Because at that time, my ears were filled with negative news about having children: 1. The process of preparing for pregnancy is very long. You cannot eat this or do that during the whole process. You must control your diet and ensure sleep. Even when you have sex, you must look

Before getting married, I was very afraid of having a baby, and having a baby was a nightmare for me.

Because at that time, my ears were filled with negative news about having children:

1. The process of preparing for pregnancy is very long. You cannot eat this or do that during the whole process. You must control your diet and ensure sleep. Even when you have sex, you must look at the "altar calendar".

2. After pregnancy, it is difficult to walk, sit and lie down every day, and the body burden is very high. There are countless prenatal examinations and blood draws, and the arms are pricked. I can’t eat anything I want, and I finally ate it and vomited it out again. When morning sickness is over, you need to control oil and sugar. You have to think about the fetus whenever you eat, for fear of affecting the fetus.

3. During childbirth, it is also a big test for people. uterine contractions , the pain of opening the uterus, and the severe pain during childbirth all test a person's patience and physical strength. There are also accidents that may occur during childbirth, which are all daunting.

4. After giving birth, the baby was successfully given birth. However, various physical problems quickly arose: wound pain, physical weakness, anemia , rectus abdominal muscle separation, pelvic floor muscle damage, urinary leakage , incontinence, and even if you can't take the elevator, laugh, sneeze, yawn, and wear diapers every day to relieve embarrassment.

5. The baby's growth is always testing patience. The baby cannot sleep well when he gets up and eats milk at night, cannot sleep with the baby during the day, the baby is disobedient, gets sick, and cries. Every item tests the mother's patience, which almost every day will make the mother physically and mentally exhausted.

6. The baby takes up most of the mother's time every day. The world of two people in the past is gone forever. If you want to dance, travel, or drink, you must first think about the baby. Once you leave by yourself, no one will take care of the baby. There is no way, so I have to give up everything and be a good mother at home with my baby.

7. Family relationships are tense. When a mother-in-law takes care of the children, sometimes she will be unhappy; when a mother-in-law takes care of the children, sometimes she will be unhappy. Over time, conflicts will always arise between husband and wife, affecting their relationship.

8. The economic pressure is very high. In the past, I bought whatever I wanted and what I wanted to wear. After having a baby, it becomes: everything is given priority, eat what the baby has left, a lot of new clothes for the baby, and wear your old clothes for several years. I have to save some money for my children. It can be said that it is "savvy and exhausting".

From these reasons, the feeling that the baby gives me is actually an invisible shackle. As long as I am pregnant, everything is no longer my own. The love of my family is shared, the time is occupied by my baby, and the money is emptyed by my baby. Even my life is not my own. For the future of my child, for the baby to have good grades in school, have a good job in growing up, and can start a good family after marriage. I have to have a house, a car, and a savings. Don’t work hard like myself, so I have to save my life and work hard.

So before getting married, I was really extremely resistant to having a baby, and I liked the simple world of two people even more.

But things often go against my expectations. The second year after marriage, I got pregnant.

From the moment I confirmed that I was pregnant, I abandoned all kinds of prejudice before marriage. At this moment, a little life is in my belly, making me feel the miracle and greatness of life. So I happily accepted this new member.

From then on, I began to sacrifice everything for my baby, even my life. I did everything I didn’t like to do or didn’t want to do in the past, for the sake of my baby.

I am fearless in the face of difficulties, pain, and hardships. Because I have a family who loves me, I am a mother, and I have my own children, I can be fearless in the face of these tests, and they are my strong backing. Even if my family leaves me, as long as I have children around me, I can find hope for life and live bravely.

With this belief in my life, I successfully spent the entire pregnancy, including during childbirth, and I didn’t feel that childbirth was as intimidating as it was in a TV series, and I still gave birth to my daughter very smoothly.

In a blink of an eye, the baby is already one year old. Although I am really tired every day, whenever I see the baby happy, naughty and naughty, I feel that the pain I suffered before is worth it. Although the baby is sometimes naughty, making people feel so angry that they want to "beat her", when they see her smiling face, their anger instantly flew out of the sky.

So in my opinion, giving birth sounds daunting, but only after you have experienced it can you truly feel the real feeling. Listening and following others will only become our obstacles and stop our progress. Only by facing it bravely and experiencing the fun can we find the true meaning of it.