This is the 309th study note: Opposition, criticism and praise have the same effect, and they all provide energy for children's behavior. He said that if someone comes to your house as a guest, as the host, you cannot watch the time or yawn in front of the guests, as this will su

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This is the 309th study notes: opposition, criticism and praise have the same effect, and they all provide energy for children's behavior.

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1, Detailed Education

My dad gave me an education on hospitality when I was a child, and I was deeply impressed by it.

He said that if someone comes to your home as a guest, as the host, you cannot watch the time or yawn in front of the guests, as this will have a hint of driving people away.

I became a teacher and often encountered students yawning in class.

I couldn't help saying to the students yesterday: "It's normal to yawn. Everyone is tired.

However, yawning without any concealment and loud noise in front of the teacher is disrespectful to the teacher, making others feel that you have no interest in this class."

The student suddenly realized that, and later, no one yawned so loudly.

So it’s not that the child is rude, but that no one tells him the truth. Adults should talk more about the detailed education of

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2, the game may be a spiritual refuge for children

Regarding the game, it involves relatively complex issues.

Game addicts are completely unable to be responsible for their lives and cannot do what they should do, such as taking college or using another way to support their family.

They are often over-attacked by their parents or schools in real life, so they regard the game as their spiritual refuge.

From this perspective, the game has the effect of saving children and preventing them from getting mentally ill.

This can also explain why children sometimes have to indulge in games.

They found it difficult to survive in real life, so they had to stay in the game.

We only see children addicted to games, but we do not see children in danger in real life.

- Excerpted from "The Secret Personality"

3, the motivation for children's behavior

We live in this world. If there is no response from others, the value of living seems to be gone, and we will "dead".

Lu Xun also said back then that It is exciting to do something that someone opposes, and some people praise it and will also push you to continue doing it, for fear of not responding.

Similarly, if a child does something, we will strengthen this focus.

On the other hand, needs to eliminate what you want to eliminate, just ignore .

— Zeng Qifeng

Teacher Zeng’s point of view is that if you don’t want your child to do something, ignore it, and don’t mention it, the child will slowly stop doing it;

and oppose and criticize play the same role as praise, and they all give the child the motivation to continue doing it.