Many parents have a question, and they never take the initiative to ask their children some questions and are skeptical about their children's thoughts or behaviors. If we want to know the child’s psychology and his thoughts, we must first learn to listen.

should first admit that the child’s ideas are reasonable

I believe many parents will have such experiences. When facing their children, they are like blind people, and they cannot clearly understand their children’s ideas and practices. For example, sometimes in the mall, children say they want to buy a doll. Parents want to understand why their children need such toys, but they don’t know how to communicate with their children so that they can express their thoughts.

Many parents feel that they have no confidence to listen to their children’s ideas. In fact, parents do not need to use such ideas and behaviors to force their children. Just try to let their children know what they say will receive a response from their parents. Parents who are willing to listen to their children's ideas should first admit that their children's ideas are reasonable, and then communicate with their children. Only in this way will the children be willing to listen and communicate with you.

Parents need listening skills, pay attention to the tone of speaking

I have always believed that only when parents really listen to their children with their heart can they get what they want, and only after listening to their children seriously can they let their children get what they want.

Many parents actually have no way to really listen to their children’s ideas carefully and want to know that their children will come up with their own ideas. Therefore, when a child’s thoughts contradict the parents’ thoughts, he doesn’t know how to communicate with the child so that the child can express it better.

In fact, we have certain skills to listen to our children’s thoughts and let them express their ideas. When we communicate with our children, we hope to be able to let children express their thoughts through our efforts, so when we want to listen to children, we must pay attention to their tone.

Don't interrupt your child often when listening

We often interrupt the child when the child does something wrong. The child will make a mistake because he makes a mistake and is afraid that we will always interrupt him. In fact, this is a manifestation of unwilling to listen to the child's words.

If we interrupt him frequently, he will feel that his behavior is not respected, so at this time we should bring the child to a quiet environment to listen to the child’s speech. When a child says that he should be respected, we should respond positively and affirm what he said. When the child is respected and affirmed, he will be happy and feel that he has the opportunity to express his views and opinions.

Don’t always command your children in a command tone

Some parents always like to talk to their children in a command tone, especially when some parents have conflicts with their children. If you say to your child, "This is your own business, you have to deal with it yourself" or "solve your business by yourself. If you have any opinions, you can tell me", etc., it means you have mastered some of the child's views.

If you always use command tone when talking to your child, then they may have been controlled by your words and the child will have no objection. Therefore, when we talk to our children, we must control our speaking speed and tone, and speak according to the children's true wishes.

Parents should not always think that they are

The idea of children is not adopted, then it will make people feel that they have problems. If we keep imposing our ideas on our children, it will make the children feel that their parents know everything, so they will think that you are forcing them to do things they don’t want to do.

When we let our children do their own things, we should not have self-righteous thoughts, but listen to what the children are saying and make judgments after we think about it ourselves. When we listen to our children express their opinions, don’t immediately deny their ideas just because of what they say. When we listen carefully to our children’s words, we can help them solve problems based on what they say.

Reduce your feelings less when communicating with your children

Parents will always pass on their feelings to their children. This kind of transmission is actually a kind of compulsive expression. This expression often cannot bring any psychological benefits to the children, but will instead cause some negative psychological effects to the children.

For example, parents may think that we should not let our children quarrel with us because we are unhappy. In fact, if we always communicate with our children on this unhappy mood, the children will feel that we are always reasoning with him rather than the result he wants. Some parents are also angry about some things and will vent their anger on their children. Over time, the children will feel very wronged or sad, and are unwilling to express their true thoughts to their parents.