It is actually normal to have these ideas. It is difficult to say who is right or wrong. After all, every child is the heart of his parents. As parents, we naturally want to give them all the best.

text/Xia Xiaoyou

For a long time, "how to protect children" has always been a controversial topic. Some people think that protecting children means ensuring their personal safety; some people think that protecting children means eliminating all difficulties for them; some people think that protecting children means protecting their curiosity.

It is actually normal to have these ideas. It is difficult to say who is right or wrong. After all, every child is the heart of his parents. As parents, we naturally want to give them all the best. But is the "best everything" that parents think is really what children need?

is not necessarily true.

Once in a variety show, I saw a mother who loved her children deeply:

because she was afraid that the child would be bumped, so she swept the furniture out. In the huge living room, she was not allowed to even have a dining table, and the family could only sit on the ground for eating;

took the child to the market and saw colorful fruits and vegetables. The child curiously wanted to touch it, because she felt that there were bacteria on the vegetables, so she immediately pulled the child away;

When she was at home, she would always pay attention to the child's movements. Once she found that the child was close to the door, she would shout: "No!" and then quickly ran over to stop the child.

Grown up under the protection of my mother in every detail. What happened to this child? As a result, the child is still wearing diapers when he reaches the entrance age, he can't go to the toilet by himself, nor wears pants, and eating by himself is also a problem. He has poor self-care ability so much that he is persuaded to leave by kindergarten.

In the opposite of this mother, in the growth fable written by Kamiye Jurdi to her daughter, in the picture book "The Flashing Journey", a father faced the child's unreasonable trouble and did not choose to compromise, but let her digest her emotions alone and deal with the confusion, depression and sorrow that must be followed by growth.

this thing is, girl Qiao's father and mother have been divorced for several years. Not long ago, my father remarried. The other party was an aunt with two daughters. Qiao didn't like her, and she didn't like the two sisters. She couldn't accept that her father got married to others, so she looked for trouble in various ways.

One day, Qiao got upset again. The sisters were no longer surprised. My father and aunt were used to it. Seeing that everyone was indifferent, Qiao ran away from home willfully. My father just told her not to go too far, to go home for a meal later, and then continue to be busy.

The angry Qiao walked alone. She felt extremely lonely, but soon, she met two elves in the woods and followed them into a fantasy world full of elves, talking animals and colorful ponies. Joe became friends with them.

Jo's new friends have recently encountered problems, their family was captured by Matu, the tyrant who ruled the Forest Kingdom, and many ponies were also arrested. It is not easy to rescue them, because the kingdom is heavily guarded, with many guards, and many traps are set up.

In order to help friends, Qiao joined the rescue army without hesitation and started a thrilling adventure. During the journey, Qiao encountered many difficulties, but with the joint efforts of his friends, he overcame them one by one, and also unlocked many life skills.

At the moment when the animals reunited with their families, especially when they saw the children snuggling in their parents' arms, Joe, as a bystander, seemed to be hit by something in her heart. She began to miss her family, her dad... and other family members crazy.

Qiao rushed back home all the way. When she pushed the door, her father, aunt and two sisters all greeted her with a smile. Behind her were steaming food and five pairs of neatly arranged bowls and chopsticks...

This experience will inevitably make Qiao remember it and make her understand that her family cares about herself, and she herself is also capable of overcoming difficulties and becoming a brave, independent and free girl!

If at the beginning, Dad had to compromise and persuade Qiao because he was afraid of danger, just to let her stay at home, would Qiao still have such experiences and gains? I'm afraid after tasting the sweetness, I will only show off my temperament again and again, making my father embarrassed and embarrass the whole family?

Sure enough, parents' appropriate care, help and protection for their children is beneficial to their children's growth, but if they are excessive, it will be detrimental to their children's growth, making them lose their desire for knowledge, adventurousness, and the ability to solve problems independently.

So, if you really love your children, you must learn to let go. On the premise of ensuring personal safety, let your children experience setbacks and challenges, so that they can gain "The Scarlet Journey" in adventures. I think this is exactly what the ancients said, "If parents love their children, they will have a far-reaching plan."