When it comes to puberty children, the that we commonly think of in our minds is all naughty and rebellious boys , because in our impression, boys' adolescence is like a wild horse that has broken away from their reins, and their parents can't hold it at all.
Even the "terrible 14-year-old" point out that boys experience various restlessness during adolescence, such as skipping classes and fighting and swearing, smoking and drinking, skipping classes and falling in love, etc.
girls are different. Even when they reach adolescence, they are still well-behaved, cute, obedient and sensible, and they can't mess up so many chaos.
But, do you know? We are all wrong in thinking this way.
In fact, once adolescent girls become rebellious, they are even worse than boys!
My friend has been the junior high school class teacher for more than ten years. He told me that you can't imagine the rebellion of girls from junior high school students in . lies, bullies, fall in love, and even said that the number of girls who smoke in recent years has increased year by year.
Girls have more sensitive and richer emotions, and parents and teachers' preaching can easily add fuel to the fire. Therefore, rebellious girls in adolescence make them feel more headache and more scared. Because if you are not careful, girls often have more extreme behaviors, go to extremes, run away from home, fall in love online, and even get pregnant.
Why are adolescent girls more difficult to mess with?
In fact, psychologists have long pointed out that girls are not as easy to carry as everyone imagined.
Before the age of 10, the girl pointed out that it was far more than a boy and could reach 100+, but after the age of 10, the index would slide like a cliff. will not bottom until the bottom of the valley at the age of 18, and will rebound and return to normal at around 25 years old. Especially after entering puberty, many girls' parents will think that their daughter has completely changed from an angel to a little devil.
, and boys start to become "annoying" around the age of 6, but the rebellion of is relatively stable, and is often a kind of self-righteous "smell" even in adolescence. Why does
have such a big contrast? In addition to the reasons for girls’ own growth, the following two reasons should not be underestimated.
Parents are too spoiled
Over the years, there has been a very incorrect educational philosophy, which is to "raising daughters with wealth". In families with daughters, they want to hold their daughter in their palms. Parents blindly pamper the girl and respond to every request. They seem to care for their daughter in every way, but in fact, such raising will ruin their daughter.
After entering puberty, this kind of wealthy raising repels the child's personality into arrogance, unreasonableness, and a very big idea. He can't listen to his parents' words at all, and even becomes rude and often collides with his elders.
Parents ignore adolescence
girls are well-behaved and cute, plus the stereotype , we believe that puberty girls rarely have problems. Therefore, most girls’ parents do not care much about their daughter’s growth during adolescence.
In fact, puberty girls are much precocious than boys. When the boys are still playing war games in groups, the girls already have their favorite idols and favorites, and start to stay up late to read romance, and even have premature love.
Girls are actually more confused about life. Because they think earlier, if there is no suitable guide at this time, the girls can only find the answers by themselves, and it is easy to go the wrong way.
The obedient and cute girl has become their best disguise. It is easy for teachers and parents to ignore their rebellious side.
What should parents do for adolescent girls?
Adolescent children need the attention and guidance of their parents, but our educational directions should also be different for children of different genders.
Fathers should intervene more in the growth of girls.
After a girl enters puberty, the father must intervene in her daughter's growth.
First of all, the girl who is in love begins to become interested in the opposite sex. fathers talk to girls more about boys, tell their daughters about the angles and methods of boys looking at problems, and tell their daughters what to pay attention to and avoid when they get along with the boys. The more they understand, the easier it is to help their daughters avoid lightning in their emotions.
Secondly, adolescent girls are delicate and sensitive in their emotions. At this time, father needs to get along with her with more tolerant love and mind, so that she can feel more secure and more comfortable.
Improve girls’ thinking and cognitive
For girls’ growth, we often ignore their thinking and cognitive growth. So many girls grow up short-sighted, tend to be petty, have no career aspirations, and are prone to love brain .
How do you want to raise boys, you should raise girls!
Take girls to exercise more , strengthen her body, change her temperament, and cultivate her optimistic spirit, endurance and explosiveness.
Take girls to watch more documentaries and character interviews. documentaries are a window to the world. Character interviews can directly talk to wise people, and these two will greatly promote children's growth and cognition.
Take girls to read more history and read popular science books. Girls often like to read novels, and reading too many novels makes girls sentimental, have high emotional intelligence but narrow thinking and cognition. Especially adolescent girls are easily addicted to romance novel and become a love brain.
Taking children to read more books on philosophy and history can greatly enrich children's cognition and mind and expand their thinking depth.
Face girls' love for beauty and improve American business
Adolescent girls' desire to become beautiful has aggravated, which makes some parents feel alert. They think that their daughter is learning bad things, having her ears, having her hair loose, wearing short skirts, and dyeing her nails. She is just learning bad things and having an early love. I wish I could turn my daughter's hairstyle into a dog-chewing thing and let her go to school every day, so that I can feel at ease.
It is normal for girls to enter puberty to love beauty. At this time, appearance also has a great impact on girls' self-confidence.
So, we should be enlightened parents and take this opportunity to improve the girl's American business and taste and improve her appearance changes.
Smart parents, at this time, we should take the opportunity to help their daughter become beautiful and improve the girl's beauty business and taste. Never be led by Internet celebrities.
teaches daughters to pay attention to skin cleaning and care, and avoids the occurrence of problems such as acne, redness, and swelling;
takes the child to orthodontics if necessary to ensure that the daughter has a correct and healthy little white teeth;
allows the daughter to exercise, and makes the muscles strong and the figure becomes straight;
allows the daughter to pay attention to some tasteful fashion bloggers to improve the taste of her outfit;
can teach her daughters to put on makeup, but it must be clear and refreshing when she goes to school.
High American business and high taste brings a person not only changes in appearance, but also improves children's love and pursuit of life and work harder.
Therefore, it is not scary for adolescent girls to be stinking and beautiful. What is scary is the suppression of their parents, which makes girls' aesthetics go astray, their taste becomes low, and even their self-confidence is ruined.
The book "Daughter, you must understand things during adolescence" points out: "Problem girls are mostly puberty girls. But if they can provide some help and guidance for adolescent girls, they will grow up and mature quickly!"
Adolescent girls actually have higher requirements for their parents. Parents should give their daughter more care and guidance to help their children pass through rebellious adolescence smoothly.
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