Do you know how to ruin a child’s future?
That is
When the child cries, you scold;
When the child loses his temper, you yell;
When the child is frustrated, you say he doesn't work hard;
When the child causes "trouble", you are impatient;
He is timid and doesn't like to play with others, you keep scolding...
These low emotional intelligence signals of children are regarded as burdens by you.
In fact, high emotional intelligence is not a talent, but a skill that everyone can learn.
The author of the book "Emotional Intelligence Course, Only Parents Teach" and a famous education expert - Tang Wen, graduated from Tongji University from . He is a master's degree in education at Arizona State University in the United States and instructor for early childhood education. He has served as the principal of kindergarten, international school teacher, teaching and research director of Xiaobu at home early education, teacher development director and teaching support teacher. He has rich parenting experience and now focuses on in-depth research and practice of family education. He personally practiced children's emotional intelligence education and applied children's social and emotional courses to Chinese families. The "Teacher Tang Wen Talks Education" he created has been followed by many parents and solved parenting confusion for tens of thousands of Chinese families.
So, what advantages can high emotional intelligence bring to children?
1, laying the foundation for children's lifelong happiness.
People with "high emotional intelligence" generally have good popularity and are more likely to achieve higher achievements. 2.0 to 12 years old is a critical period for nurturing high emotional intelligence. Human babies are not ignorant little cubs. Babies are able to recognize the vast majority of human emotions before they are 2 years old. Seizing the critical period of emotional intelligence development can cultivate children's lifelong advantages.
2, know yourself:
helps children accurately understand themselves, I am valuable, I can do it, I can achieve goals and know how to achieve goals, and I can understand emotions.
For children aged 0 to 6, parents should do: praise openly; give more opportunities to try; and help their children make progress.
For children aged 6 to 12, parents should do:
11 should accept their children’s negative feelings about themselves;
2 should guide their children to compare with others correctly (material comparison requires adults to demonstrate; comparison of scores, emphasize comparing themselves with themselves, and conducting test paper analysis).
3: Give your child a chance to correct his mistakes.
4: We must help children correctly attribution .
We can also summarize it through the "three praises" formula: praise attitude, praise hard work, praise progress, and praise the more specific you praise, the better.
3, manage yourself:
helps your child grow up for life, so that I can regulate my emotions, I am not afraid of setbacks, and I can control myself.
There are many ways to express and regulate emotions, such as: express emotions, draw feelings or write feelings; smell the fragrance of flowers, blow candles or take a deep breath; you can also use vent balls or find colors, find a quiet corner, and use comfort toys, etc.
4, motivate yourself:
improves your child's internal motivation, from what I want to do, I want to do better and better, and then to doing well, it makes sense to me.
First, parents should use more expectations and invitations, and fewer requirements and commands. We must return the control to our children and let the children make their own decisions. Before leaving them to the children to make decisions, parents can define the scope of choice and conditions.
Second, use the sentence pattern of "Do you choose A or B?" more often. In fact, A and B are what we want our children to do, but when the children choose by themselves, they will feel that this is their own decision and their own responsibility, and their children's initiative in doing things will increase.
is written at the end: Parents are always the first teacher of their children. It is not unreasonable for the elderly to say that "the older is at the age of three, and the older is at the age of seven". Many people say that "the father is like the son" is not a genetic issue, but a result of hearing from a young age. In the education of children before the age of twelve, parents are too important.
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