I want you to be a dignified person and don’t want you to be a filial child. But since you are here, I cannot help you and teach you. This is my obligation to humanity, not to treat you with kindness!

I want you to be a dignified person and don’t want you to be a filial child. If you have no intention of getting married, I will not be kind to you. But since you are here, I cannot help you and teach you. This is my obligation to humanity, not to treat you with kindness!

Lu Xun had a son when he was old and had a son who was only 48 years old.

Lu Xun didn't want children.

In Mr. Lu Xun's parenting diary, there is a passage like this: "I originally aimed at eliminating worries, but I occasionally missed my attention, so I had a baby..." "Those who ask for a child prayed day and night without any results, and those who don't want to be pregnant will get pregnant inadvertently. Is this the reason why this is so troubled?"

It was an accident that I was pregnant with a child. When I was named, I thought that I had lived in Shanghai for more than ten years and the child was born in Shanghai. " Haiying " means a baby in Shanghai. It is very simple, and it is not as serious and high hopes as many of us have when naming their children.

Why do parents say that they have no kindness to give birth to their children?

Thinking and doubting about the deeply rooted concept of "raising grace is greater than heaven". If it is not concealed or beautified, it is always naked and unpleasant.

First, it is a physiological need, then it is to meet the experience of being a parent in your life, and finally it is to raise a child to prevent old age. I have never considered the child from beginning to end. Do you want to come to this world, do you want to be a supporting role for your children in your life...

Reproduction is caused by their satisfaction of their desires, and raising them is responsible for their actions.

You don’t need to repay the kindness of giving birth, but you must repay the kindness of raising you.

Parents carefully raise you, and you will also repay them carefully. If parents just give you a bite to raise you as you grow up, then you will be able to achieve the lowest responsibility when they are old. People are independent individuals in the world, and unfortunate childhoods are often more painful than never before coming to this world.

Lu Xun's parenting concept

Lu Xun wrote in the book "How do we be fathers now":

The meaning of parents' existence is not to give children a comfortable and prosperous life, but when you think of your parents, your heart will be full of strength and feel warmth, and thus have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties.

The goodness of parents to their children in childhood is their warm "safe haven" when they become adults.

When a child does something wrong, we must be willing to listen to him; when a child is discouraged, we must be willing to accept him; when a child is disappointed, we must be willing to hold on to him.

Everything we do is to make you (my child) grow into a better self without any worries.

We should support our children. You are the manager of your own life. You have never been a follower of mine.

Give you money. It has never been to make you repay me. Be kind to you. It has never been to make you obey me.

raise you. It has never been to let you fulfill my unreached ideals...

Mr. Lu Xun has respect and understanding for children that ordinary people cannot have.

Really treat children as an independent and equal individual, which is the underlying logic of a good parent-child relationship.

A child who is truly respected, trusted and unconditional emotionally supports will have infinite power to move forward. Only by respecting the inner order of children can children develop their self-driven, self-select and self-management abilities.

Mr. Lu Xun died of illness when Haiying was 7 years old, but good early education laid a solid foundation for Haiying's life.

Haiying entered the Peking University radio major in 1952, and as a radio expert, he silently engaged in broadcast planning. Throughout his life, he endured the reputation of his father Lu Xun throughout his life, but he was gentle and humble, engaged in the work he loved, and lived a dull and perfect life.

In the education of children, we must respect children's ideas, empathize with them , understand their spiritual world, support their interests and hobbies, and at the same time, we must not spoil their children too much. We must have certain setbacks and educate them to cultivate children's reverse quotient from an early age.