Recently, I read a news: A restaurant in Singapore charges a "noisy child surcharge" for parents. Simply put, if the child is too noisy and noisy when dining in a restaurant, the parents will have to pay an additional fee of S$10.

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Recently, I read a news: A restaurant in Singapore charges a "noisy child surcharge" for parents.

Simply put, if the child is too noisy and noisy when dining in a restaurant, the parents will have to pay an additional fee of S$10 (about 50 yuan).

As soon as the news came out, many netizens expressed their agreement:

"Support! If you can't control it, you must accept the penalty."

"Naked children do not care about loud noises and walk around, which is really disturbing the people. If you are fined, parents will pay attention to taking care of their children."

Indeed, in public places, naughty children's various rude and rude behaviors often bring great trouble to people.

There is a saying that goes: Education is a business card for children to carry for life.

An uneducated child will never be popular wherever he goes.

Uneducated children are all

I once saw a netizen's sharing online that during the epidemic, in the cinema, a man not only did not wear a mask in public places, but also spit on the ground twice!

When the staff came forward to "inviting" the man out, the mother next to him stood up and said not to educate her son or apologize, but to protect the child: "He is still a child, ignorant, don't bother with him."

Is a decades old or a child?

A mother's words made everyone in the audience dumbfounded: "He is only 30 years old, why isn't he a child?"

0 or a child? At the age of 30, I still have no cultivation!

can only be said that behind every annoying "naughty child", there is a parent who is blindly indulging indifferently.

So the man is 30 years old and doesn't understand what kind of upbringing is. He just feels comfortable and ignores others. He makes noise in the cinema, spits melon seeds all over the floor, kicks other people's seats...

I can't help but think of a 3-year-old boy in Huaiyin, Jinan. While playing in the amusement park, he saw many snack bags and paper scraps scattered on the ground, so he consciously picked up the garbage one by one and threw it into the trash can.

Travel after trip, the little boy didn't feel dirty or tired at all, but was filled with pride.

Netizens liked this little boy.

Although it is just a small act, what is reflected behind it is the cultivation and quality of the child.

Dad said: "We have trained children to eat from one and a half years old, and they should not throw them at the trash can. So now when he goes out, he will consciously pick them up and throw them into the trash can."

famous writer Gorky said: "Love your children, this is what a hen does, but educating children well is an art."

As a parent, "protecting your calf" is a human nature.

But a child’s growth not only requires love, but also rules and bottom lines to restrain children’s behavior and shape children’s character.

Parents' indulgence seems to protect the child, but in fact it is the most poisonous medicine to feed the child.

Missing upbringing will one day take revenge on the child

There is a question on the Internet: What uneducated naughty children have you met?

Netizen @Qianruo shared a true story.

There is a naughty child next door to her. He wakes up by himself at 5 o'clock every morning and wants to wake others up. Not only did they scream loudly, but they also made things buzzing, which kept agitating until the people in the corridor got up, and everyone complained, but parents of naughty children never cared about it.

Once, the poster walked the dog in the elevator. When the naughty child came in, he kicked her dog and spitted at her.The owner of the

was furious and slapped the naughty child twice on the spot and kicked the naughty child.

The naughty child's mother came to question: "Why do you bully my child? He is still ignorant, what are you calculating about?"

With the support of her mother, the naughty child became even more unscrupulous. Soon he beat and injured a girl in the class and was hospitalized. Not only did the bear parents not teach their children a lesson, they also refused to compensate them without compensation.

The girl's brother was so angry that he stopped and beat him on the way home, and beat him to a slight concussion, cracked ribs, broken nose and swollen face.

Finally, he was thrown into the trash can and covered the lid until he was discovered by the sanitation worker.

An uneducated child can indulge him, but others will not let him go, and society will not spoil him!

The lack of upbringing for children will one day take revenge on themselves in a more tragic way.

is like a naughty child in the news, pouring water on the piano keys of a relative. The child’s parents do not apologize, but say, “Help wash the piano with kindness.”

Relatives are not angry, so they praise the naughty child for doing a good job; the naughty child continues to work hard and "washed" an imported piano worth more than 600,000 yuan in the mall with Coke, and was claimed for a depreciation fee of 198,000 yuan.

is like a naughty child who steals takeout from his neighbor every day. The parents don’t care, but the neighbor ordered three perverted spicy egg tarts and directly brought the naughty child into the hospital.

What is the fastest way to destroy a child?

spoiled him, making him more and more lawless.

spoiled children like killing children. Parents are reluctant to educate their children, and society will teach you a hard lesson.

I am reluctant to let naughty children suffer early, and they often suffer even greater pain.

There are some truths. If parents don’t teach them, children will never learn

Not long ago, a mother’s roar became a hot search.

On a high-speed rail from Dalian to Beijing, a child was always noisy. A female passenger in the same car could not stand it, so she stepped forward to dissuade him.

Never expect that the child's mother did not discipline the child, but instead responded to the female passenger:

"He is only 3 years old, he doesn't understand the truth. If you have the ability, you can control him. I can't control him anyway!"

"Don't have children in your life, you will be taken to death by giving birth!"

html, but the rude language and bad behavior of parents are all giving the worst demonstration and influence to their children.

Many times, parents always think that children are ignorant and lively and naughty, and they should not care too much, just grow up.

is not the case.

In the field of education, 3-6 years old, it is usually called the "wet cement period". This is the period when children are most malleable and is also a critical period for character formation and habit formation.

7-12 years old is called the "corrosion cement period", that is, once the child's personality, habits, etc. are formed during this period, it will be difficult for the child to change it when he grows up.

years old, the child snatches other people's toys. You think it's normal play among children, and the child doesn't know what respect is to respect others.

years old, the child is making noise in the cinema. If you don’t stop it, the child will not know what it means to follow the rules.

7 years old, the child is throwing melon seeds on the subway. If you don’t teach me, the child will not know what civilization is.

9 years old, if the child beats others, you just keep protecting him, the child will not know what morality is and what the bottom line is.

Later, he is 11, 14, 18 years old... He is becoming more and more unscrupulous, ignores the rules, and challenges other people's bottom lines, just like a gambler wandering on the cliff, who may spend his life at any time.

There are some truths that children will never learn if their parents don’t teach them.If parents do not restrict some behaviors, children will get used to it.

As a parent, raising your child into a well-educated person is the greatest responsibility to him.

Parents' cultivation determines the upbringing of children

I like the psychologist This passage said by William James :

"Sow an action, harvest a habit; sow a habit, harvest a personality; sow a character, harvest a destiny."

The best love for parents for their children is not to protect, indulge, and spoil without principles, but to love their children with rules.

Cultivate a well-educated child, clarify the bottom line, appropriate punishment, and teaching by example are indispensable.

A father set a lot of rules for his son when he was still young:

When he goes out, he cannot litter anywhere;

Public places are not allowed to make noise;

Before talking to people, he should politely call the other party according to his age and identity;

If you accidentally disturb others, you must apologize in time and learn polite words;

You must abide by traffic rules, do not run red lights, and keep order.

…

At the beginning, although the son often forgot and sometimes violated the rules, the father always pointed it out gently and firmly and accompanied him to correct it.

Nowadays, a son who is less than 5 years old says hello when he sees people; when taking the elevator, he never presses the floor button randomly, and will wait for others to come in and out first; he will take the initiative to help the elderly get things and humbly give children younger than himself...

Kant said that law is the bottom line of moral standards. This bottom line is visible and tangible.

For children, parents set rules to clarify the bottom line for children.

, Yangzhou, Jiangsu Province, a boy sprinkled latex paint all over the streets.

When the mother found out, she took the boy to clean the streets and washed them until the early morning, for three days until the streets were cleaned.

Fudan University Professor Qian Wenzhong said: "After all, children are not adults, and children must be disciplined and punished."

Children are inevitably making mistakes. Appropriate punishment can help children respect the rules and be responsible for their own behavior.

There is a very popular photo on the Internet:

-year-old boy looked at the footprints on the side of the subway and asked his mother with a puzzled look on his face. The mother patiently explained: "These yellow footprints are used to queue up."

In order to give the child a better understanding, the mother, father and grandmother all followed the footprints and naturally stood in a straight formation.

This is teaching by example.

There is a saying that goes, it is better to be educated than to raise wealth.

Education is the cultivation rooted in the heart, the power of the soul, and the light that illuminates life.

If your child wants to be well-educated, parents must first be well-educated.

Parents have the cultivation rooted in their hearts and the awareness of advocating themselves to others. Only then can children find their parents' footprints and be a child with rules in their hearts and behaviors.

Finally, I quote a passage from People's Daily and encourage you with everyone:

"Love your son, teach it with righteousness." Parents love their sons, so they should teach them using the right way to be human.

Home Education The most important thing is moral education, how to be a human being. Parents should practice civilized education.

Only by cultivating morality can we cultivate people. Only by helping children fasten the button of virtue is the real "for the good of children".

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