Speaking of a certain Red Book, the exquisite pig girls should be familiar with it. Various real-life grass notes have opened up a new world of shopping for girls. Later, more and more parents began to share their parenting stories on it, and gradually this place became a gatheri

Speaking of a certain Red Book, the exquisite pig girls should be familiar with it. Various real-life grass notes have opened up a new world of shopping for girls.

Later, more and more parents began to share their parenting stories on it, and gradually this place became a gathering place for "on-job training" for novice parents.

Most novice parents came here initially with the mentality of learning excellent parenting scriptures, but the reality is that these "parenting sermons" make people more and more doubtful about their life the more they read it.

1

A certain red book is a treasure land for parenting?

"A 6-year-old child is 140cm tall, and he shares his experience of growing taller!"

"My daughter has 2,000 literacy before school, how do I do it?"

"The child is three years old and nine months old, and I introduce myself in English..."

Recently, the identity of a "mother" without mothers was accurately grasped by a certain Hongshu, and I pushed various parenting posts to me. I believe that many mothers who like to read a certain red book like Wudian Mom will have similar experiences.

As a mother, it is really hard not to be moved when she sees such a post. She read, collect and forward it carefully and secretly made up her mind to follow the action and push the child hard behind her back.

However, in fact, only after you have personally verified these methods can you find out how outrageous you are being "CPU".

Take the height of the "chicken" baby for example. As a woman with a height of only 155cm, she always hopes that her daughter will grow taller than herself in the future.

So when I saw a post about a 6-year-old child being 140cm tall, I didn’t want to say that my mother was secretly happy, and I wanted to see what excellent experiences "other people’s mothers" have.

In fact, the so-called experience is nothing more than making efforts to pay attention to calcium supplementation, exercise in growth, and ensuring adequate sleep. In fact, these things are something that my mother has been insisting on, but her daughter's height development performance is still ordinary.

In the final analysis, these posts only show us results, but never told us the "advantages" we have.

Height is "7 points rely on inheritance, and 3 points rely on acquired efforts". If the height of parents is higher than the average, then the child does not need to make any efforts after the day, just to do basic things and can get a good height.

On the contrary, if both parents are only 160cm tall, no matter how hard they work the day after tomorrow, the probability of the child reaching 180cm tall is slim.

This is the difference between children, and on some platforms, some people with "ulterior motives" will use their parents' anxiety to amplify this difference and harvest traffic.

2

Experience can be learned from, but we cannot blindly follow

Parenting anxiety, which is something that most of our parents have. As long as you grasp this point, you will almost firmly grasp the life of your mothers.

In fact, they are probably the only one who knows the best how many chaos are hidden behind those so-called "cow kids". Even if you are well-behaved and hardworking as Huang Lei daughter "Huang Duoduo", there are countless moments behind you who don't want to practice the piano...

In this era when traffic is king, what you see may be just what others want you to see, and it does not necessarily mean "seeing is reality."

When sharing gradually becomes a business, packaging is the norm.

Of course, the parenting experience posts on a certain Red Book are not entirely the same. There are also many excellent parents sharing objective and sincere parenting experience and full of "dry information". We can learn from these excellent parenting experiences, but we cannot blindly copy them.

Every child is not different. What is suitable for other people’s children is not necessarily suitable for your children. The most important thing in raising children is to teach students according to their aptitude.

For example, if a timid child is forced to learn rock climbing , it will not only fail to achieve the purpose of exercise, but may instead make the child feel repulsive about exercise.

As parents, they go to work without any pre-job training. Anxiety and confusion are inevitable. It is understandable to find a reference for yourself on the road of parenting.

But the essence of education is to guide children to become better self, rather than copying an "excellent" work according to the template.

On the road of parenting, it is important to learn to learn from the scriptures, but finding the right style and rhythm of yourself and your children and finding a path that suits you is the secret to passing the level.