It is not easy for the child to develop this concept afterwards.
There is a little girl from a neighbor's house in my hometown. This is the case. Parents do not have this awareness, and naturally they will not notice the impact of this when raising children. I wore open-crotch pants for my children since I was over two years old. Later, when I got older, I mingled with the boys all day long, and even tore off my clothes and wrestled together. I had no concept of gender awareness at all.
Only by cultivating gender awareness for children from an early age, letting them learn to protect themselves, and when children leave our sight, we can go to kindergarten, elementary school or even society in the future, we can feel more at ease.
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What should parents do?
If there is any difference between family members or the elderly on the issue of wearing "crotch pants" and "diapers", you can sit down and communicate carefully and analyze the pros and cons, which can generally be understood.
Because everyone's purpose is for the good of their children, but because of different personal thoughts and ideas, everyone's methods are not completely consistent. If there is a conflict due to this, it will affect the unity and harmony of the family, and it will have a bad impact on the children.
For the healthy growth of children, after fully understanding the different effects of wearing "crotch pants" and "diapers" on their children, it is recommended that parents try not to wear crotch pants for their children.
Will you wear open-crotch pants for your children?
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